To have drunk his cider?

Not necessarily… I had a ‘friend’ whose dh made the same remark about 6 chocolate biscuits being eaten from his packet.
it was said in a jokey way, but as kids her dh was quiet poor -,single parent family with lots of kids - so I think it’s a throw back to that.
@summertimesummershine
Did your dh and his family have little money as when he was growing up?
Had to make things last?

There will be more to this than you as a one-off drinking some cider and DH as a one-off being angry about it.

this is where id be not buying him nothing at all... no bread, no butter, nothing that comes out the shopping trip i did (on my own). You want washing tablets - better go buy them, i bought these... either that or look at his behaviour with alcohol, did he have such a visceral reaction because it was alcohol?

I dont think the having "his " cider is at all strange. I often buy things intended for me in the joint food shop, as does dh and we tell each other, and wouldn't eat/drink what the other had bought

Had there been no more cider , and he was planning on drinking them that night/before they could be replaced, I would understand his irritation

However, it sounds like he didn't want them all then and you could replace before he did so his reaction was uncalled for

I do think you were wasteful just leaving the cider and storming off to bed though. You had poured it so should have drank it. That was being petty

I’d pour every fucking can down the sink.

Dickhead.

Have you recently been to Snape Maltings and vetoed his purchase of an side table handcrafted by artisans in Jaipur? Is that why he is sulking?

Your husband is being massively unreasonable and selfish. Firstly, for reacting that way over a couple of cans of cider that you technically both paid for, and secondly, for buying Strongbow!

Well it depends if was the ops cider and he drank it she would be told about all the red flags and she needs to leave

She drinks his and 'what is his problem' isn't there another thread about a man eating a woman food?

Why is ok of for a woman to do it and not a man?

YANBU that is a complete and utter overreaction on his part it was a couple of cans of cider that can easily be replaced with the same money in the joint account that bought them in the first place.

Bizarre behaviour. Is he a dick in other ways?

That’s your issue and you need to give him the same treatment if only for a short burst so he can experience joe pathetic it is. I’m assuming you’re the one who does the main shop every week so when he does buy something it’s so out of the realms of norm it must be treated as sacrosanct because he handed the shopkeeper his 50p (sarcasm intended).

This is what a child or young teenager would do.

What a pathetic arse.

Yanbu. What an awful person your husband is. I’m sorry for you op. It’s hard living with selfishness.

Go round the kitchen and write your name
on everything that you paid for or that is “yours”.

When he asks what you’re doing, tell him that’s what you assumed your new arrangements were.

My husband did exactly this to me earlier this year, so out of character for him. We’re separating now….

He's a dickhead. I'd be tempted to be petty and start claiming everything I've bought in the house is mine. Just following his lead, isn't it?

Your husband is a nobhead

but also (and I say this semi lightly heartedly because of the actual subject of the thread) cider is made of apples, all other fruit cider is an abomination

What kind of relationships do people have 🤣🤣🤣🤣 it wouldn't even occur to be to ask if I could have one I'd just take it if there was a whole bunch in the fridge. Maybe different if it was the last one or something special. Honestly but a label maker and start putting your name on what is yours

He bought the ciders out of a joint account, there is a crate of cider left and he’s giving you a hard time because you drunk 2 and he’s wasn’t intending to drink them? That’s wired behaviour 🤷🏼‍♀️ Yoir husband is a knob!

Eugh my dad acted like this growing up. If we drank his juice or ate 'his' food he would strop with us all and it was such a crap atmosphere.
I literally could not get worked up about my DH eating or drinking something. I always have chocolate in because I crave it something shocking in the days before and on my period and it's the only thing that's really 'mine' but I'd still never be annoyed if he ate it. It's just chocolate. Not being safe to eat food/drink drinks in your own home is gross.

My partner once ate my last Easter Egg. But it was after Easter and I couldn't buy any more, so that was a bit different. I never got over it though.

This has got to be about more than just the cider. It sounds like you share bank accounts, food etc. (like a normal married couple) usually, so what has triggered such a weird and unpleasant reaction from your husband tonight?

No point pushing it tonight, at ten pm when you're both grumpy it will likely just turn into a fight - but perhaps explain tomorrow that you were really shocked by his reaction, and try to get him to explain what was behind it. Maybe there are other things you guys need to talk about and try and sort out, and cider-gate is just a symptom.

(Or he might just be a dickhead...)

You should have just said you would replace them, were the ones in the fridge a special type? It doesn't seem like you pinched his cold ones if he didn't even want one. Buy your own in future and don't let him have anything of yours, like a sweet or a bit of chocolate or a biscuit.

After 15 years!? Realistically, this is about £2 worth of drink - hardly even worth remarking on much less stropping about! Why spoil the evening?!

This is completely bizarre. If they were a special make, or a gift, or there was only one left, I could kind of understand his reaction a little more, but it would still be unreasonable to throw such a strop imo but an abundance of cheap cider and this is how he reacts over it?! He’s a twat.