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Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

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cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

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Glittertwins · 31/08/2025 21:28

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

You’ve answered your own question. Definitely do not put her convenience before yours either.

Tistheseason17 · 31/08/2025 21:19

I don't do favours for people who are continually rude to me.

Also, something will go wrong and you'd regret saying yes if you did! She'd prob tell people to park on it again!

Moral high ground can also be to say no and move on. I don't hang out with my neighbours.

the5thgoldengirl · 31/08/2025 21:16

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Robin67 · 31/08/2025 21:14

Elbowpatch · 31/08/2025 18:02

Don’t move to the village I live in. You would probably be ducked in the pond and then burnt at the stake.

For the Greater Good.

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Robin67 · 31/08/2025 21:12

YANBU and I would not allow this because of her behaviour and the cheek of going behind my back to my husband

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itsgettingweird · 31/08/2025 20:58

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

If it means you taking your cars off the drive that surely defeats the point?

I thought she was wanting to use spare space.

Her guests can just park where you would have if you moved!

TitaniasAss · 31/08/2025 20:56

I can't be doing with petty shit so I would just let her use it, if she asks.

intrepidpanda · 31/08/2025 20:53

If it doesn't inconvenience you, I woukd say yes. Be the bigger person and don't add fuel to the fire. Hopefully some kind acts will receive the tension

jonthebatiste · 31/08/2025 20:43

She asked your DH because she didn’t want to ask you. But she still wants a favor from you/DH.

For that alone I would make myself unavailable for any requests. If she does manage to ask I would tell her you’ll speak to DH and keep saying that until the day of the party. If someone does park there on the day I’d be going round there during the party and asking for the car to be moved because I need to go out. But I’m at a stage where I both don’t give a shit what anyone thinks of me but also won’t allow people to come into my life with shit. I would make no effort to repair the relationship she damaged because I wouldn’t need to and my previous decency was thrown back in my face. I’m not an idiot.

ConnieHeart · 31/08/2025 20:41

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

She sounds like a CF of the first order for everything you've listed. And she's already being a coward for asking your OH. I would have said yes if it wasn't inconveniencing you at all but it is, so I'd refuse

pizzaHeart · 31/08/2025 20:39

I think if you won’t be able to park your cars on the drive the answer is simple : no I’m wfh that day and our car will be on the drive.

RealEagle · 31/08/2025 20:35

anon12345anon · 31/08/2025 18:09

Wtf!! Shock
She ignores you, shit stirs, and deliberately didn't invite you into a neighborhood WhatsApp group - would I fuck let her park on your drive!!!

Absolutely not!!

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70isaLimitNotaTarget · 31/08/2025 20:35

Ok , as it's a couple of weeks till the party then wait a while .
Did she just ignore you the once ? Or has she blanked you each time you;ve said hello ?
Surely everyone can have an episode when they're thinking about 1001 things and seeing someone doesn't register ?

In a week or so she'll either ask you or not . But if you do this for her guests where would you park ? Do the guests have mobility issues that mean they need to be near ? (In which case they should park on her drive )

It sounds like you;ve decided "No" which is absolutely your right to do .

Laura95167 · 31/08/2025 20:34

Its your land so you can say what you like but if it were me and i had the space id consider whether a short term slight or long term quasi good footing was better for me

Cherrysoup · 31/08/2025 20:33

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Then rather obviously no! She’s a very cf to ask given her recent behaviour/exclusion.

Ponderingwindow · 31/08/2025 20:33

I wouldn’t want to be blocked in. I also wouldn’t want to have to go park on the street just so someone else could use my drive. It really doesn’t matter how good of a relationship I have with the neighbors.

my opinion is definitely influenced by living in the middle of nowhere and being completely car dependent.

Cherrysoup · 31/08/2025 20:32

Elbowpatch · 31/08/2025 18:02

Don’t move to the village I live in. You would probably be ducked in the pond and then burnt at the stake.

For the Greater Good.

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🤣 Love that film.

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cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

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CinnamonBuns67 · 31/08/2025 19:36

I'd say no. Her visitors can park elsewhere. I once had a neighbour park their second car on our drive when they had visitors. We told her her to get it moved.

PhoenixReincarnated · 31/08/2025 19:30

I'd ask her why you should allow her to park on your driveway after the way she's treated you.

itsgettingweird · 31/08/2025 19:22

You could have some fun with this “oh, some other neighbours mentioned you asking about driveways on some what’s app group? Shame I don’t appear to be on it or I could have also agreed. However i have arranged for a friend to come over that day so they’ll be using the space”

Even if she hasn’t asked his what’s app it’ll her know you know.

Or

you could just say that you are WFH and as long as they park quietly and leave driveway straight away you’ll allow it.

Depends how much you want to build bridges vs getting even!!!!

Ohnobackagain · 31/08/2025 19:15

I think say yes this time @cheeryi and make a point it’s a favour as it’s a special circumstance. You could request to join the FB group before you reply about the space 🤨

In all seriousness, I think it is worth extending the olive branch here for the sake of peaceful coexistence. You could ask her to leave keys in case you need to go out/swap cars about?

Loadsapandas · 31/08/2025 19:14

I’d call NDN out

So, you’ve been actively ignoring me for ages, didn’t include me on street FB page and now you want to use my drive - do you not see how I might have an issue with that?

If she apologised I’d allow it, but be mindful that she’ll use your drive then go back to ignoring you.

HatandCoat · 31/08/2025 19:00

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

So has she actually asked you then? If not, there's nothing to decide.

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