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DSD picking newborn up and putting him back in Moses basket

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Pinkpetal9999 · 02/09/2025 07:19

My DSD (12) was visiting, our newborn is 4 weeks old and still has a delicate neck. I am happy with DSD holding her brother as long as one of us has put him in a position that keeps his neck supported. She will hold him from time to time if we are in another room.

However to my horror the other day I saw her taking him out of his Moses basket and putting him back.

Am I being unreasonable in that I feel that’s a step too far?

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Sugargliderwombat · 03/09/2025 05:27

Hate these posts, why bloody ask just to argue with everyone?!

Birdsongsingingagainandagain · 03/09/2025 04:32

Pinkpetal9999 · 02/09/2025 07:30

Visiting, staying with us, it was a quick and to the point post. The living arrangements we have really make no difference to this post

You say that but it also reveals how you view her - as a visitor not as a family member.

Teach her how to pick him up and support his neck. There, easy.

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Pinkpetal9999 · 03/09/2025 04:23

@Blessthismess2 let’s all be honest. Quite a few words and phrases used to “point out” from a bunch of grown adults on this forum have been rude and offensive. There are simple ways to “point out” without being an arsehole

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Blessthismess2 · 03/09/2025 01:12

Didimum · 02/09/2025 19:23

It’s just casual language on an internet forum. Completely unnecessary for anyone to rip the shit out of anyone over it.

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By “rip the shit” do you mean point out that it’s inappropriate use of language?

Blessthismess2 · 03/09/2025 01:09

Petitchat · 02/09/2025 19:40

So, the DSD was there, being present with her family...

😁 😁 😁

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Why not just say “DSD picked baby up”? Why does she have to point out she’s not normally there at all? What relevance did it have to the OP? People are pointing out that the choice to include this information as if it were pertinent, and the particular words used to convey it, are suggestive of how OP sees SDC in relation to her family. That’s all.

Petitchat · 02/09/2025 22:55

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:43

No it's not. The eye roll was for the ridiculous advice. Did I ask you to help me? I can help you to eye roll if you want though, even though you're the most sanctimoniously passive aggressive whinger I've seen on here for a while. I did actually wonder if you were the OP setting up a second profile just to have someone on side.

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Is this a teenage Forum?

Falseknock · 02/09/2025 21:46

Mumsnet is full of drama and hand bags. This thread will be forgotten about tomorrow. Op doesn't need to justify or explain herself she received good advice. I don't see women out on the street tooing and froing like this. You'd expect this behaviour from teenage girls. I think people come here for a good argument to let of some steam. It's very hard to take this forum seriously.

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 21:07

Didimum · 02/09/2025 21:06

Indeed. This thread is full of hateful comments.

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Agree.

Didimum · 02/09/2025 21:06

Rosscameasdoody · 02/09/2025 21:05

Agree,

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Indeed. This thread is full of hateful comments.

Rosscameasdoody · 02/09/2025 21:05

Didimum · 02/09/2025 19:49

Can you explain the drama? OP is concerned about both newborn and upsetting a sensitive 12yr old. The only people making this a drama are bullying posters.

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Agree,

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 21:05

Didimum · 02/09/2025 21:02

Cute.

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Thanks!

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Cute.

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 21:02

Didimum · 02/09/2025 21:01

Go for it. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

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😂

Didimum · 02/09/2025 21:01

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:57

She got advice, she hasn't liked it.

I can keep going every single time you answer me. I don't care what the OP/You are throwing in here. It's an open forum. I'm not attacking anyone, you are. And your mate.

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Go for it. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

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Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:57

Didimum · 02/09/2025 20:55

Is it lost on you that this post is asking for the advice? OP is not. OP has let you know it’s unhelpful. Accept that very simple thing.

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She got advice, she hasn't liked it.

I can keep going every single time you answer me. I don't care what the OP/You are throwing in here. It's an open forum. I'm not attacking anyone, you are. And your mate.

Didimum · 02/09/2025 20:56

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:55

Tag team strikes again. You do realise that if you don't respond I won't either. Still, play silly games win stupid prizes. And you're definitely showing you're game.

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It doesn’t bother me whatsoever whether you reply or not. Be more original.

Didimum · 02/09/2025 20:55

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:52

Here's another mother asking when she's allowed to let others feed her baby. It's just a made up rule.

Is it lost on you that this post is asking for the advice? OP is not. OP has let you know it’s unhelpful. Accept that very simple thing.

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:55

Didimum · 02/09/2025 20:53

Nope. Try again.

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Tag team strikes again. You do realise that if you don't respond I won't either. Still, play silly games win stupid prizes. And you're definitely showing you're game.

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Nope. Try again.

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Coconutter24 · 02/09/2025 20:52

JJMama · 02/09/2025 08:21

This. Mine are 19 months apart and we showed the one year old how to hold his newborn brother. Obv always supervised.

It comes across as though you’re not keen on DSD; she’s ‘visiting’ and hasn’t been shown how to hold her sibling. I bet it would be different if she was your daughter.

YABVVU

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Did either of you even read the Op, the child has held the baby lots of times and is supervised when doing so.

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:52

Here's another mother asking when she's allowed to let others feed her baby. It's just a made up rule.

DSD picking newborn up and putting him back in Moses basket
Didimum · 02/09/2025 20:51

Gruttenberg · 02/09/2025 20:43

No it's not. The eye roll was for the ridiculous advice. Did I ask you to help me? I can help you to eye roll if you want though, even though you're the most sanctimoniously passive aggressive whinger I've seen on here for a while. I did actually wonder if you were the OP setting up a second profile just to have someone on side.

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The OP has replied to you herself now, letting you know your ‘advice’ is entirely unwelcome.

Anyone with two brain cells to rub together would recognise your post as ill-meaning.

Post silly things, win silly prizes, I guess.

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