Mum is flying abroad before my due date

Your sister looks after your 3 yo?? If he's not used to staying with her you've got 6 weeks to build their relationship?

A 3 yr old can't dictate who looks after them. Get him to stay with your sister and get your husband to go to the hospital with you.

what does she has broken her promises to me ...yet again ! mean?
She is in an impossible situation and sounds like a good Granma to your other child unless there is some massive drip feed coming yabu.

sorry but YABU! Surely, you can understand that her trip can't be postponed?

I told her that without childcare my husband would have to be with my little one during labour

Sorry, but so what? He is the dad. It's pretty normal for subsequent children to not have the dad present at birth as they look after older siblings. You won't birth alone but have midwives with you (this is how I had DC2 for exactly this reason). It's not a big thing.

and why do you need your mum for a fortnight? This sort of level dependance (esp with a husband at the scene) is extremely unusual. There clearly is a backstory....

YABVU. You have your younger sister to support if your mum isn’t there. You may not get the perfect birth with your husband there and mum at home but life isn’t perfect.

The chances are she’ll be back in time but life really doesn’t revolve around you.

Get a doula OP.

I have been fortunate to work alongside some great doulas, and your hospital might even be able to point you to some if you call them and ask.

Your mum won't ever get this opportunity to say goodbye again, and your 3 year old will only have his dad come lift off time.

You don’t need someone ‘with experience’ with you, how selfish. Needing two weeks help is also embarrassing; how do you think everyone else manages?

Your 3yo has plenty of time to get used to more family members.

If she is dying then that is more important but I am interested to know how she is able to plan a trip so far in advanced for someone on their deathbed .

The staff at the hospital have experience. Or you could get a doula.

This.

I told her that without childcare my husband would have to be with my little one during labour and I’d have to take my younger sister with me to the hospital and told her that I would need someone with experience ... I told her to just book the tickets because it sounded as though she has already made up her mind. I am heartbroken that at my most vulnerable time she is going abroad

OP, can't you see have selfish this is? Why would you guilt trip your mother like this?

My mum booked a holiday for my due date. I gave birth alone while DH looked after our other kids. And I do mean alone. The ward was short staffed, I was completely alone. It was fine. I was told on this site that I was being outrageously selfish to be hurt that she hadn't thought about me, or cared about me, or whatever. But funny, she does lie about it now, and tell people my baby came early and she'd planned to be back on time to help out.

I can understand why you're scared - plans you've made for a scary time have fallen through - but try not to project onto your mum. She did want to help - just, her grandmother's death does have to take priority. Try to take comfort from the fact she wants to help, and will be around after the birth. I was alone with 2 young kids and a newborn within days when DH went back to work.

She's not exactly going on holiday. Please get a grip.

You are being incredibly unreasonable. She hasn't broken any promises, something expected has come up that rightfully is the priority right now.

All this fuss and your mum will likely be back in time anyway.

Dying grandmother takes priority here, sorry OP.

How self centered

Are you 18 and your younger siblings in their early teens?

Your sister will just be there as support, she's not going to deliver the baby herself FFS!

Or she's babysits and DH comes with

Get your 3 year old used to being with other people. You have time

Get your son ready to be happy with others. Start talking to him about it now. Can your in-laws come to stay or one of your siblings could babysit. You have options.

Her mother is dying May woman have to do it alone. Men to off to war, can't get there in time. I'm sure mom would like to help but death is a pretty good reason for not being there

her mother is dying and you are upset she won't forgo seeing her mother one last time so your life doesn't get a bit more complicated? Wow.

You don’t need your mum for the two weeks after the birth. That’s the time for you and your husband and your 3 year old to bond as your own little family. Once your husband’s gone back to work, you may want her help but she’ll be back by then (though bear in mind, she might be grieving, so don’t take her for granted).

It’s the birth itself that’s the problem, isn’t it? Of course, you want your husband with you for that.

How old is your younger sister? Could she babysit just for the hours of the birth until your husband gets home? There’s time to get your daughter used to her babysitting. That could be a contingency plan in case you go into labour early.

You're being really selfish. Don't try and guilt trip your mum anymore. Tell her you will be fine and tell her you are sorry for what she is going through.

Her mum is on her death bed and you think childcare is her priority? Wow!
You need to make emergency provision. A neighbour, a school friend, a colleague , anyone. Your poor mum!

She’s seeing her dying relative

why can’t sister Aka Aunty stay with your son and dh go with you ?

how young is she ? Old old enough to be supportive to you in hosp so I would swap them over

equally he’s 3. A child. He doesn’t decide who he stays with when an event like this is happening

he refuses ?

he’s a kid.

you have 2mths for him to get used to other people looking after him

You’ve really lost sight of reality. Think about this post and how selfish you are.

Get a GRIP.

Your 3 year old will have to cope with his FATHER. You either go to the hospital alone or take your younger sister.

Your entitlement and selfishness is astounding, especially given the reason your Mum is travelling. Even without this reason, you chose to have another child, you deal with it!!!

I say this at 37+ weeks pregnant.