Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

if she does actually ask you then that’s your chance to heal the rift that has appeared for whatever reason

It’s just say yes as it’s only a one off.

I'd say you'll be home that day, and therefore your own cars will be on your drive. Definitely wouldn't put myself out to make things easier for her.

The CF expected your husband to say yes. She won't ask you. But even if she did, the answer is no.

It's never as simple as some reasonable person using your space for a few hours: you'll end up with a pissed up party-goer's vehicle overnight, or a driveway covered in oil, or they'll reverse over your plants/fence/cat or some other bullshit.

Also, if you have to move your cars, find another way of blocking your drive that day. Otherwise you'll find the CF's guests parking there anyway.

Don't engage. You'll get no thanks. Who cares if you look petty or whatever. Save yourself the headache. And don't forget - as I see so often on MN - no good deed goes unpunished.

Can see the people pleasers on this post …

No chance , she would just ignore you again afterwards . And this is why people get away with using others coz they get enough ppl offering to bow down to them .

YANBU to say no .

I would. Life’s too short to be petty. Take the high road and show you can be a good neighbour, even if she can’t.

What a naive Nancy you are. People like her don’t have an epiphany and sudden change of heart. They use you and ignore you once they get what they want. Moral high ground to WHO 🤣🤣

Agree. The double cheek of going to your dh too! She probably won’t ask you, but if she did I would well prepare to have a friend visit or have something to say No to.

Well you don't actually know which neighbour is the shit stirrer as you're trusting the one that originally ignored you.
I'd keep a friendly distance from both of them.
Let her park on this occasion for the sake of it.

Clear the air, bury the hatchet (not in her head, obvs), give each other a hug and say "yes of course". Life's too short for petty little arguments over nothing important👍
This is your 'go to' answer 👍

I agree

She won’t ask you. I doubt she expected your dh to say what he did.

This. FGS its not a big ask unless it somehow inconveniences you, then you can't do it.

If you do agree, get her to specify exact times.
”yes, 2 pm till 4.30 pm could work for me on that day, but not otherwise if it’s outside those times”
(So she knows there is a clear time limitation, and it’s not a permanent free for all - given that she has been stirring things up)

Maybe tell her to ask the neighbours that she's already befriended on the fb/WhatsApp pages as she already has a connection with them.

I think I'd be prepared to say Yes this much with a view to repairing the relationship. It's always useful to be on good terms with your neighbours. Then ask about the FB group. If she's not prepared to meet you half way, make a note never to do her a favour again.

If she does ask I’d say no given her behaviour. I would also park my car on the edge of my drive and blocking access for any of her guests incase she just tells them to park on your drive

Say yes of course. Hope she has a lovely party.
This is how to move forward nicely

I'd let her so you look like the bigger person to the other neighbours but I'd also point out how poorly she's treated you recently and then still comes asking you for a favour.

Let her know that if she ever pulls that shit on you again that she needn't bother asking.

Im on the "Ill be using the drive for my own car that day" team. Ive never kowtowed to neighbours. But then I am vindictive that way with CF people.

I have a drive which fits two cars and lockable gates at the bottom. I dont drive or own a car and I keep the gates locked for security reasons. One of my neighbours (opposite on a corner so not immediate) asked it she could park one of her vehicles on my drive. They didnt have room for them all and shed noticed mine was available.

So why the hell buy cars you dont have room for? No its not bloody available.

I told her that "I never thought of hiring out my drive. I will consider it and give you a price if my insurer clarifies who would be responsible for the vehicle and the legal position if it or my drive were to be damaged. But it will be near commercial rate so not a cheap option." I knew she had no intention of paying and watched her face freeze and the swift intake of breath. I helpfully suggested she ask the women next door who has moved in with her daughter and the house is empty. "They might appreciate having a vehicle on their drive to make the house look occupied and let you do it for free."

First she has to summon up the nerve/courage/brass neck ( pick whichever you think is more appropriate) to ask you yo your face. If she doesn't it becomes a non issue.
If she does, and you feel it would inconvenience you then say no, because xxx. Giving a valid reason means you are not saying no out of spite.
If she moans to others that you said no, and anyone mentions if you can ask if she also told them why.
Things to consider for me would be

• how long will they be staying ( are you likely to need go out, or have someone park when neighbour's guest is there ).

• will neighbour take advantage of you say yes, and expect to use it at other times.

Why did her disagreement with another neighbour mean she stopped talking to you?

I wouldn't let anyone who wasn't talking to me park on my driveway, no.

Has she actually asked you?

Where is she expecting you to park while it's going on and where will her visitors park, if not on your drive?

We might need a diagram....

If you do decide to say no park in a way that makes others not able to park on your drive otherwise they will just do it anyway

No way would I agree. It could be a straight no - j don’t owe her an explanation or a discussion.