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Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

212 replies

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

OP posts:
Geranium1984 · 01/09/2025 08:08

I'd say yes as if you dont it'd probably build hostility forevermore which I don't think id want to live with. Be the bigger person.
She is CF though!

WhereYouLeftIt · 01/09/2025 08:05

"When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive."

That makes it an absolute 'no' from me. The ignoring and FB shit just reinforces it.

Onthemaintrunkline · 01/09/2025 08:03

She ignores you then has the cheek to ask a favour? I’m afraid it’d be a ‘no’ from me, she’s using you. Say yes and there’s every chance she’ll be back to snubbing you after the party.

CalicoPusscat · 01/09/2025 08:01

That doesn't make sense if you need your drive, tell her no

PinkyFlamingo · 01/09/2025 07:59

Why on earth would you say yes if she's ignoring you? Mad.

Lighteningstrikes · 01/09/2025 07:59

Let her.

It’s never good to fall out with neighbours whoever’s fault it was.

At the very least it should help the ndn relationship between you, even if it is just on a cordial basis.

My advice would be to always be polite and friendly but keep neutral, and don’t ever be in each other’s pockets.

upseedaisee · 01/09/2025 07:59

No! no and thrice no! The problem with agreeing to things like this is she will instantly become the CF and then any visitors she has will be directed to your drive. Seriously, they will take the mickey, especially as she has seen fit to ignore you

TwistedWonder · 01/09/2025 07:58

InterestedDad37 · 01/09/2025 00:04

Clear the air, bury the hatchet (not in her head, obvs), give each other a hug and say "yes of course". Life's too short for petty little arguments over nothing important👍
This is your 'go to' answer 👍

Is this a joke post? If not - absolutely the biggest wtaf ever

HappyToSmile · 01/09/2025 07:56

I dont understand where your cars will be if you let them use your drive?

Id also not hold my breath that she will actually ask you. She's already avoided doing so by asking your DH.

Ponoka7 · 01/09/2025 07:55

Tell her to ask on her FB group, it won't kill her guests to have a short walk.

Shelly369 · 01/09/2025 07:55

@Friendlygingercat I like the cut of your jib.

Fluffyholeysocks · 01/09/2025 07:51

I doubt she will want to ask you - your DH was wise to say she should ask you. I'd let her stew over approaching you.

Mirandawrongs · 01/09/2025 07:50

She won’t ask you.

she’s asked your husband because you are too unreasonable and she’s hoping he agrees.
luckily your husband knows this only affects you and, unlike many husbands on here, has told her to check with you. She won’t.
you will be of course slagged off in the neighbours group but hey ho.

PigletSanders · 01/09/2025 07:47

Tell her no if she asks. And if she doesn’t, make sure you’ve got a load of things blocking your drive on the day. Have fun with it. 😈

EponeeRae · 01/09/2025 07:45

ScaryM0nster · 31/08/2025 17:50

If it’s no skin off your nose, yes you’re being unreasonable.

If it’ll cause you issues, explain.

Exactly. Everything else is immaterial.

Billybagpuss · 01/09/2025 07:45

Do you think she’ll actually have the guts to ask you? She went to do rather than you.

SatsumaDog · 01/09/2025 07:36

It would be a straight no from me. You can’t be an asshole towards someone and then expect a favour. If she asks why, tell her straight.

GAJLY · 01/09/2025 07:22

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

In that case I'd be inclined to say no. I'd only allow it as a one off if we were on friendly terms.

CharlotteSometimes1 · 01/09/2025 07:22

Kill her with kindness, better to not let her think she’s rattled you. Maybe ensure there re some boundaries so ask what time the car will be leaving just to remind her it’s a favour, but be all smiles.

TwistedWonder · 01/09/2025 07:19

Mum2twoandacockapoo · 01/09/2025 00:47

Can see the people pleasers on this post …

No chance , she would just ignore you again afterwards . And this is why people get away with using others coz they get enough ppl offering to bow down to them .

YANBU to say no .

Absolutely agree. She’s not interested in ‘healing the rift’ theses types only want it uk work one way.

I would guarantee she’ll go back to being a twat afterwards with the added knowledge she sees the OP as a doormat if she says yes.

And I agree she thought the DH would say yes without having to engage with the OP.

Whyherewego · 01/09/2025 07:18

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Well if there's no space on the drive for your cars and her visitor's cars then that's very simple isn't it.
The answer is no. Your DH was being pathetic by not answering no straight away because if he knew you were at home that day then he knew darn well your car would be there too.
"Sorry Anne, I will be home and using the car that day so I will need access to my drive"

Simple as that.

opencecilgee · 01/09/2025 07:16

sounds like a petty fall out. Be the bigger person OP

Coconutter24 · 01/09/2025 07:13

ZenNudist · 31/08/2025 23:55

This. FGS its not a big ask unless it somehow inconveniences you, then you can't do it.

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It’s also not a big ask to respond with hello when someone says hello to you, it’s not a big ask to add one extra neighbour to a group chat whilst you’re adding other neighbours

HelplessSoul · 01/09/2025 06:59

Maddy70 · 31/08/2025 23:00

Say yes of course. Hope she has a lovely party.
This is how to move forward nicely

Christ.

This sums up why the world is so messed up. 🤦‍♂️

Words fail me.

HelpMeGetThrough · 01/09/2025 06:20

Fairyforest · 31/08/2025 17:58

I am a firm believer in karma and what goes around, comes around. It would be a no from me, but I have no interest in being friendly with neighbours anyway.

You would be my perfect neighbour.

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