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Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

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cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 11:02

How big is your drive

you if they park on it , you won’t be able to park on it

so Where does she expect you to park ?

but see if she asks the first

Isobel201 · 01/09/2025 11:00

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Following this information, I'd say no and make sure no visitors can get on your driveway. If she was being friendly then that'll be different, but clearly since she can't even get over a small misunderstanding, then I wouldn't even entertain her requests.

Harrysmummy246 · 01/09/2025 10:58

Generally, if people ask, we say yes (e.g. can I nip across this bit of your garden to get to the industrial units or can we put a banner on your fence to advertise to passing traffic) but if it happens without asking, remove/stop/no

I've always offered our driveway for people to pop over/ walk dogs from/ run trails from.

But then my nearest neighbours are 1/4 mile away. Yes, our house/ location is a bit unique....

Swiftie1878 · 01/09/2025 10:57

SnakeyKatie · 01/09/2025 10:52

The neighbour created the battle, not the OP. You might be a ‘yes’ person and thats ok. Not everyone will bow down and be treated like a doormat.

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It takes two to have a battle. There is no battle. The OP just doesn’t like her neighbour, and of course that’s fine. No need to turn it into something bigger than that.
You still have to live beside each other.

LesCigaresVolants · 01/09/2025 10:55

I wouldn't let her park on my drive. Not out of petty grievance, but because she has form for bad faith actions. I would not trust her to tell her friends to move the cars in a timely manner after the party (a pp's point about alcohol consumption is a good one). There's a chance your husband will return home and be unable to park on his own drive. I also wouldn't trust her and her friends not to come up with a story about her car being damaged whilst on your drive.

I also don't think she will ask you, but she may just direct her friends to park there anyway and claim your husband gave his permission. I would be parking
my own car in such a way that no other cars can be driven onto your drive.

Don't say anything to her about it, and if she does ask you, just politely say no, it's not possible. You don't owe her any further explanation.

Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 10:54

SnakeyKatie · 01/09/2025 10:52

The neighbour created the battle, not the OP. You might be a ‘yes’ person and thats ok. Not everyone will bow down and be treated like a doormat.

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Being a so called yes person does not necessarily mean doormat. Some ppl just pick their battles wisely.

SnakeyKatie · 01/09/2025 10:52

Swiftie1878 · 01/09/2025 10:38

If that’s what you want to call it, yes!

I’d describe it a choosing my battles, and unnecessary battles with neighbours are pointless and self-defeating.

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The neighbour created the battle, not the OP. You might be a ‘yes’ person and thats ok. Not everyone will bow down and be treated like a doormat.

nomas · 01/09/2025 10:47

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Fuck being the bigger person!

Tell her no, the silly twat.

Swiftie1878 · 01/09/2025 10:38

PigletSanders · 01/09/2025 09:59

Are you always such a mug? 🤣

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If that’s what you want to call it, yes!

I’d describe it a choosing my battles, and unnecessary battles with neighbours are pointless and self-defeating.

awkwardasfuck · 01/09/2025 10:25

Please can we have a diagram of the parking spaces 🤣🙏🏼

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 01/09/2025 10:21

It would be a hard NO from me op

Daygloboo · 01/09/2025 10:18

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

Let her do it. It's only one day. If you say no she might make life mire difficult. Not worth the hassle. If she then makes trouble in future tell her to eff off and cut contact completely

ClairDeLaLune · 01/09/2025 10:18

I would message her saying something like: “I understand you’d like to use our drive, I’m finding it a bit odd you’d ask us for a favour as the other day you ignored me and haven’t included me in your Facebook group. However, if you’re looking to move on from that in a friendly way I’d like to make the effort too and say yes.”

Change2banon · 01/09/2025 10:16

No. Absolutely not. The floodgates will then be opened and visitors will park there in future unannounced. I would also do something to prevent them from parking on your driveway for this party, as I have a feeling they’ll park there anyway even if you say no 🤷‍♀️

ColourThief · 01/09/2025 10:12

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

Definitely don’t let her.
Remind her that once people learn how to drive that doesn’t make them allergic to walking.
They are perfectly capable of parking further away and walking to her front door.

Ariela · 01/09/2025 10:07

Is there room for all your cars plus one/two?
If so, I'd be generous and say 'We are going to be in and out a lot that day, so it would only be convenient for one/two cars to stay all day. If you put yours in first then we can still come and go while you have your party'

PigletSanders · 01/09/2025 09:59

Swiftie1878 · 01/09/2025 09:28

Not saying hello could simply be that her mind was elsewhere and she didn’t even realise OP was there. Everyone deserves the benefit of the doubt at least once. But even if she NEVER says hello to her, so what?

Facebook, Schmacebook. Who the hell cares?

And the parking in her drive was when the OP first moved in - presumably this had started when the house was empty, and stopped once it was clear a new family had arrived.

A skewed/distorted narrative is very easy to create as it’s always from a single perspective and will cause nothing but drama.
If you want a calm, happy life, don’t antagonise neighbours (regardless of how you feel about them). You have to live side by side, so have to make the best of it.

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Are you always such a mug? 🤣

TwistedWonder · 01/09/2025 09:56

godmum56 · 01/09/2025 08:25

@ShodAndShadySenators I love this
"She is the type to use you as a doormat and complain you're not flat enough."

I love that too - I’m gonna have to steal for future use

user1492757084 · 01/09/2025 09:56

Why wouldn't you?
It is a perfectly nice neighbourly thing to do.

And she has given you adequate warning.

It means that you, too, can ask to do the same if you need to hold a wake at your place etc.

PorridgeAndSyrup · 01/09/2025 09:54

Just say yes. It's so much hassle having a feud with a neighbour. If you do her a favour, you'll be in a position to ask her a favour later. It'll make your life easier in the long run.

Zimunya · 01/09/2025 09:41

Namechangerage · 01/09/2025 09:18

I’d have a frank conversation with her. “Hi neighbour. I hear that you asked my DH if your guests could use our driveway. However it seems a bit of a strange ask, as you don’t seem to be talking to me lately. I said hello to you the other day and you ignored me. So I’m not sure why you would ask us for a favour? Also I’m aware you have created a group for the road and not invited us. It’s fine if you don’t want to speak to me or include us in the group, but I’m not sure why you would then ask us to be neighbourly”

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Love this. Brilliant response.

blobby10 · 01/09/2025 09:40

What @anon12345anon said.

And I would hope that your DP would have your back and tell her to get lost too!

BernardButlersBra · 01/09/2025 09:40

It's a no from me. She's a cheeky bitch

Idontjetwashthefucker · 01/09/2025 09:36

So where are you supposed to put your cars and why can't her guests put their cars wherever you're expected to put yours?

It's a big fat no from me

Bethany83 · 01/09/2025 09:35

If you do let her park then you must absolutely call her out on her behaviour. Even if you passively aggressively say something like, oh I thought you weren't talking to me... Etc she is incredibly rude and outright cheeky. I wouldn't go out of your way to help her. If she apologised for her rudeness then I would help but she hasn't...

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