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I’ve joined the “why are there dogs everywhere” Club

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BananaBum · 31/08/2025 18:51

I’ll start things off by saying I have a dog myself and normally scoff at all the people rolling their eyes over dogs in pubs and cafes. Can even forgive younger, less well behaved dogs because they have to learn and be exposed to different situations.

HOWEVER

Today I went to get in a lift in John Lewis with my DC and a woman with a pushchair and TWO massive labradors asked if I wouldn’t mind waiting because one of her dogs were nervous about being crowded.

Why are you in John Lewis then?
Is it really necessary for the dogs to come out with you?
Did they come in the car especially or do you live in town?
how does it all work logistically?

So many questions. And also just a bit annoyed I had to wait for the next lift

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Cantsleepdontsleep · 01/09/2025 08:23

Sorry Schnizel, had no idea I had quoted you.

PebbleBeach1234 · 01/09/2025 08:22

I'm ok with dogs in places but the one time I wasn't was a cafe where a woman had a little dog on her lap that was constantly yapping at other people/dogs. It was clearly really reactive and disturbing everyone's lunch.
I agree people should know that if thier dogs are particularly nervous or reactive taking them into a cafe or a shop isn't a good idea.

Cantsleepdontsleep · 01/09/2025 08:22

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 07:22

you can like dogs but still disagree about them being in a shop or indoor cafe, they are two different things.

Indeed, but there are some odd posters on MN who will brand you an animal hater for saying anything that could be construed negatively about dogs!

I’m a little on the fence - we take our dogs on holiday with us and understandably owners don’t want dogs left alone in their properties/you can’t leave them in a tent and it’s often too hot to leave them in the car so I’m very grateful for places that let them in. I also think that we aren’t alone and in touristy areas, business owners recognise that people have dogs on holiday and banning them would lose a lot of business.

I would never take them into a shop….! Actually, that’s a lie as I did once. I had a massive bag and put the dog in that and carted it (looking rather bemused) around. The shop assistant came over to tell me it wasn’t necessary. I still didn’t let the dog out. It would have behaved impeccably but imo dogs don’t belong in shops! I’m horrified they are allowed into LEGOLAND/disneyland and cinemas…

Owner’s behaviour seems disgusting though… mine are rescues and it can take time but all recognise appropriate places to go to the loo - I don’ let the boy wee on peoples cars/fences etc. They would never go to the loo indoors and get decent walk so shouldn’t need to. We took them on an overnight ferry once and people were letting their dogs wee and poo in the corridors outside the cabins… I will never go on one again. People don’t even seem to care when their dogs do things like this. Similarly, despite being rather large, I do make sure the dogs are well out of people’s way and not bothering them (and yes this is often to my detriment. My dogs, my problem).

The issue now is the number of dogs taken out, poor standards of dog training and the belligerence of owners attitudes towards either the dogs comfort or that of other people and respect of their belongings. 30+ years ago (when I was a student, admittedly at a rural uni) a lot of us had dogs who went everywhere. Often unleashed. They behaved, walked at heel, dropped and lay when stationary and never caused any issues even when in number. Because they behaved, they were welcomed (everywhere? I still think we had some decorum as to where we took them).

Tulipvase · 01/09/2025 08:20

Laiste · 31/08/2025 19:43

The cinema?
Dogs in the cinema ?! On the seats ??!

😖

Noooo - that is too much! You eat there! Put your hands on the seat maybe and then touch the food ! Ugh.

I imagine plenty worse things could happen to a seat in a cinema than having a dog on it.

I wouldn’t take my dog to the cinema as I can’t see what she’d get out of it. She’s a well behaved dog and if we are away, I will take her out with me as you can’t leave them in the accommodation but I will judge where is a sensible place to go in and when to stand outside. At home, she might sit in the pub on an afternoon but other than that she stays at home.

Exasperateddonut · 01/09/2025 08:18

A couple of weeks back there was a dog IN THE TROLLEY at M&S foodhall. That’s just too much.

Blinky21 · 01/09/2025 08:12

I often feel sorry for the dogs I see shoved under tables being ignored in noisy pubs and restaurants, it must be so stressful and uncomfortable for them

WhatNoRaisins · 01/09/2025 08:12

I've got no problem with something like a country walk with a friend and their dog, perfectly good activity. I have cut back on how much I eat out because I don't enjoy sitting in a cafe with a barking dog.

BananaBum · 01/09/2025 08:06

HangingOver · 01/09/2025 07:35

Anyone else sidetracked by imagining their own dog let loose in a JL. 🤣 They'd have to call the police.

My dog can't be trusted with a log in a field.

Mine would have a great time… he would be having a go on every leg that stopped for more than 10 seconds 🤣

He is fine outside but there is something about a stranger indoors that makes him crazy. We’ve been able to sit in the garden of a country pub after walks fine but he gets too excited if we sit inside? They are funny little creatures aren’t they

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WonderingAboutBabies · 01/09/2025 07:58

I hate it. My local shopping centre is now dog friendly. I have an Assistance Dog and he gets so distracted and confused at dogs in what used to be dog free areas. There's dog piss on every corner in JL so he's now pulling to sniff and other dogs are approaching him to say hello.

Yes - he is fully trained and certified but he is still a dog after all! Shopping centres used to be easy to navigate without every Tom Dick and Harry bringing their dog in ughhh

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 01/09/2025 07:51

Sevenamcoffee · 01/09/2025 07:41

I’ve never taken my dogs in JL as I it would be too overstimulating for them I think. Not bothered if other people take theirs as is doesn’t affect me. Lift woman was just rude.

Exactly. Previous dogs I wouldn’t have taken as they wouldn’t have liked it. This one would positively enjoy it. I know my dog. Like you say it’s not going to affect anyone else 🤷🏻‍♀️

Sevenamcoffee · 01/09/2025 07:41

I’ve never taken my dogs in JL as I it would be too overstimulating for them I think. Not bothered if other people take theirs as is doesn’t affect me. Lift woman was just rude.

pizzaHeart · 01/09/2025 07:38

Absentmindedsmile · 01/09/2025 07:22

Ah that’s shame. All the food in the Waterstones cafe is in glass cabinets/ fridge etc.🤷‍♀️
Our Waterstones cafe is always busy enough so hopefully not too many people avoid it.

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ours too but as tables are close it still feels that dogs are near your good which is wrong imo.
Ours is busy as well and that also makes me wonder if it’s a good place from a dog’s point of view.

Aubrielle · 01/09/2025 07:38

HangingOver · 01/09/2025 07:35

Anyone else sidetracked by imagining their own dog let loose in a JL. 🤣 They'd have to call the police.

My dog can't be trusted with a log in a field.

People would complain about the amount of fluff that comes off mine, despite daily grooming 😬

HangingOver · 01/09/2025 07:35

Anyone else sidetracked by imagining their own dog let loose in a JL. 🤣 They'd have to call the police.

My dog can't be trusted with a log in a field.

Zonder · 01/09/2025 07:34

It’s the “fur baby” trend, which ignores animals’ needs in favour of owners’ wants.

A lot of truth in this. Two dogs at the hairdresser's recently lying around for the hour I was there. They were not having fun.

Aubrielle · 01/09/2025 07:34

WilmaFlintstone38 · 01/09/2025 07:17

Do the dogs have a John Lewis partnership card?

I started a thread about this two months ago and I got pasted! It was resurrected recently.

This thread has a different tone to the previous ones on this subject. It seems to be full of people who have dogs but don't take them everywhere. It hasn't descended into full-on hatred, all dogs are furbabies/filthy/smelly/barky etc. I'm normally part of the pro-dog contingent on the anti-dog threads, but this one has been more measured and a lot here are seeing it from a dog's perspective.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 01/09/2025 07:34

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:32

@YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt

I know she’s not a baby. But it suits us both better for her to come with me and JL allow it so no I won’t leave her at home thanks.

thebabayaga · 01/09/2025 07:33

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:30

@MonetsLilac

leave your dog at home. Its a dog, not a baby. Five hours is fine

get a grip

100 percent this.

YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt · 01/09/2025 07:32

MonetsLilac · 01/09/2025 07:28

Is there no-one to leave her with? A dog walker who will exercise her then sit with her?
That's got to be better for her than shopping for Nespresso pods?

She will be perfectly happy going into JL. I don’t normally take her “shopping” but sometimes when we’re on holiday in the Lake District we have a pootle round the shops in Keswick and she genuinely likes it, tail wagging in all the shops. I can’t imagine we will be more than 20 mins max in JL. And then we will have a nice walk in the Yorkshire dales which she obviously can’t have if she is left at home.

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:32

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:30

@MonetsLilac

leave your dog at home. Its a dog, not a baby. Five hours is fine

get a grip

@YanTanTetheraPetheraBumfitt

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:31

@MonetsLilac

sorry! Not you. I tagged you incorrectly

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:30

@MonetsLilac

leave your dog at home. Its a dog, not a baby. Five hours is fine

get a grip

MonetsLilac · 01/09/2025 07:29

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 07:19

Barknership card? Pawtnership card?

Oh god, I'm probably giving people ideas here...

You are! It'll happen!

thebabayaga · 01/09/2025 07:29

Not a chance I'd have waited, humans take priority over dogs. It's fine to leave dogs home when you go out shopping. In fact, it's normal.

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:29

un-bloody-believable

remember when all shops had the no dogs except guide dogs sign?

Now they’re all totally welcome . Anywhere

Novody can ever leave their dog home alone for
more than an hour

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