Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

If it was me, I'd get your husband to tell her no (she won't talk to you so why should you have to tell her?)
And then, if possible, park your car(s) so that they definitely can't get on to your drive.
But then, I can be really petty 😀
More than that though, I hate typocrites and users - she won't talk to you and then wants a favour? Cheeky cow.

It’s also a no from me. I don’t believe in the “be the bigger person” shite. If you say yes to your neighbour, she will mistake your kindness for weakness and take advantage of you and your drive in the future.

Install a retractable bollard / parking security post on your driveway.

Not saying hello could simply be that her mind was elsewhere and she didn’t even realise OP was there. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt at least once. But even if she NEVER says hello to her, so what?

Facebook, Schmacebook. Who the hell cares?

And the parking in her drive was when the OP first moved in - presumably this had started when the house was empty, and stopped once it was clear a new family had arrived.

A skewed/distorted narrative is very easy to create as it’s always from a single perspective and will cause nothing but drama.
If you want a calm, happy life, don’t antagonise neighbours (regardless of how you feel about them). You have to live side by side, so have to make the best of it.

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive

In that case - at least for me - it would have to be a no, unless you want it to spread and get an "Oooo I thought you didn't mind" if you say anything

If you want to take the sting out of it you could always say you're going to need the drive that day for visitors of your own ...

The Cheeky Fucker is playing games, treating you like an idiot and then creeping up to your DH when she wants a favour. Fuck that shit. Park at an angle or invite a friend over with a car so there is no room for anyone else to park on your driveway.

I’d have a frank conversation with her. “Hi neighbour. I hear that you asked my DH if your guests could use our driveway. However it seems a bit of a strange ask, as you don’t seem to be talking to me lately. I said hello to you the other day and you ignored me. So I’m not sure why you would ask us for a favour? Also I’m aware you have created a group for the road and not invited us. It’s fine if you don’t want to speak to me or include us in the group, but I’m not sure why you would then ask us to be neighbourly”

What a lot of nerve.... Suddenly talks when she wants something. Tell her to go piss up a rope.

Is it not the NDN who is creating unnecessary problems here?

By ignoring the OP who says hello for example.
Or the FB stuff
Or just using the driveway wo asking.

And it shows if you say yes to it. She will try to turn it into them parking on your drive any time.

This.

Don’t cause unnecessary problems with your neighbours. It never ends well.

I doubt she will have the backbone to ask you directly, that's why she went to your H.

If she actually does, then I would say " No, due to the fact you are only bothering to speak to me because you want something".

Ignore the "take the higher ground" people - they are usually the first to tell OTHERS to #bekind and never the first to follow that advice

I wouldn't mind tbh. I would say it was ok as a one off. The concern is though that because you've agreed once she will feel it's ok to do it again. And unless you're ok with that, it could cause further tension if you say no next time.

Second thoughts - I think it's more sensible to say no!😂

No. She’s a weasel. She can’t even muster the respect to ask you! Pathetic. Also I agree that she would absolutely take the piss out of this favour.

Has she done YOU any favours? You don’t describe them.

it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Well in that case it doesn't make sense does it? Just say, no because my car will be on the drive and please don't block me in, I will need to come and go.

I would also make a point of moving your car to the edge of the drive so that no-one can come in behind you . Also maybe put some boxes or something on your dropped kerb so they can't block you in.

@ShodAndShadySenators I love this
"She is the type to use you as a doormat and complain you're not flat enough."

Several times I have said yes (or offered) my parking for neighbours' events but that is because we are on good terms. But I have also had trouble with one (not next door) neighbour who has thankfully now moved. It would have been a hard no to them if they had asked.

Just say no its not convenient. expect someone to park across your drive though.

Why should OP inconvenience herself for the CF though?

I genuinely don’t get the ‘be the bigger person’ comments thinking that being mugged off by a piece of work is a virtue - it’s not it’s showing you’re a doormat who is happy being trampled on.

As is often said on here ‘when someone shows you who they are believe them’ - she’s shown you she’s a twat, any answer other than flat no will make her think you’re a weak mug.

She thought she'd blindside DH and is probably shocked he didn’t roll over

Eh? If it would mean you couldnt park in your own drive then obviously don't say yes!

Just be aware it is the tip of the iceberg. You'll be asked to give up your drive a lot in the future, and your neighbor may get angry if you refuse.

If she hasn't asked you yet then just ignore and make sure your driveway is not accessible.

The rest of it all sounds petty and childish - I'd be keeping myself to myself

I wouldn't. She is the type to use you as a doormat and complain you're not flat enough.

Besides, she's not speaking to you for no reason whatever (verified reason that is) so she won't be able to ask. And if she did, I'd say: "Let me see. You've treated me like shit on your shoe for no reason whatsoever, specifically excluded me from your FB group, ignored me when I politely speak to you. Why on earth would I do you a favour now?"