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To think to audition was a waste of time?

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Travelfairy · 31/08/2025 23:50

DD loves all things drama, attends 3 different stage schools/drama groups as well as doing ballet seperately. Went for an audition for Christmas panto last week, as we waited a mum in the queue told me how she had been involved with this panto for 28 years and that 'everyone there knows' her DD.
My DD did a brilliant audition, she didnt get the part. This other little girl did. I'm not saying she's not talented but aibu to think that this was probably decided before they even went in to audition? Just seems like a massive waste of time and that as with most other things its more about who you know! DD will be very disappointed in the morning, email just came through.

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DiscoBob · 01/09/2025 00:04

Why do you think she didn't get the part on merit? Lots of pushy stage mums probably say all sorts about how well known and successful their darling offspring is. Just ignore it.

If you want your daughter to have a stage career you're going to need a much thicker skin as rejection is par for the course.

Anonyone1 · 01/09/2025 00:01

That’s showbiz!

Dramatic · 01/09/2025 00:01

I think people would be surprised to learn how often these things go on. Yanbu, it probably was a done deal.

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Travelfairy · 31/08/2025 23:57

Yes, she could have been. But I have my doubts, i heard a bit of the audition. This is only her third audition. Last one went to the casting directors niece. Didn't hear about previous one. Just seems its a very clicky industry even at local level. She has more auditions in coming weeks.
She got a distinction in all her drama exams. She is definitely good (not just Mammy thinking shes good!) Its just disheartening that she gave it her all but maybe no matter what she had done it was all but promised to someone else
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CoastalCalm · 31/08/2025 23:53

The other child could actually have been the better option and nothing to do with who you know - sounds like you and your daughter need to get a thicker skin if going to more auditions