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Does your adult child tell you when they are coming?

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aloob · 31/08/2025 20:35

I have a son who lives on the sane town and he pops in from time to time but never lets us know when he’s coming.
He popped in tonight and just used his key to let himself in and I was sitting in my nighty slightly uncomfortable.
I love to see him but is it unreasonable to ask him to let me know he’s coming or do families just expect to walk in and find you as you are?

OP posts:
Florally · 31/08/2025 20:39

That’s so crazy to me.

My parents are local and me and my siblings always just pop in, would be weird not to. They love the life that they regularly have a full house and I hope my kids feel the same when they move out.

I would say they will have someone randomly rock up probably every day. They say they would never move because they love it so much.

SomeLikeitSnot · 31/08/2025 20:36

YANBU but it’s probably habitual- it’s hard when your patients have always been ‘just mum and dad’ to realise they are adults with a right to privacy and you may just need to lay it out. You’re happy for him to come round (if you are!) but a quick text to check or phone call prior would be really appreciated!