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I’ve joined the “why are there dogs everywhere” Club

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BananaBum · 31/08/2025 18:51

I’ll start things off by saying I have a dog myself and normally scoff at all the people rolling their eyes over dogs in pubs and cafes. Can even forgive younger, less well behaved dogs because they have to learn and be exposed to different situations.

HOWEVER

Today I went to get in a lift in John Lewis with my DC and a woman with a pushchair and TWO massive labradors asked if I wouldn’t mind waiting because one of her dogs were nervous about being crowded.

Why are you in John Lewis then?
Is it really necessary for the dogs to come out with you?
Did they come in the car especially or do you live in town?
how does it all work logistically?

So many questions. And also just a bit annoyed I had to wait for the next lift

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dawngreen · 01/09/2025 09:26

I think its more a case of people being lazy, why take a dog for a walk when you can take it round the shops with the kids.

I have had dogs all my life, and I would never take a dog into a crowded shop or pub. I avoid area's with lots of children or crowds.

Fayaway · 01/09/2025 09:23

WitchesofPainswick · 01/09/2025 09:05

I was in the cafe in John Lewis on Oxford Street: the couple next to me gave their massive Retriever a drink of water from a MUG, and he slobbered it all over the wooden floor which dried into a lovely stain. They then let him lick their plates clean!! I'm never going back, it was awful.

In my local pub a couple of people ask for half a pint of water for their dogs as they sit on chairs rather than the floor. One in particular always sits on the (newly upholstered) seating alongside the adults and the other week fell asleep on the table. This is a pub that serves food too (we’d already eaten as had they).
OP I’m glad you’ve started this thread because it’s made me realise that although I’m grumbly about dogs in places now, I never gave them a thought before. It’s only when you see them somewhere that doesn’t seem right that it’s a problem. So that’s on the owners, which is why a lot get bristly and defensive.

Firsttimecommentor · 01/09/2025 09:22

BananaBum · 31/08/2025 18:51

I’ll start things off by saying I have a dog myself and normally scoff at all the people rolling their eyes over dogs in pubs and cafes. Can even forgive younger, less well behaved dogs because they have to learn and be exposed to different situations.

HOWEVER

Today I went to get in a lift in John Lewis with my DC and a woman with a pushchair and TWO massive labradors asked if I wouldn’t mind waiting because one of her dogs were nervous about being crowded.

Why are you in John Lewis then?
Is it really necessary for the dogs to come out with you?
Did they come in the car especially or do you live in town?
how does it all work logistically?

So many questions. And also just a bit annoyed I had to wait for the next lift

I just don’t understand it, a country pub or cafe, maybe. But even then when it’s a tiny cafe and there’s a few dogs in it’s just not right. Maybe if they had designated areas like they used to just for those with dogs.

It also doesn’t pay any thought to those of us who are allergic to fur/ animals. If a dog is in John Lewis near clothes and gets them all covered in hair, then how gross is that!

Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 09:22

CarlaH · 01/09/2025 09:17

I used to like dogs. I don't anymore. The attitude of some dog owners has changed my views. We walk most days and frequently encounter dogs that jump up at us barking and on one occasion growling. The response from the owners when we ask them to take their dog away from us is invariably hostile. We have even had them say that we shouldn't walk outside in places where we might encounter a dog if we don't want them to come near us. That's everywhere then isn't it?

I love dogs and have always been one of those people to give them a stroke if they seem friendly. But in recent years I've started being more careful because I think a lot of owners aren't properly in control. I dont touch dogs any more.

allusernamesaretakennow · 01/09/2025 09:22

ThisCanFuckOffToo · 31/08/2025 19:05

I can’t imagine any dog actually enjoys going in to a department store. People are fucking weird.

Dogs are wonderful.

This. Poor dogs.

Just because you can take your dog, doesn't mean you should.

Aubrielle · 01/09/2025 09:22

Humans are dirty, smelly, disgusting creatures @RopiJo . It is the human owners that create these issues, not the actual dogs.

When I had 3 indoor cats and 3 large dogs, the cats caused far more mess than the dogs and smelt a lot worse. Same now, with one of each. I'm far more a cat person than I am a dog person, but none of my dogs has ever been smelly and all of them have washed themselves.

DBSFstupid · 01/09/2025 09:21

LancashireButterPie · 01/09/2025 08:52

My friends 7 year old DD gets hayfever like symptoms around dogs. She goes to a school where the headteacher brings her huge wolfhound to school each day and calls it a therapy dog.

😂😂😂Heard it all now!
She just doesn't want to pay for doggy daycare!

Nannyfannybanny · 01/09/2025 09:19

I agree, I've had dogs since I was a kid. Got 2 border collies, the 2 year old would be really stressed.. it's been getting worse over the years,you go to a national trust garden,we did recently and they all seem to use those flaming adjustable leads ,I don't!

Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 09:18

MonetsLilac · 01/09/2025 09:14

Allowed to, rather than in the best interest of the dog
You're spot on, @itsgettingweird

When i was a kid my mum had a poodle that was stuck to her like glue. She went everywhere with my mum and I'm sure would have preferred that to being left at home. I think it depends on the dog.

CarlaH · 01/09/2025 09:17

I used to like dogs. I don't anymore. The attitude of some dog owners has changed my views. We walk most days and frequently encounter dogs that jump up at us barking and on one occasion growling. The response from the owners when we ask them to take their dog away from us is invariably hostile. We have even had them say that we shouldn't walk outside in places where we might encounter a dog if we don't want them to come near us. That's everywhere then isn't it?

MonetsLilac · 01/09/2025 09:14

Allowed to, rather than in the best interest of the dog
You're spot on, @itsgettingweird

itsgettingweird · 01/09/2025 09:12

ThisCanFuckOffToo · 31/08/2025 19:05

I can’t imagine any dog actually enjoys going in to a department store. People are fucking weird.

Dogs are wonderful.

Totally agree with this.

What always makes me giggle is that nowadays you hear people saying all the times how you shouldn’t take young children and toddlers to the shops as it’s boring for them.

But taking your dog …… 🤷‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

Btw I think young children’s fine as they need to learn but dogs don’t need to go and I think it’s become one of those things that people do because they are allowed rather than what’s in the best interest of their dog.

Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 09:12

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 09:11

You mean browsing the homewares section, like "Dogs at Cards"? 😅

Exactly😃

IsawwhatIsaw · 01/09/2025 09:12

LancashireButterPie · 01/09/2025 08:52

My friends 7 year old DD gets hayfever like symptoms around dogs. She goes to a school where the headteacher brings her huge wolfhound to school each day and calls it a therapy dog.

I would actually raise this as a safeguarding/ health issue maybe with governors? The Head is saving on dog care costs.

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 09:11

Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 09:09

The idea of John lewis being rammed full of dogs is somehow making me guffaw. I dont know why.

You mean browsing the homewares section, like "Dogs at Cards"? 😅

Aubrielle · 01/09/2025 09:11

Whatareyoutalkingaboutnow · 01/09/2025 09:03

There was a spaniel in my local John Lewis perfume section last week. Looked stressed and panting. Why take them, it's ridiculous.

A dog's nose is tens of thousands of times more sensitive than ours. Taking a dog to a perfume dept or a hairdressing salon is cruelty.

purdypuma · 01/09/2025 09:10

I'm not a dog owner but plan to be so in the near future. I think its nice that dogs are allowed in more places but then again I'm not allergic to them!

The problem is, is where does this end? I have a cat. Should the cat & rabbits be allowed in more public places on a leash and/ or harness?

BananaBum · 01/09/2025 09:09

Theeternalrocksbeneath · 01/09/2025 08:58

I have more dogs than is sensible, and I don’t take my idiots anywhere that isn’t entirely appropriate. They don’t understand the concept of shopping, or eating in a restaurant or any of the human things I do so they stay at home with their beds and toys and enjoy the peace and quiet while I’m out.

My rats though - they’d bloody love a trip to JL! They’re the nosiest creatures and would adore judging you on what you’re buying. Alas, the day has not yet come when I can take my intellectual equals shopping but come the revolution 😄

This reminded me of the pet mice I had as a child. They would sit in the top pocket of my school shirt.

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Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 09:09

Shessweetbutapsycho · 31/08/2025 19:03

Yes the place is always full of them, it’s so odd

The idea of John lewis being rammed full of dogs is somehow making me guffaw. I dont know why.

SchnizelVonKrumm · 01/09/2025 09:09

Cardinalita90 · 01/09/2025 09:07

People putting their own needs above their dog's. I was at a battle reenactment earlier this year complete with cannon explosions and a man beside me had a dog- poor thing was terrified! I did say loudly to my friend (true pass agg style) how absurd it was and he left soon after.

You mean they put their wants above the dog's needs. No one needs to go to see a battle enactment!

IsawwhatIsaw · 01/09/2025 09:08

I have an allergy to dogs, not just itching but asthma and wheezing if bad.
for my birthday recently I was bought a years Cinema membership, have just seen they have screenings that allow dogs.
I don’t trust the cleaning so not sure if I can use this now.
Last week I was in a pub/ restaurant that stated dogs only allowed in bar, couple came in with 2 dogs due to rain. And at at next table.
explained I have an allergy , woman did not want to move though waitress was good and found another table eventually .
it is truly difficult to find anywhere without dogs now.

Ablondiebutagoody · 01/09/2025 09:08

DS trains for his sport on a 400m track marked out in the grass at the local park. He uses about 8 small cones placed at intervals around the track. Every time, without fail a dog will piss on one, grab one, chew one, run off with one. When you confront the owner they don't give a shit. Several respond with "well why did you leave it there?". Like everything in the park is fair game for their stupid fucking dog.

RopiJo · 01/09/2025 09:07

Hate dogs. All dogs. Dirty, smelly, disgusting creatures. If people want dogs that's fine, but keep them at home. That way dog owners are forced to clean up their shit, and I won't fucking tread in it! And the non-stop barking!!! If I could push one button and that would mean all dogs would be gone.... I'd push it. (guide dogs excepted)

Love cats. Have 6 of them. My cats have a secure outdoor run over 100 sq m, and full run of my house. They are a nuisance to nobody.

Whether you are a cat person, or a dog person, it's 100% your responsibility to ensure your pets are your problem, and nobody elses.

If you cannot provide adequate living condition don't get a cat or dog. 6 Alsations in a flat seems the norm these days! Get a bloody Gerbil instead!

And don't get me started on breeders! Should be 100% banned.

That's my rant over. Feel better now.😃

Cardinalita90 · 01/09/2025 09:07

People putting their own needs above their dog's. I was at a battle reenactment earlier this year complete with cannon explosions and a man beside me had a dog- poor thing was terrified! I did say loudly to my friend (true pass agg style) how absurd it was and he left soon after.

Caz101x · 01/09/2025 09:07

Willoo · 31/08/2025 21:06

At least it’s not cats everywhere. That would be far worse

Why?