Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

212 replies

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

OP posts:
7372RR · 01/09/2025 16:11

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:57

As it’s no biggie to her

there will be room for a car

I agree with other replies

don’t cut your nose off to spite face

Show quote history

Doesn't matter if is a big or small request. It is the NDN who is now learning you cant treat people like shite and expect them to be thrilled when you deign to ask something of them.

It is her own nose she has cut off, not OP's

WhereYouLeftIt · 01/09/2025 15:16

"The drive can only accommodate 2 cars."
When your OH goes to work, park your car in such a way that nothing else can get onto your drive anyway - just in case. You can move it back for 6pm for your husband to park.

PosiePetal · 01/09/2025 14:37

I just wouldn't give her an answer. If pushed, I'd say no and I would tell her why I was saying no!

SnakeyKatie · 01/09/2025 14:33

If she wants to use your driveway charge her rent money to do so. Money received can contribute to the maintenance of your driveway. Your neighbour is the cheekiest cheeky fucker! Don’t be a doormat!

C8H10N4O2 · 01/09/2025 14:31

StoorieHoose · 01/09/2025 14:08

You read how the NDD has treated the op and you would still let them park on your drive? The NDD ignored the OP two weeks ago when she said hello - she would have know 2 weeks ago she was having a party and could have Been polite then but she wasn’t

Show quote history

I wasn’t there to see the interaction. Maybe the neighbour didn’t hear the OP, maybe the neighbour didn’t think the OP would be interested in a FB street group (I would rather stick pins in my eyes and I like my neighbours).

If I wanted to be part of a street group I would ask to join, like an adult. I asked to join my street whatsapp group because its useful. I have no interest in FB/IG groups. I didn’t sit and post to MN feeling slighted at the lack of a personal invitation.

And this is all irrelevant as the OP doesn’t have the space on her drive so a simple “soz, won’t have the space that day” would suffice.

Honestly they are just neighbours. Like colleagues and in-laws you just need a cordial working relationship with them, if anything more arises over time then its a bonus.

Comeonbabyblue · 01/09/2025 14:25

She definitely won't ask you. But I'd make a point of parking on the road across my driveway until 6pm when DH is home just so she cant be so cheeky as to direct someone there without asking.

MyLimeGuide · 01/09/2025 14:15

Put bollards up 😂

TwistedWonder · 01/09/2025 14:11

StoorieHoose · 01/09/2025 14:05

If she asks tell her to get lost and move your car into the middle of the drive to insure no sneaky parking

I’d probably park my car diagonally across my drive just because I can

TwistedWonder · 01/09/2025 14:10

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:57

As it’s no biggie to her

there will be room for a car

I agree with other replies

don’t cut your nose off to spite face

Show quote history

Tye NDN has cut her own nose off by being a CF and now she needs a favour she’s lost any goodwill.

Play stupid games win stupid prizes as she’s finding out .

StoorieHoose · 01/09/2025 14:08

C8H10N4O2 · 01/09/2025 11:11

So both your cars will be at home and that fills the drive? So all the drama is unnecessary and academic, there is no space. Why can you or DH simply not say there is no space?

FWIW if I had the space available I would generally say “yes” in this scenario for such a small favour to a neighbour.

Show quote history

Double post

StoorieHoose · 01/09/2025 14:08

C8H10N4O2 · 01/09/2025 11:11

So both your cars will be at home and that fills the drive? So all the drama is unnecessary and academic, there is no space. Why can you or DH simply not say there is no space?

FWIW if I had the space available I would generally say “yes” in this scenario for such a small favour to a neighbour.

Show quote history

You read how the NDD has treated the op and you would still let them park on your drive? The NDD ignored the OP two weeks ago when she said hello - she would have know 2 weeks ago she was having a party and could have Been polite then but she wasn’t

StoorieHoose · 01/09/2025 14:05

If she asks tell her to get lost and move your car into the middle of the drive to insure no sneaky parking

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:58

Idontjetwashthefucker · 01/09/2025 13:51

Those telling OP to do it, would you park elsewhere just so a neighbour's guest could park on your drive? Really?

Op doesn’t have to

she has 2 spaces.

Her dh is at work til early evening

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:57

7372RR · 01/09/2025 13:23

Why would she say that she doesn't mind to someone who has blatantly ignored her, doesnt have the backbone to ask her directly, and set up a whatsapp group not including her? Stop encouraging women to be people pleasers.

OP isn't a rug to be walked over

Edited
Show quote history

As it’s no biggie to her

there will be room for a car

I agree with other replies

don’t cut your nose off to spite face

Redburnett · 01/09/2025 13:55

Just say no it is not convenient. Once you agree to this on one occasion it is likely that she will start telling guests on other occasions that it is fine. Set a precedent now by simply saying no.

Idontjetwashthefucker · 01/09/2025 13:51

Those telling OP to do it, would you park elsewhere just so a neighbour's guest could park on your drive? Really?

MyLimeGuide · 01/09/2025 13:43

PoshDuckQuarkQuark · 31/08/2025 17:54

If it's not convenient then say no.

If it wouldn't cause any bother then it would be a nice gesture.

Don't cut off your nose to spite your face...

Don't cut off your nose to spite your face...
Love this saying! 😆❤😂

7372RR · 01/09/2025 13:23

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:02

If she asks I would say yes you don’t mind this one time

but only till 4 as then you need to pop out but will be returning and dh will be back from work soon after that

Why would she say that she doesn't mind to someone who has blatantly ignored her, doesnt have the backbone to ask her directly, and set up a whatsapp group not including her? Stop encouraging women to be people pleasers.

OP isn't a rug to be walked over

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/09/2025 13:02

If she asks I would say yes you don’t mind this one time

but only till 4 as then you need to pop out but will be returning and dh will be back from work soon after that

Owly11 · 01/09/2025 12:36

She won’t ask you. But if she does you need to say no, because she has poor boundaries and will start using your drive again without asking.

rainbowstardrops · 01/09/2025 12:19

So she’s a cheeky fucker anyway and there would only be space for one of her guest’s cars anyway, so I’d tell her that you’re working from home and will be using the driveway for your car. What happens if her guest hangs around and is still there at 6pm when your DH comes home and needs the space?
Tell her the guests will have to park on the road like other people have to do.
I’d add that if she hadn’t been cheeky and nasty in the past then I’d let her squeeze a car on next to yours but not with her previous behaviour!

Billybagpuss · 01/09/2025 11:40

She’s not going to ask, she knows she’s been a twat and is too embarrassed

SuPollardsPolkaDotFrock · 01/09/2025 11:36

anon12345anon · 31/08/2025 18:09

Wtf!! Shock
She ignores you, shit stirs, and deliberately didn't invite you into a neighborhood WhatsApp group - would I fuck let her park on your drive!!!

Absolutely not!!

This is exactly how I would feel. Why is everyone ignoring the way this neighbour has behaved toward OP, and now only because she wants something suddenly starts talking to not her - but her husband asking for favours? Fuck right off love.

Original poster
cheeryi · 01/09/2025 11:36

The party is for her child’s birthday, it will be from 11am - 4pm but she will be having family stay over.

OH is at work until 6pm, so in theory there would only be enough space for one extra car until 6pm
The drive can only accommodate 2 cars.

I was always friendly and nice to her and she chose to side with another neighbour whom at the time she was close too (they have now fallen out) over a misunderstanding that was cleared up last week.

This other neighbour advised me to be careful of her.

When we first moved in she would have her visitors park here, our house wasn’t empty, she would direct her neighbours to park on our driveway until I told her to stop doing it.

I think I am just best staying clear of her, a simple hello if she talks but to leave it at that.

If she asks I will tell her it’s not convenient and leave it at that.

In not going to go out of my way to be nasty to her and confront her about excluding me from the Facebook group ignoring me, but I won’t be helping her or doing her any favours.

Being neighbourly works both ways.

OP posts:
C8H10N4O2 · 01/09/2025 11:11

cheeryi · 31/08/2025 20:27

When we first moved in she would actually tell her visitors to park on our drive.

I last saw her 2 weeks ago and when we both came out at the same time, I said hello to her and she completely ignored me.

She asked other people on our road to join her Facebook group but not me.

I would usually help neighbours out but she has been rude to me and it’s not nice excluding me from her Facebook group.

I would feel like a mug allowing her to park on the drive, and it would inconvenience us as then we wouldn’t be able to park our cars on the drive.

So both your cars will be at home and that fills the drive? So all the drama is unnecessary and academic, there is no space. Why can you or DH simply not say there is no space?

FWIW if I had the space available I would generally say “yes” in this scenario for such a small favour to a neighbour.