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Original poster

To think that people are very harsh on here.

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Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 15:50

I'm quite new on here but have been on forums for years and owned several. I miss forums, so thought I'd give this one a try. I am truly shocked at how some posters on here speak to people who are clearly upset with various issues. AIBU?

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5128gap · 01/09/2025 16:10

In the time it took to create yet another thread about how nasty the forum is, you could have been working away on the threads where you spotted the nastiness. You could have stuck up for the OP, disagreed with the harsh posters, given advice of your own and generally done your bit to help the OPs you felt sorry for and make the forum a more supportive place. Did you do that? Or did you just jump straight to spreading a little more negativity?

Katherine9 · 01/09/2025 16:09

menopausalfart · 01/09/2025 16:06

It's anonymous, so people show their true colours without repercussion.

And on this basis, I've started understanding how people can be incredibly mean and selfish in real life! It's just human nature.

Original poster
Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 16:07

StressedOot3 · 01/09/2025 16:03

You do know you don't need to reply, if you find it so boring?

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A concept lost on some people.

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Sux2buthen · 01/09/2025 16:07

MayIDestroyYou · 01/09/2025 15:58

It is quite boring though, to alight on a forum that’s new to you, and immediately reprimand everyone for not fitting in with your ideals.

No?

(I mean, we get this same thread every week.)

Edited

Then maybe that says something…..

menopausalfart · 01/09/2025 16:06

It's anonymous, so people show their true colours without repercussion.

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Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 16:06

MayIDestroyYou · 01/09/2025 15:58

It is quite boring though, to alight on a forum that’s new to you, and immediately reprimand everyone for not fitting in with your ideals.

No?

(I mean, we get this same thread every week.)

Edited

Thank you for proving my point.

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NotTerfNorCis · 01/09/2025 16:04

There is a minority of nasty people. Unfortunately their posts stand out because of the spite.

StressedOot3 · 01/09/2025 16:03

MayIDestroyYou · 01/09/2025 15:58

It is quite boring though, to alight on a forum that’s new to you, and immediately reprimand everyone for not fitting in with your ideals.

No?

(I mean, we get this same thread every week.)

Edited

You do know you don't need to reply, if you find it so boring?

whenimnotcleaningwindows · 01/09/2025 16:02

There's always a fair amount of trolls on here too - so sometimes regulars think "oh no, not another thread on 'women should have their tubes tied'" and assume the thread is goady.

Chompingatthebeat · 01/09/2025 15:59

Lots of kind responses too, maybe focus on the positives

MayIDestroyYou · 01/09/2025 15:58

It is quite boring though, to alight on a forum that’s new to you, and immediately reprimand everyone for not fitting in with your ideals.

No?

(I mean, we get this same thread every week.)

Original poster
Differentforgirls · 01/09/2025 15:55

Complet · 01/09/2025 15:53

I think people post in AIBU to get traffic so they want a wide range of opinions. I’m not sure you can expect everyone to agree with you and sometimes people need some harsh truths! If you look at other threads, they are very supportive and caring.

Harsh truths? Maybe, but there are ways of delivering them.

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Complet · 01/09/2025 15:53

I think people post in AIBU to get traffic so they want a wide range of opinions. I’m not sure you can expect everyone to agree with you and sometimes people need some harsh truths! If you look at other threads, they are very supportive and caring.

MidnightPatrol · 01/09/2025 15:52

Oh yes, you can post a thread on almost any topic and before long one or several posters will be along to tell what an awful person you are.