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To be shocked people are actually rear-facing their primary age kids

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EmsandPens · 02/09/2025 02:44

My DD is 4, 5 in December and we swapped her from rear facing to forward facing in January this year. She started primary school recently and I noticed one of her classmates is still rear facing. I know the family from around town but had never seen them putting their kids in the car before and I know this child is already 5 and has pretty long legs for her age.

I know on Mumsnet it’s quite common to hear people saying rear facing until 6/7 is best but I had never actually seen anyone around here doing it.

AIBU to be shocked people actually rear face their primary age children?
Did you rear face your child past 4?

OP posts:
ReplacementBusService · 02/09/2025 05:27

There's a lot of shocking things in this world. Probably best to try n relax some of the shock on this one.

UpUpAwayz · 02/09/2025 05:25

backandforthup · 02/09/2025 05:22

Surely rear facing seats are for babies? Not for age 5. That sounds so uncomfortable and squashed in

Edited

If you think rear facing is just for babies then you have a lot of reading to do.

backandforthup · 02/09/2025 05:22

Surely rear facing seats are for babies? Not for age 5. That sounds so uncomfortable and squashed in

Jasmine222 · 02/09/2025 04:57

My kids felt so carsick that I had to forward face them much earlier than I'd have liked to. I'm surprised so many people's kids don't get carsick. I cant even sit rear facing on a train without feeling sick.

Turnups · 02/09/2025 04:54

Why is it shocking? Research shows backward-facing is safer. My youngest moved to forward-facing last month. He’s a small 7.

Ballardz · 02/09/2025 04:42

DC is about to start school and we’ve just bought an extended rear facing seat. Until we can’t rear face for sny reason, we play to do it until the kids outgrow their seats.

It’s really not that shocking…

Chick981 · 02/09/2025 04:36

Not sure what starting school has to do with someone’s safety in a car??

MikeRafone · 02/09/2025 04:27

Shocked that someone follows safety guidance? Really

Surely it would be shocking you’re not still placing your child rear facing?

Happyhappyday · 02/09/2025 04:25

My DC also preferred rear facing. She actually whined so much at my parents (age 4) that she convinced them to pull off the motorway on a long journey and turn her back around. They were convinced we were being ridiculous to keep her rear facing until then. Now she is forward facing in a booster (age 7) and kicks the passenger seat constantly because her legs dangle…

pepperminticecream · 02/09/2025 03:46

Everyone has already said it: It is safer if your kids are still under the weight or height limit and not shocking that the parents were putting the safety of their child first.

AnimalFarm567 · 02/09/2025 03:43

What exactly do you find "shocking"? What is it that you disapprove of?

IKnowExactly · 02/09/2025 03:42

My kids both found it uncomfortable when they forward faced and had their legs dangling down.

They loved rear facing. There was room for their legs and they had a better view out of the car windows.

We were in a car accident where a car hit us at five from behind. We had whiplash but the kids were absolutely fine which I put down to them being rear facing.

IKnowExactly · 02/09/2025 03:39

Yes, I did. This was over 10 years ago.

One child outgrew it on weight at aged 5, the other was 7.

Squishymallows · 02/09/2025 03:18

More likely shocks me that some people forward face tbeir kids when they outgrow their infant carrier aged 1

Bobbie12345678 · 02/09/2025 03:10

Shocked seems a strange word to use. Surprised, maybe.
The evidence says rear facing is safest in an accident at all ages. If we were being smart, adults other than the driver would be rear facing too.
When my kids were small it wasn’t an option, but if I had young children now I would keep them rear facing as long as possible.

ItsAMoooPoint · 02/09/2025 02:56

My kids rear-faced until they outgrew their extended rear-facing seats, which were at 4 and 5 respectively. My kids are incredibly big (one is above the top centile, the other the 91st), so they outgrew their seats earlier than I would have liked. My youngest is about to turn 6 and he moaned just yesterday that he misses his rear-facing seat as it was so much more comfortable instead of having his legs dangling the way they are now.

It's really not a big deal, not sure why you are so shocked by it?