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I’ve joined the “why are there dogs everywhere” Club

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BananaBum · 31/08/2025 18:51

I’ll start things off by saying I have a dog myself and normally scoff at all the people rolling their eyes over dogs in pubs and cafes. Can even forgive younger, less well behaved dogs because they have to learn and be exposed to different situations.

HOWEVER

Today I went to get in a lift in John Lewis with my DC and a woman with a pushchair and TWO massive labradors asked if I wouldn’t mind waiting because one of her dogs were nervous about being crowded.

Why are you in John Lewis then?
Is it really necessary for the dogs to come out with you?
Did they come in the car especially or do you live in town?
how does it all work logistically?

So many questions. And also just a bit annoyed I had to wait for the next lift

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YeOldeGreyhound · 04/09/2025 00:44

thebabayaga · 04/09/2025 00:42

So anyway, yep, things are returning to normal, businesses who joined in the fad are realising it's not a necessity or even wanted by most, and of course loads of businesses were always free of dogs and no downturn will be seen since the vast majority don't want people's dogs in every place humans are.

It's great we are already returning to normal and dogs are now being put back in their doggy place while the barking mad owners (a mouthy minority) are reigned in :) Hip hip hooray :)👏👏👏

What are you on about? All I have seen is more shops etc allowing dogs. The trend is not reversing at all.

thebabayaga · 04/09/2025 00:42

PlanetJanette · 03/09/2025 08:00

Nobody told me anything. It is self evident that most businesses will do what gets them the most revenue and profit.

Those that allow dogs have concluded that that means allowing dogs. I suspect because the way we shop has changed - fewer day or hours long shopping trips and more popping in to pick something up or try something on when it’s convenient.

So there’s nothing in this that is hearsay - it is a simple fact that if a business allows dogs it will be because they conclude that it is good for their bottom line to do so.

As you say plenty of businesses have taken the opposite decision so those who don’t like it can just go to those shops/bars/cafes. That’s how the market is supposed to work.

So anyway, yep, things are returning to normal, businesses who joined in the fad are realising it's not a necessity or even wanted by most, and of course loads of businesses were always free of dogs and no downturn will be seen since the vast majority don't want people's dogs in every place humans are.

It's great we are already returning to normal and dogs are now being put back in their doggy place while the barking mad owners (a mouthy minority) are reigned in :) Hip hip hooray :)👏👏👏

lemonraspberry · 03/09/2025 23:07

Newstartplease24 · 02/09/2025 19:54

I find it very irritating that when a badly trained dog bounds up to me and licks me or puts its paws on me and I remain neutral, I sometimes get abuse as if I have gone out of my way to insult a human. I don’t want the dog to touch me and I often put my hands out of reach and stay still, not offering encouraging body language to try to limit the encounter. When I do this people sometimes behave very angrily. They should be grateful it’s neutral rather than unfriendly: their dogs should be better trained. Imagine if a woman were out with her husband and he ran up to you and licked you and pawed you. If you didn’t pat him on the head she wouldn’t be going “for fucks sake he’s only being friendly you mardy bitch”.

I have had the same when a dog bounds up and jumps all over you. The owner thinks it funny. I have got to the point I just yell no (sometimes just a fuck off) very firmly a few times at the dog and a well time lift of the knee stops it actually jumping up and landing on you. Dogs usually gets the message and backs off.

A dogs manners are usually an accurate reflection of the owners, who I don't both talking as they are usually just a bit clueless.

PlanetJanette · 03/09/2025 08:00

thebabayaga · 03/09/2025 04:05

Nope, I was responding to your silly, fact free assertion based on "that guy down the pub told me" that being welcoming to humans and not dogs is not enough to make it commercially attractive to businesses though.

As you are aware, businesses will pander to what appears to be the latest fad in order to remain uncontroversial, and at the moment the barking mad seem to be in control - they're definitely not in the majority however and soon enough things will swing back to the absolutely normal way it always was - no dogs allowed in most places. It's already being seen regularly all over - people are sick of the dog mad silliness that was most probably engendered by lockdown.

When the pawsitively loony have to leave their dogs home again they'll get used to it again easily enough.

And in fact, many thousands of businesses have remained dog free, and, as can be seen by their continued success, that's no issue at all:)

Silly fads like this never last, the pushback has already started and it won't affect commercial businesses at all. We're already seeing the return to normality - which is great :)

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Nobody told me anything. It is self evident that most businesses will do what gets them the most revenue and profit.

Those that allow dogs have concluded that that means allowing dogs. I suspect because the way we shop has changed - fewer day or hours long shopping trips and more popping in to pick something up or try something on when it’s convenient.

So there’s nothing in this that is hearsay - it is a simple fact that if a business allows dogs it will be because they conclude that it is good for their bottom line to do so.

As you say plenty of businesses have taken the opposite decision so those who don’t like it can just go to those shops/bars/cafes. That’s how the market is supposed to work.

CoffeePlse · 03/09/2025 04:37

Yep, recent convert here. The thing that did it for me was a visit to Cotswold Wildlife Park (an actual zoo) where dogs were barking at the animals, each other, and a large bully type young dog lunging at things near little children. Absolutely disgusting that this is allowed.

thebabayaga · 03/09/2025 04:05

PlanetJanette · 03/09/2025 03:52

That’s the great thing about a market economy - we don’t need to pretend anything. Businesses can decide for themselves whether they allow dogs.

If you’re correct those that do will perform worse and will quickly change course, since the objective of any business is to make money.

But more likely, however, businesses that allow dogs recognise that it gains them more sales than it loses them which is why they made the decision in the first place,

Nope, I was responding to your silly, fact free assertion based on "that guy down the pub told me" that being welcoming to humans and not dogs is not enough to make it commercially attractive to businesses though.

As you are aware, businesses will pander to what appears to be the latest fad in order to remain uncontroversial, and at the moment the barking mad seem to be in control - they're definitely not in the majority however and soon enough things will swing back to the absolutely normal way it always was - no dogs allowed in most places. It's already being seen regularly all over - people are sick of the dog mad silliness that was most probably engendered by lockdown.

When the pawsitively loony have to leave their dogs home again they'll get used to it again easily enough.

And in fact, many thousands of businesses have remained dog free, and, as can be seen by their continued success, that's no issue at all:)

Silly fads like this never last, the pushback has already started and it won't affect commercial businesses at all. We're already seeing the return to normality - which is great :)

PlanetJanette · 03/09/2025 03:52

thebabayaga · 03/09/2025 02:24

Based on "someone said this to me" 😅

Let's just go back to the way things have been forever and a day and see how that works out. Or we can keep pretending people tolerating dogs in shops is actually improving sales with zero stats and no proof at all 😅

That’s the great thing about a market economy - we don’t need to pretend anything. Businesses can decide for themselves whether they allow dogs.

If you’re correct those that do will perform worse and will quickly change course, since the objective of any business is to make money.

But more likely, however, businesses that allow dogs recognise that it gains them more sales than it loses them which is why they made the decision in the first place,

thebabayaga · 03/09/2025 02:24

PlanetJanette · 03/09/2025 01:47

Not enough to make it an attractive commercial choice for many businesses though.

Based on "someone said this to me" 😅

Let's just go back to the way things have been forever and a day and see how that works out. Or we can keep pretending people tolerating dogs in shops is actually improving sales with zero stats and no proof at all 😅

PlanetJanette · 03/09/2025 01:47

OonaStubbs · 02/09/2025 19:33

I don't think banning dogs from being out in public is likely to happen, but banning them from eateries and shops has a lot of public support.

Not enough to make it an attractive commercial choice for many businesses though.

thebabayaga · 02/09/2025 23:37

Newstartplease24 · 02/09/2025 19:54

I find it very irritating that when a badly trained dog bounds up to me and licks me or puts its paws on me and I remain neutral, I sometimes get abuse as if I have gone out of my way to insult a human. I don’t want the dog to touch me and I often put my hands out of reach and stay still, not offering encouraging body language to try to limit the encounter. When I do this people sometimes behave very angrily. They should be grateful it’s neutral rather than unfriendly: their dogs should be better trained. Imagine if a woman were out with her husband and he ran up to you and licked you and pawed you. If you didn’t pat him on the head she wouldn’t be going “for fucks sake he’s only being friendly you mardy bitch”.

Unrelated, these days I carry deep heat spray around with me. I have a bad back.

YeOldeGreyhound · 02/09/2025 19:56

Newstartplease24 · 02/09/2025 19:54

I find it very irritating that when a badly trained dog bounds up to me and licks me or puts its paws on me and I remain neutral, I sometimes get abuse as if I have gone out of my way to insult a human. I don’t want the dog to touch me and I often put my hands out of reach and stay still, not offering encouraging body language to try to limit the encounter. When I do this people sometimes behave very angrily. They should be grateful it’s neutral rather than unfriendly: their dogs should be better trained. Imagine if a woman were out with her husband and he ran up to you and licked you and pawed you. If you didn’t pat him on the head she wouldn’t be going “for fucks sake he’s only being friendly you mardy bitch”.

I have had this happen to me, but it has always been with puppies. They are still learning, so I give them some leeway on that.

Daygloboo · 02/09/2025 19:56

Newstartplease24 · 02/09/2025 19:54

I find it very irritating that when a badly trained dog bounds up to me and licks me or puts its paws on me and I remain neutral, I sometimes get abuse as if I have gone out of my way to insult a human. I don’t want the dog to touch me and I often put my hands out of reach and stay still, not offering encouraging body language to try to limit the encounter. When I do this people sometimes behave very angrily. They should be grateful it’s neutral rather than unfriendly: their dogs should be better trained. Imagine if a woman were out with her husband and he ran up to you and licked you and pawed you. If you didn’t pat him on the head she wouldn’t be going “for fucks sake he’s only being friendly you mardy bitch”.

Ooo err

Newstartplease24 · 02/09/2025 19:54

I find it very irritating that when a badly trained dog bounds up to me and licks me or puts its paws on me and I remain neutral, I sometimes get abuse as if I have gone out of my way to insult a human. I don’t want the dog to touch me and I often put my hands out of reach and stay still, not offering encouraging body language to try to limit the encounter. When I do this people sometimes behave very angrily. They should be grateful it’s neutral rather than unfriendly: their dogs should be better trained. Imagine if a woman were out with her husband and he ran up to you and licked you and pawed you. If you didn’t pat him on the head she wouldn’t be going “for fucks sake he’s only being friendly you mardy bitch”.

Aubrielle · 02/09/2025 19:38

BananaCaramel · 02/09/2025 19:27

ALL dogs smell. Owners might not think they do but they have gone nose blind to it. I concede that some don’t smell as badly as others but they do all smell

I actually have hyperosmia caused by chronic migraine. My dog doesn't seem to smell. If it was nose blindness I would feel the same about my cat, but I don't. She stinks. Two of my dogs did have a strong odour, but my current one does not.

YeOldeGreyhound · 02/09/2025 19:36

OonaStubbs · 02/09/2025 19:33

I don't think banning dogs from being out in public is likely to happen, but banning them from eateries and shops has a lot of public support.

It doesn't, and if it makes money for businesses then they are not going to bend to your will because you don't like dogs.

Money talks.

Daygloboo · 02/09/2025 19:35

YeOldeGreyhound · 02/09/2025 19:30

Everything smells. But dog smell is not bad. I love sniffing my dog's head and paws.

Ooo err

OonaStubbs · 02/09/2025 19:33

YeOldeGreyhound · 02/09/2025 18:46

I am glad to see you have softened your view on this somewhat. Before, you didn't want them out in public at all.

I don't think banning dogs from being out in public is likely to happen, but banning them from eateries and shops has a lot of public support.

YeOldeGreyhound · 02/09/2025 19:30

BananaCaramel · 02/09/2025 19:27

ALL dogs smell. Owners might not think they do but they have gone nose blind to it. I concede that some don’t smell as badly as others but they do all smell

Everything smells. But dog smell is not bad. I love sniffing my dog's head and paws.

BananaCaramel · 02/09/2025 19:27

Aubrielle · 02/09/2025 19:15

Not all dogs smell, not all dogs bark. Some dogs only bark on home territory and are otherwise quiet.

ALL dogs smell. Owners might not think they do but they have gone nose blind to it. I concede that some don’t smell as badly as others but they do all smell

mynamechangemyrules · 02/09/2025 19:20

I went on a big shopping trip to Brent Cross John Lewis and a woman was in there with a Labrador…?!! I was bewildered. She was dressed like a country lady of the manor too which added to the effect 😂
I have a dog who would hate it and would be a pain anyway if I was trying to shop, so I’ve never considered it. I shop rather than browse or enjoy it as a pastime, mind.

also- once a colleague asked me whether my child was missing their ‘brother’ and it took a very confusing conversation to get to the point which was: was my child missing the dog who was still with the pet sitter after a weekend away?
‘But he IS her brother!’ Erm, no.

YeOldeGreyhound · 02/09/2025 19:15

Aubrielle · 02/09/2025 19:08

Clearly we're all talking her round @YeOldeGreyhound

Maybe, just maybe, one day she will post and say she has bought a lovely puppy and will be one of us.

Aubrielle · 02/09/2025 19:15

WhatNoRaisins · 02/09/2025 19:10

If it's the noise and smell that bothers you then I think dogs aren't so bad outside, think I'm in this camp. If it's a phobia then I imagine it's the same outdoors or indoors.

Not all dogs smell, not all dogs bark. Some dogs only bark on home territory and are otherwise quiet.

WhatNoRaisins · 02/09/2025 19:10

If it's the noise and smell that bothers you then I think dogs aren't so bad outside, think I'm in this camp. If it's a phobia then I imagine it's the same outdoors or indoors.

Aubrielle · 02/09/2025 19:08

Clearly we're all talking her round @YeOldeGreyhound

YeOldeGreyhound · 02/09/2025 18:46

OonaStubbs · 02/09/2025 17:43

Dogs should not be in eateries or shops full stop. In pubs that only serve drinks? I suppose some dogs could be allowed in as long as they are well-behaved and do not disturb anyone. But the moment they misbehave even a slightest amount, they should be barred for life as should their owners.

I am glad to see you have softened your view on this somewhat. Before, you didn't want them out in public at all.