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Do 'blood relatives' Trump all when it comes to wills?

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Inbetweenie993 · 01/09/2025 22:42

High class problem, but would really appreciate some different views.
I have inherited about £250k
I will either use it to buy somewhere (currently in rented) or sit on it and enjoy the interest, hoping I have enough to have a good care home when push comes to shove. No-one will be around to look after me. On my own there.
Thinking about my will

Siblings all older, and don't need the money and I should outlive them. 5 neices & nephews. 2 haven't seen or spoken to for around 10 years. 3 others are currently in my will. None of them bother with me, and to be honest, I don't really like them!

WWYD? Have pets I would want looking after. Live in a lovely place with fabulous neighbours. Very involved in community & village Hall.
Thinking sod convention! If there's anything left from my care when I'm old, leave it all to the community in some way, and hope for a memorial bench!

WWYD? AIBU?

YABU - Leave anything left to family

YANBU - Leave it to the community that helps you?

OP posts:
LemondrizzleShark · 01/09/2025 23:23

Listinggracefully · 01/09/2025 23:15

Personally I don’t think you have a responsibility to leave it to family. I have aunts and uncles that I haven’t seen in years (no falling out, we’re just not a close family), and it hasn’t occurred to me that I might be left anything in their wills.

Same - I’d be genuinely surprised (and feel a little guilty) if my or DH’s aunts or uncles left either of us anything. If OP’s nieces and nephews aren’t close, it would be supremely grabby of them to expect anything.

Give it to your friends or the community OP!

Original poster
Inbetweenie993 · 01/09/2025 23:19

The 3 i don't like are in my will because they are blood relatives.

The money was left to me by another (childless) sibling of mine. They didn't bother to keep in touch with them either.....

OP posts:
titchy · 01/09/2025 23:15

Community! But aim to spend the lot on what makes you happy, and if anything left maybe leave a large proportion to charity/community and a token amount for each niece/nephew.

Listinggracefully · 01/09/2025 23:15

Personally I don’t think you have a responsibility to leave it to family. I have aunts and uncles that I haven’t seen in years (no falling out, we’re just not a close family), and it hasn’t occurred to me that I might be left anything in their wills.

Itstheshowgirl · 01/09/2025 23:11

Why are there three people that you don’t like in your will anyway? If they don’t bother with you then they obviously don’t like you either plus sounds like their parents are well off so they won’t be arsed whether you leave them anything or not.

Spend as much as you can, enjoy the money and then anything that’s left leave to the community or whoever else takes your fancy.

PeonyBulb · 01/09/2025 23:06

Who left you the money @Inbetweenie993

I’d just leave it to the 3 that are already in your will

They’ll be grateful to have a helping hand in life

Mother0fTheBride · 01/09/2025 22:49

Definitely not family. Not deserved !!

Noshadowsinthedark · 01/09/2025 22:46

It’s your money to leave however you want.

Leaving it to the community sounds lovely.

JohnLapsleyParlabane · 01/09/2025 22:44

Community, all the way, given your situation