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Do I collect the kids, from ex house when he collect after school

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ForLoudUmberScroller · 01/09/2025 18:03

want to hear some opinions, I’ve always collected my children from ex house after he’s had them for a few hours after school 3 times a week. We use to co parent great , but now it’s down to minimal communication. I put this down to the new gf as only started since they’ve been together. So after years of collecting them after he’s given them tea, I’ve now said I will not be collecting them, he can bring them to my home (5-10 min walk ) he said he cannot commit to that! What do I do? I have to stop my day to collect them am I being selfish?

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Bluevelvetsofa · 01/09/2025 18:24

Well, if both of you dig your heels in, what will happen? Will he refuse to have the children at all? In which case, they miss out because they aren’t seeing their father and you miss your ‘me’ time because they aren’t seeing him.

ForLoudUmberScroller · 01/09/2025 18:24

CagneyNYPD1 · 01/09/2025 18:06

How old are the children?
is it possible to meet halfway?
When you say “stop my day” do you mean stop working to collect them?

Between 8-14 , 4 all together 2 with additional needs. Normally rushing home from work or getting shopping , housework things that are easier to be done with no kids

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Endofyear · 01/09/2025 18:22

Has you wanting to change the arrangement got anything to do with the fact that he has a new girlfriend OP?

ForLoudUmberScroller · 01/09/2025 18:20

I wasn’t happy doing it before, but I did to help him out. He has the kids under 10 hours a week . No over night stays no maintenance . I feel he should give a little .

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ForLoudUmberScroller · 01/09/2025 18:10

I feel it wasn’t working, I have the kids with very little time to myself . I have never liked stopping everything to pick them up. I did it to help him out . However the situation has changed and I feel I shouldn’t have to

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HappyToSmile · 01/09/2025 18:10

Going to ask what everyone else is..... why the sudden change if you were happy doing it before?

NestEmptying · 01/09/2025 18:07

Why do you need to change?
Have you got a new job?
Or are you just being awkward because he has a new GF?

CagneyNYPD1 · 01/09/2025 18:07

Oh and yes, why the change?

CagneyNYPD1 · 01/09/2025 18:06

How old are the children?
is it possible to meet halfway?
When you say “stop my day” do you mean stop working to collect them?

jeaux90 · 01/09/2025 18:05

Why have you changed the plan if it was working?