The man I’m dating doesn’t wash his hands after using the toilet

Definately doesn't just apply to men - my female colleagues don't either.

Urgghh, you have reminded me of someone I once dated. He went for a no2, definitely didn't wash his hands, still using his phone. Then he plunged him hand into a shared bag of crisps. I haven't dated since 😂😂

There's a whole book about that, I can't remember what it's called though. It changed maternal mortality overnight, doctors washing their hands.

Well he wouldn't be touching my vagina with those hands!

No. That's horrible and he wouldn't be touching me or my things ever again.

Apparently at work many men don't wash their hands but I've seen women not do it either. Even after a global pandemic!

I wash my hands each time and each time I come home. I'm convinced it keeps most things at bay.

Although judging from the lack of hand wash during the pandemic a lot of people didn't buy it before.

Revolting. And in a new relationship, too - definitely the thin end of the wedge. I couldn't get past that.

Bin him off, it's stomach churningly foul.

@michaelsnores

i got this off AI OP …..interesting

Men should wash their hands before sex to prevent the transfer of bacteria and other microorganisms, which can cause infections like urinary tract infections (UTIs), and to avoid irritating or causing allergic reactions in their partner's genitals. Washing hands also removes residual chemicals from lotions and promotes overall hygiene, contributing to a more comfortable and intimate experience for both partners.

Why it's important:

Prevents infections:
Hands can carry a significant number of bacteria from various surfaces and the body, which can be transferred to genitals during sexual activity, increasing the risk of infections for both partners.
Reduces irritation and allergies:
Residues from soaps, lotions, or other cosmetics on hands can contain fragrances or chemicals that might cause irritation, redness, or burning sensations in sensitive genital areas.
Minimizes the risk of UTIs:
Dirty hands can introduce bacteria into the urinary tract, raising the likelihood of developing a urinary tract infection.
Enhances intimacy:
Good hygiene practices foster comfort and cleanliness, which can improve the overall quality of the sexual experience and enhance intimacy.
Avoids cross-contamination:
Clean hands prevent the transfer of substances from other parts of the body or other surfaces that could be harmful to the genital area.
How to wash hands effectively:

Use soap and warm water.
Wash thoroughly, including under and around the fingernails.
Considerations:

If washing isn't an option, using latex or polyurethane gloves with lubricant can be a good alternative to protect against germ transfer.
If a partner is unwilling to wash their hands, it may be a good idea to hold off on sexual activity until you are both committed to safer sex practices.

The bar is so low it’s in hades

Disgusting but normal. So don’t expect to easily find a cleaner man if you dump him
at least he has agreed to do it in your home -/ when touching you

Absolutely not. Hideous.

Is he one of those men who gets their facts on Facebook and doesn't believe in conventional science?

I did wonder in covid times if the constant hand washing requirements were why some men decided to become anti-vaxxers. It's as though it's a personal affront for them to use personal hygiene in any way, let alone protecting OTHER PEOPLE!

Bye . . .

On a par with nose picking for me.
Bet he'd hand out pizza slices happily too.

Luckily my husband is very good with hamd hygiene.. I have emetophobia and germ issues so would be a total deal breaker for me. He constantly comments on men leaving public bathrooms and not washing their hands, even after doing a poo.. it's bad enough at home, but a public bathroom with God knows how many germs in it 🤮

Agree!

I work in construction, we have toilets in the upstairs cabins right next to the offices...I'd say out of the 10 men currently on site today, 2 have washed their hands before coming out. And yes, you can hear everything!

I voted YABU because you should have out an end to the relationship as soon as you realised he was a pig, amd especially when he objected to your reminder of civilised habits.

I imagine his own home would be a very interesting sight indeed if you were to walk around it with a black light.

He’s disgusting.

Deal breaker for me.

I was seeing someone and developed thrush a couple of days after sex. I just put it down to one of those things, bought some Canesten and told him to keep an eye on his bits.

It cleared up, we had sex again and the thrush came back. More Canesten and I asked him if he was sure he was ok and he was adamant he was fine.

When it cleared up, we had sex again and yep you guessed it, I got thrush. I said it must be coming from him but he was certain it wasn't as men don't get thrush. I told him they do. I showed him online and I even bought him a treatment from the chemist to try but he refused to use it as men can't get thrush.

We ended up having an argument as I said I wasn't having sex with him until he took the treatment and he refused to take it as men can't get thrush and said I was overreacting.

Dumped him and felt so sorry for the next unfortunate women he stuck his manky thrush riddled penis in.

I can't get my head round why he should think it's different for men. Surely they are actually handling their genitalia with their bare hands when they wee, whereas women aren't? That failure of logic alone would put me off him.

Wash your hands of him if it really gives you the ick :)

It's disgusting. Parents of young children should always teach them to wash their hands but surely at some point the boys are old enough to realise they should wash afterwards.
My SIL and BIL were very lax with their two boys about toilet manners, with the result that they didn't flush, wash hands and they invariably weed all over the back of the toilet and the floor. If they were at our house I used to say I hadn't heard the flush or the tap running and I hoped they didn't wee on the floor like last time. SIL used to look embarrassed but it didn't do any good!

Really? Doesn’t matter which it is, no. 1 or 2, wash hands or dump him. Throw this one back OP, will only get worse.