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I’ve joined the “why are there dogs everywhere” Club

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BananaBum · 31/08/2025 18:51

I’ll start things off by saying I have a dog myself and normally scoff at all the people rolling their eyes over dogs in pubs and cafes. Can even forgive younger, less well behaved dogs because they have to learn and be exposed to different situations.

HOWEVER

Today I went to get in a lift in John Lewis with my DC and a woman with a pushchair and TWO massive labradors asked if I wouldn’t mind waiting because one of her dogs were nervous about being crowded.

Why are you in John Lewis then?
Is it really necessary for the dogs to come out with you?
Did they come in the car especially or do you live in town?
how does it all work logistically?

So many questions. And also just a bit annoyed I had to wait for the next lift

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MonetsLilac · 01/09/2025 07:28

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 01/09/2025 07:26

Oh dear, I’m actually thinking of taking my dog to John Lewis this week. Not for a shopping trip as such but my nearest JL is 2 hours away, I want to pop into the nespresso boutique. So not a full shopping excursion. I don’t want to leave her for 5 hours or so, plus there’s nice countryside between JL and us so we can have a walk on the way back.

However she’s not nervous and I won’t be asking people not to come in lifts!

Is there no-one to leave her with? A dog walker who will exercise her then sit with her?
That's got to be better for her than shopping for Nespresso pods?

Buiderswoe · 01/09/2025 07:27

My SIL works in John Lewis and says every day there is at least one doggy “accident” and they have to clean up…lots of damage caused, expensive rugs and clothes peed on and the likes. She reckons the owners either slink off without telling the staff or exclaim that “little Barney has NEVER done that before”. Approximately zero of them offer to clean up the mess

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 01/09/2025 07:26

Oh dear, I’m actually thinking of taking my dog to John Lewis this week. Not for a shopping trip as such but my nearest JL is 2 hours away, I want to pop into the nespresso boutique. So not a full shopping excursion. I don’t want to leave her for 5 hours or so, plus there’s nice countryside between JL and us so we can have a walk on the way back.

However she’s not nervous and I won’t be asking people not to come in lifts!

Absentmindedsmile · 01/09/2025 07:22

pizzaHeart · 01/09/2025 07:19

that’s exactly why I stopped going to our Waterstones, I don’t think dogs belong in indoor cafe near food.
I bet people are just too polite to say something or avoid it, plus you can like dogs but still disagree about them being in a shop or indoor cafe, they are two different things.

Ah that’s shame. All the food in the Waterstones cafe is in glass cabinets/ fridge etc.🤷‍♀️
Our Waterstones cafe is always busy enough so hopefully not too many people avoid it.

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 07:22

pizzaHeart · 01/09/2025 07:19

that’s exactly why I stopped going to our Waterstones, I don’t think dogs belong in indoor cafe near food.
I bet people are just too polite to say something or avoid it, plus you can like dogs but still disagree about them being in a shop or indoor cafe, they are two different things.

you can like dogs but still disagree about them being in a shop or indoor cafe, they are two different things.

Indeed, but there are some odd posters on MN who will brand you an animal hater for saying anything that could be construed negatively about dogs!

pizzaHeart · 01/09/2025 07:19

Absentmindedsmile · 01/09/2025 07:11

Oh John Lewis. A department store is not a place for dogs. Poor dogs, and people should be able to shop in a department store free from dogs. I love dogs, I have dogs. I like animals more than humans. The only shop my dogs come to is Waterstones. Waterstones give them treats and a drink in the cafe, whist I sit down and flick through books. They’re happy in there and most book lovers seem to be animal lovers too.

that’s exactly why I stopped going to our Waterstones, I don’t think dogs belong in indoor cafe near food.
I bet people are just too polite to say something or avoid it, plus you can like dogs but still disagree about them being in a shop or indoor cafe, they are two different things.

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 07:19

WilmaFlintstone38 · 01/09/2025 07:17

Do the dogs have a John Lewis partnership card?

I started a thread about this two months ago and I got pasted! It was resurrected recently.

Barknership card? Pawtnership card?

Oh god, I'm probably giving people ideas here...

WilmaFlintstone38 · 01/09/2025 07:17

BananaBum · 31/08/2025 18:51

I’ll start things off by saying I have a dog myself and normally scoff at all the people rolling their eyes over dogs in pubs and cafes. Can even forgive younger, less well behaved dogs because they have to learn and be exposed to different situations.

HOWEVER

Today I went to get in a lift in John Lewis with my DC and a woman with a pushchair and TWO massive labradors asked if I wouldn’t mind waiting because one of her dogs were nervous about being crowded.

Why are you in John Lewis then?
Is it really necessary for the dogs to come out with you?
Did they come in the car especially or do you live in town?
how does it all work logistically?

So many questions. And also just a bit annoyed I had to wait for the next lift

Do the dogs have a John Lewis partnership card?

I started a thread about this two months ago and I got pasted! It was resurrected recently.

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 07:16

Absentmindedsmile · 01/09/2025 07:11

Oh John Lewis. A department store is not a place for dogs. Poor dogs, and people should be able to shop in a department store free from dogs. I love dogs, I have dogs. I like animals more than humans. The only shop my dogs come to is Waterstones. Waterstones give them treats and a drink in the cafe, whist I sit down and flick through books. They’re happy in there and most book lovers seem to be animal lovers too.

Your post made me think of that quotation "outside of a dog, a book is man's best friend. Inside of a dog it's too dark to read" Grin

Absentmindedsmile · 01/09/2025 07:11

Oh John Lewis. A department store is not a place for dogs. Poor dogs, and people should be able to shop in a department store free from dogs. I love dogs, I have dogs. I like animals more than humans. The only shop my dogs come to is Waterstones. Waterstones give them treats and a drink in the cafe, whist I sit down and flick through books. They’re happy in there and most book lovers seem to be animal lovers too.

Sladuf1 · 01/09/2025 07:06

R0ckandHardPlace · 01/09/2025 03:41

I sat next to an older couple in our local gastropub who were having a meal and very obviously on a first date. He looked quite surprised that she’d brought her dog along. She told him that she couldn’t leave the dog at home because he was autistic. He queried whether autism existed in dogs but she was adamant that she understands autism as she was a primary school teacher and she is certain that her dog meets the criteria.

She also had the dog on her lap and when her food came she let it stand with its front paws on the table and eat off her plate. He left as soon as they’d finished eating. It was batshit behaviour. I doubt she got a second date.

I have heard and read some silly examples of anthropomorphism before but that wins the award for insanity. As for the letting the dog eat off the plate at the table in the gastropub…

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 07:04

JudithDunbar · 31/08/2025 22:27

Went to a National Trust recently and there were massive dog turds all around the exquisite tudor knot garden. Some kind of pack meet had descended on the place, I cannot be bothered to detail the specifics but quite honestly they were an absolute spectacle. Hideous watching such a glorious place desecrated by such inane types and their creatures. These pack meets seem to be everywhere now, abominations the lot of them.

I've noticed that some NT places are starting to push back though, eg with "paws on paths" signs reminding people to keep Fido off the grass and out the flower beds, and prominent "code of practice" type signs at the entrance.

BananaCaramel · 01/09/2025 06:59

@pizzaHeart

it feels like some bonkers owners are making some sort of point.

This has been my experience - they sort of look at you with a smug expression as if inviting you to challenge them on what they are doing with their dog and almost seem to wait for the attention of it all.

BILs gf definitely does this, it is insufferable

WhatNoRaisins · 01/09/2025 06:59

FortuneFaded · 01/09/2025 06:52

Worst experience with dogs being everywhere is when we went for a coffee and a cake at the cafe between the park and Donaldson’s Dairy. Never again. I’d rather a tiger came to tea.

I wish they'd write some more of those books where they create chaos at John Lewis or the cinema.

Not a fan of this trend. I think a lot of people get dogs because they struggle with human relationships, the problem is that some of them then expect the dog to act like a human companion and go shopping with them. I think it's cruel to get a dog and expect this of them, I'll never be convinced that noisy and crowded indoor places are suitable for dogs.

FortuneFaded · 01/09/2025 06:52

Worst experience with dogs being everywhere is when we went for a coffee and a cake at the cafe between the park and Donaldson’s Dairy. Never again. I’d rather a tiger came to tea.

pizzaHeart · 01/09/2025 06:47

It’s very weird. I don’t think dogs enjoy going to any stores or museums or bars but it feels like some bonkers owners are making some sort of point.
We were at outdoor NT type place on Saturday and of course there were lots of dogs it was natural but city shops….

BananaBum · 01/09/2025 06:30

Tryinghardtobefair · 01/09/2025 03:24

I've experienced more than my fair share of people getting offended and upset when I ask them nicely to move their dog away from my table because it's trying to get my food. It makes me want to send my 12 year old DD to their tables to info dump about Kpop demon hunters

Tbf you can send her to my table anytime. K-pop demon hunters is EPIC

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Flutterbees · 01/09/2025 03:45

I’m a huge dog lover, and I love my own dog to bits. However, I don’t need to see dogs out and about at every turn.

R0ckandHardPlace · 01/09/2025 03:41

I sat next to an older couple in our local gastropub who were having a meal and very obviously on a first date. He looked quite surprised that she’d brought her dog along. She told him that she couldn’t leave the dog at home because he was autistic. He queried whether autism existed in dogs but she was adamant that she understands autism as she was a primary school teacher and she is certain that her dog meets the criteria.

She also had the dog on her lap and when her food came she let it stand with its front paws on the table and eat off her plate. He left as soon as they’d finished eating. It was batshit behaviour. I doubt she got a second date.

Tryinghardtobefair · 01/09/2025 03:24

I've experienced more than my fair share of people getting offended and upset when I ask them nicely to move their dog away from my table because it's trying to get my food. It makes me want to send my 12 year old DD to their tables to info dump about Kpop demon hunters

Madeinsuffolk · 01/09/2025 03:06

OddBoots · 31/08/2025 19:04

I have got used to dogs everywhere and didn't really think about it but the other week I went to an event which while busy there were no dogs. It was amazing how less stressful it was to move about when not having to watch out for fluffy trip hazards and their leads, even when there were lots of people about.

Slight side show but I have seen cats this summer on leads. One camping in Somerset, owners even took it to the toilet block and another on the beach at Weymouth. This cat wa sin the dog area of the beach! The owner was walking it it round the very confused dogs ans the put it in its cat carrier for the afternoon. The dogs were so confused. I was so worried it would be savaged when it was being walked as it was in the area where dogs are off the lead!

MartinCraneAstronaut · 31/08/2025 23:49

Stoptakingmysellotape · 31/08/2025 22:32

Edinburgh festival the other week, 24 degrees no shade in George Square gardens yet the whole world had brought their dog with them. If you've ever been to the gardens in the festival you'll know how busy it is. Those dogs did not look happy, it was so hot crowded and noisy, plus it made it harder to move around the area as you were trying not to step on the dogs.

I was at a show at George Square Gardens at 9pm one night and someone brought a dog in with them! A loud, musical show with loud, laughing crowds. To be fair to the dog, I was proven wrong and I didn’t hear a peep out of it, but why in earth was it there in the first place. Bizarre decision.

ticktickticktickBOOM · 31/08/2025 23:41

Aubrielle · 31/08/2025 22:16

Sorry @ticktickticktickBOOM but if I wait politely with my large dog for someone to pass with children or pram then yes, I do expect a thank you. We have just as much right to be there as they (or you) do. So I think you were rude not to say thanks.

It was a small dog, and I didn't have a child or a pram. There was plenty of room.

JudithDunbar · 31/08/2025 22:38

ticktickticktickBOOM · 31/08/2025 21:59

I was walking along a residential road near my house yesterday and a couple with a dog waited to the side with the dog as I walked along (there was plenty of room - they were just waiting a second to make more room), as I went past she sarcastically said 'thanks' in an eyerolly kind of way and I couldn't help thinking 'fuck you! - the pavements were built for PEOPLE to walk along - I'm got going to thank you for letting me go in place of your dog'.
I didn't say it though.

I really hate all the streaks of piss all over the pavements where dogs piss constantly. In some places there are like dozens of dog wee's against every corner/lamp post/signpost. It's rank and it stinks.

It annoys me that public grassy areas are now ALL just giant dog toilets. And dog owners EXPECT it - like every bit of grass can be pissed on. Sod the wildlife, other members of the public, kids or fresh air/clean grass. Dog toilets, everywhere.

grrrrrrrrr

Oh its everywhere here, every green space is a dog toilet by default, todays children don't get to play like we did. It's all about the dogs. I used to roam off the path in our local woods as a child but these days the hoardes of 'stick and flick' scummers have put paid to that and I have to keep my children on the path.

Aubrielle · 31/08/2025 22:35

OonaStubbs · 31/08/2025 22:18

Why can't people tie their dogs up outside shops anymore? It used to be commonplace.

It's mainly because of theft. Dogs are seen as far more of a commodity these days. There are also more dog hating weirdoes around now that would create a fuss if your dog even looked at them.

People do still tie their dogs up outside our local Post Office but there is no way I would ever do it with mine.