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Extravagant Pack Lunches

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Diadrie · 02/09/2025 14:27

I am a TA in a primary school in the middle of a town, real mixed background from families who are mortgage free making well into 6 figures and families living in council homes, earning minimum wage.

As part of my job I supervise the infants half at lunchtime and I have seen the more absurd pack lunches recently from one child. It’s a bento box format, very normal fruit and veg, then greek yogurt and compote, a dip (guacamole/tzatziki/hummus). The main is really star of the show though with: salmon and cream cheese bagel, steak and onion focaccia sandwich, quiche Lorraine etc.

I’m now sat thinking what a totally over the top pack lunches recently for a 5 year old, admittedly the child does finish it, but salmon and steak in children’s pack lunches??

AIBU thinking this is totally over the top, extravagant and slightly absurd.

OP posts:
Shewasafaireh · 02/09/2025 15:08

What’s absurd is that kids have a little small packed lunch instead of a warm meal, really.

Asyoulikeit123 · 02/09/2025 15:08

Beats monster munch, processed cheese products and ham, a lot think that’s healthy and normal 🤦‍♀️

Catsandcannedbeans · 02/09/2025 15:08

DD6 would eat that (well pre vegetarian era). Right now she has school dinners though because she’s weirdly obsessed with them. DS4 would freak out if I ever deviated from his standard issue lunch (yes we are getting him tested 😂). When I was little I’d have loved that kind of packed lunch, but my mum made all of us the same - cheese and salad sando, jam sando (the pudding) and a fruit.

MargolyesofBeelzebub · 02/09/2025 15:08

In what world is quiche lorraine extravagent

rainbowunicorn · 02/09/2025 15:07

There is nothing absurd about any of the food you've listed. They are all readily available in any supermarket. You can buy smoked salmon for the same price as a packet of ham in tescos. Cream cheese is a normal everyday food. Foccacia is just a type of bread, again available everywhere and steak is just meat just as ham, chicken pork etc is just meat. Quiche is one of the most basic foods you can buy.
How strange that you think these foods are somehow really out there. They are all just food. Just because they are children dosent mean tbey should be fed plastic ham on white bread followed by a crap yogurt full of preservatives, fillers and sugar.

ranoutofquinoaandprosecco · 02/09/2025 15:07

better not see my daughters for tomorrow … left over sushi rice with smoked salmon and veg to make a sushi bowl for her lunch!

GreenTurtles3 · 02/09/2025 15:06

I agree that it's definitely not the norm but sounds lovely! My kids often request sushi which I'm sure gets some funny looks from their peers! Usually pasta salad, soup or a sandwich though!

JSMill · 02/09/2025 15:06

LilacRos · 02/09/2025 15:02

I've seen a lot of threads recently where an OP throws in an outrageous post and never comes back.

Yes. It’s getting annoying.

Watermelonhigh · 02/09/2025 15:06

what sort of leftovers do you put in a lunchbox? I sometimes use cooked chicken in a wrap, but need more ideas

Comedycook · 02/09/2025 15:05

Reminds me of the time a woman I know called me posh for having hummus for lunch...a tub of hummus and a packet of pittas would do me lunch for a week...and cost less than £2

SENMum1727 · 02/09/2025 15:04

If my child ate all that I would definitely pack it! And I wouldn’t ever change it so my child is used to eating a varied and healthy lunch. Kids lose interest and turn to bland foods so quickly, I’d encourage them as long as I possibly could. There’s nothing more depressing than a child who wants to subsist on brown foods and chips.

DinoLil · 02/09/2025 15:03

YABU for calling it a pack lunch. Its a PACKED lunch because it is packed! It has not arrived on a pack horse 😆

PetuniaPetuniaPetunia · 02/09/2025 15:03

I don’t see why this matters to you?

LilacRos · 02/09/2025 15:02

I've seen a lot of threads recently where an OP throws in an outrageous post and never comes back.

PurpleThistle7 · 02/09/2025 15:02

What an odd thing to worry about. Am guessing there are children on the exact opposite end of the spectrum who might need more of your worry.

Those lunches sound fab and I wish someone would pack them for me.

Comedycook · 02/09/2025 15:02

I buy the Sainsbury's basics smoked salmon...it's about £2.50 a packet...no more expensive than a pack of ham

PattySpringsteensHorse · 02/09/2025 15:01

They sound normal packed lunches to me. My DD had a friend at school and was always in awe of the bento boxes her little friend came in with, I could never understand what she was talking about until I went on a school trip. Her friends lunches were a work of art with little animals made out of rice and things, they were a thing of beauty. They put DD’s sandwiches to shame 🤣

LeopardPrintLipstick · 02/09/2025 15:01

Nowdontmakeamess · 02/09/2025 14:51

Why on earth wouldn’t the parents let them have a FSM instead??

It was a preschool lunch club so they were too young for FSM.

Reportingfromwherever · 02/09/2025 15:01

I send my child in with smoked salmon and cream cheese bagels. It never occurred to be that someone would be judging me negatively for this. How very odd you are OP.

femfemlicious · 02/09/2025 15:00

Sounds delicious 😋. Perfectly fine. Obviously child is used to food like that. I'm jealous

Topseyt123 · 02/09/2025 14:59

It's far bigger and more imaginative than I would have produced, but it does sound nice and it's pretty healthy too I guess.

If the child likes it and will eat it then no problem.

Perhaps it's just like that because it's the beginning of term and a new school year. It might settle down to a cheese sarnie and a packet of crisps soon, with juice or squash and an apple/grapes if lucky. That's when the parents have done a few dozen packed lunches and are becoming fed up with the job.

wintersgold · 02/09/2025 14:59

Those sound like very normal, nice meals. Good for them.

nomas · 02/09/2025 14:59

It sounds lovely. If the child eats that at home, why would they want tuna mayo or cheese and pickle in their school lunch bag.

Allbymyself123 · 02/09/2025 14:58

whats wrong with it? If the child eats it and is happy with their lunch thats a good thing. Mine aren’t quite that “extreme” but they take dips and yoghurt and they’ll take soups and pastas as well as pittas and wraps and they’ve even had foccaccia on occasion. They also like salmon and would eat it wirh cream cheese on a bagel in the house but i wouldn’t give for lunch due to potential smell. They’ll take quiche and savoury muffins or little pasty type things as well. They also like salad. I much prefer how they eat to how some kids they know eat e.g jam sandwich, a biscuit and a can of juice every day. Is that better in your opinion?

my kids arr good eaters thankfully and have good appetites and so we change the lunch up daily. If the child you mention eats like that normally why would their packed lunch be different?

JSMill · 02/09/2025 14:57

They sound like perfectly reasonable lunches. What on earth do you put in your dc’s lunchboxes if you think these lunches are absurd?

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