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To have drunk his cider?

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summertimesummershine · 31/08/2025 21:11

I was planning to have a couple of ciders tonight but forgot it was Sunday and the shop was closed so I looked in the fridge and saw a bunch of of ciders and I looked on top of the fridge and saw a crate of ciders.

Realising I would probably pay more at the coop I decided to drink 2 of the ciders in the fridge which could easily be replaced.
DH is now really angry at me for stealing the cider that he was not going to drink tonight anyway.
AIBU to think as a married couple I should not be accused of theft over this?
I have not even drank the second one as he moaned at me having seen I poured it so I have left it on the side and gone to bed.

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over50andfab · 31/08/2025 21:41

The way the post is written, it looks like you buy your alcohol separately. DH plans ahead, buys cider in advance, keeping some in the fridge for when he’d like some so it’s nice and cold. You leave it till last minute, decide you want some, the shop is either shut, or you don’t want to pay coop prices so you decide to help yourself to the cold ones in the fridge. You could have perhaps asked him first, and whether he was planning to drink them or not, not communicating or having form for doing this sounds like the issue.
Childish and wasteful to leave the 2nd one poured and go to bed.

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summertimesummershine · 31/08/2025 21:40

AbzMoz · 31/08/2025 21:37

What an absurd reaction. Why is the cider his by default? Or did he not want you to have a drink? I’d be somewhere between baffled and pissed off.

Because he bought it so it’s his. We share a bank account so if I want some I should buy my own.

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AbzMoz · 31/08/2025 21:37

What an absurd reaction. Why is the cider his by default? Or did he not want you to have a drink? I’d be somewhere between baffled and pissed off.

FlatErica · 31/08/2025 21:36

Sorry to be he one to break it to you, but your husband is a dickhead.

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summertimesummershine · 31/08/2025 21:31

He’s tipped it away now and come to bed accusing me of being ridiculous for going to bed and not drinking the drink after I poured it and he moaned at me. I just wanted to relax with a drink after a busy day but he took the shine off with his reaction.

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summertimesummershine · 31/08/2025 21:26

AbzMoz · 31/08/2025 21:23

Not excusing it but are they speciality ones? We have normal drinks but also eg craft beers we’ve picked up from specialist breweries or ciders from certain trips. These are quite obvious tho and we each would ask if we fancied one / wanted to share it.

There is still a communication /childish sulking problem.

It’s cans of fruit strongbow.

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AbzMoz · 31/08/2025 21:23

Not excusing it but are they speciality ones? We have normal drinks but also eg craft beers we’ve picked up from specialist breweries or ciders from certain trips. These are quite obvious tho and we each would ask if we fancied one / wanted to share it.

There is still a communication /childish sulking problem.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 31/08/2025 21:23

That sounds ridiculous of him. I can understand him being annoyed perhaps if you didn’t replace the cold ciders by putting two more from the crate into the fridge. But he shouldn’t be annoyed at you having any unless these ciders were special in some way.

Gc1992 · 31/08/2025 21:20

A bit mardy and immature especially if he still had ciders in the fridge for tonight. If you drank the only cold ones and didn’t replace them then I can understand him being a bit annoyed but nothing more than that. Definitely not accusing you of theft! Him being angry about a few drinks is a bit much.

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summertimesummershine · 31/08/2025 21:18

PlanetOtter · 31/08/2025 21:17

That’s a crazy set up. Do you have his n hers cornflakes / bread / chicken nuggets too?

No not at all, that’s why I was so surprised at his reaction after 15 years of marriage

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PlanetOtter · 31/08/2025 21:17

That’s a crazy set up. Do you have his n hers cornflakes / bread / chicken nuggets too?