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Neighbour has asked to park on my driveway for party?

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cheeryi · 31/08/2025 17:39

Initially me and my NDN were quite friendly with each other, we would always talk etc.

Due to a misunderstanding with her neighbour on the other side (at the time she was closer to her, they were Fb friends etc) she stopped being so friendly with me.

One time we both come out at the same time and she just ignored me.

Anyway me and her other neighbour now talk and cleared the air about the misunderstanding it’s my NDD who has been exposed as a stirrer and a gossip.

My NDD also created a Facebook group page and everyone was invited to join apart from me.

Anyway long story short, it’s one of her DC’s birthday in few weeks and she asked my DH if her visitors could park on our drive on that day.

He advised her to ask me as I am the one who works from home.

AIBU to say no to her?

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ShodAndShadySenators · 04/09/2025 18:14

Does it say on the parcel's delivery instructions "If out leave at cheeryi's gaff"? If not, how do you know the driver didn't just try yours as you were next door?
I would absolutely not accept a parcel for a twatty neighbour like that either (so glad all my neighbours are lovely!)

She won't ask you about the parking as she only has the bottle to ask your DH, and he wouldn't help her out. She's a CF but she's craven

TwistedWonder · 04/09/2025 12:59

cheeryi · 04/09/2025 12:29

So she only went and ordered a parcel to be delivered to my house today whilst she was at work.

I refused to take the delivery and the driver had to leave it under a door to get soaked in the rain.

She has still yet to ask me about the parking.

So we were all correct - given the CF an inch and she’ll take a mile.

Well done for standing your ground

GAJLY · 04/09/2025 12:55

cheeryi · 04/09/2025 12:29

So she only went and ordered a parcel to be delivered to my house today whilst she was at work.

I refused to take the delivery and the driver had to leave it under a door to get soaked in the rain.

She has still yet to ask me about the parking.

She arranged for a parcel to be delivered to your house without asking you?! If so, that's very cheeky!

PigletSanders · 04/09/2025 12:45

cheeryi · 04/09/2025 12:29

So she only went and ordered a parcel to be delivered to my house today whilst she was at work.

I refused to take the delivery and the driver had to leave it under a door to get soaked in the rain.

She has still yet to ask me about the parking.

To be delivered to your house?! She’s a cheeky fucking twat isn’t she?

Change2banon · 04/09/2025 12:44

cheeryi · 04/09/2025 12:29

So she only went and ordered a parcel to be delivered to my house today whilst she was at work.

I refused to take the delivery and the driver had to leave it under a door to get soaked in the rain.

She has still yet to ask me about the parking.

I would have done exactly the same OP, well done.

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cheeryi · 04/09/2025 12:29

So she only went and ordered a parcel to be delivered to my house today whilst she was at work.

I refused to take the delivery and the driver had to leave it under a door to get soaked in the rain.

She has still yet to ask me about the parking.

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godmum56 · 04/09/2025 08:32

Change2banon · 03/09/2025 23:38

Well done you 🥇 Not sure you’d be so helpful if the neighbours were unkind/impolite to you 🤔🤷‍♀️

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Absolutely not, which I said upthread. My response was to the quoted post where the poster asked who had room for neighbours to park anyway.

ConnieHeart · 04/09/2025 08:09

Member869894 · 04/09/2025 00:05

I would let her park. You never know when you might need her. It's really stupid to make an enemy of the person who lives next door to you

OP didn't make an enemy of ndn. She did thar herself

Idontjetwashthefucker · 04/09/2025 07:25

Member869894 · 04/09/2025 00:05

I would let her park. You never know when you might need her. It's really stupid to make an enemy of the person who lives next door to you

So you're another one who would accommodate someone who's treated you badly...more fool you.

Glad to hear you decided to tell her no OP, I'd be telling her exactly why as well

Member869894 · 04/09/2025 00:05

I would let her park. You never know when you might need her. It's really stupid to make an enemy of the person who lives next door to you

Change2banon · 03/09/2025 23:38

godmum56 · 03/09/2025 11:02

I have got room for 4 or 5 cars on my drive and have let and offered my nice neighbours tge use of space when they are having parties or got workmen in.

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Well done you 🥇 Not sure you’d be so helpful if the neighbours were unkind/impolite to you 🤔🤷‍♀️

godmum56 · 03/09/2025 11:02

Change2banon · 03/09/2025 10:24

Let’s hope she doesn’t choose your option .. you can be a doormat in your life - don’t expect everyone else to be too. I suspect you’re the neighbour 😉

Just to point out the obvious .. where irl do neighbours visitors actually park on other peoples drives?? They park on the street, around corners .. anywhere - but not on other peoples drives 🤷‍♀️ So why does OP’s neighbour need a drive space for visitors? 😵‍💫

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I have got room for 4 or 5 cars on my drive and have let and offered my nice neighbours tge use of space when they are having parties or got workmen in.

TwistedWonder · 03/09/2025 10:49

Blablibladirladada · 03/09/2025 09:32

The op will decide and not you I believe ;)

Have a good day!

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As the OP said this on 01/09 appears she’s already made her decision - the correct one imo

If she asks I will tell her it's not convenient and leave it at that.
In not going to go out of my way to be nasty to her and confront her about excluding me from the Facebook group ignoring me, but I won't be helping her or doing her any favours.
Being neighbourly works both ways.

Change2banon · 03/09/2025 10:24

Blablibladirladada · 03/09/2025 09:32

The op will decide and not you I believe ;)

Have a good day!

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Let’s hope she doesn’t choose your option .. you can be a doormat in your life - don’t expect everyone else to be too. I suspect you’re the neighbour 😉

Just to point out the obvious .. where irl do neighbours visitors actually park on other peoples drives?? They park on the street, around corners .. anywhere - but not on other peoples drives 🤷‍♀️ So why does OP’s neighbour need a drive space for visitors? 😵‍💫

7372RR · 03/09/2025 09:39

Blablibladirladada · 03/09/2025 09:32

The op will decide and not you I believe ;)

Have a good day!

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These things happen, let it go and move to higher ground.

Says you - who told her to do this

Blablibladirladada · 03/09/2025 09:32

7372RR · 03/09/2025 09:14

OP doesn't need to "move" to any ground, she just needs to maintain the bar she has set for herself.

Which is not to be a walkover.

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The op will decide and not you I believe ;)

Have a good day!

7372RR · 03/09/2025 09:14

Blablibladirladada · 03/09/2025 06:01

Because that is way too much caring for that snobber. If she falls down to the snobber level, what good is it bringing her?

I would understand the strong desire to snub back for something a little bit bigger that she spoke wrong of her. These things happen, let it go and move to higher ground. The air smell less shitty 💩💩💩

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OP doesn't need to "move" to any ground, she just needs to maintain the bar she has set for herself.

Which is not to be a walkover.

Ivelostmyglasses · 03/09/2025 08:27

Ohnobackagain · 31/08/2025 19:15

I think say yes this time @cheeryi and make a point it’s a favour as it’s a special circumstance. You could request to join the FB group before you reply about the space 🤨

In all seriousness, I think it is worth extending the olive branch here for the sake of peaceful coexistence. You could ask her to leave keys in case you need to go out/swap cars about?

Neighbour doesn't sound the sort to create a peaceful existence regardless. I'm in and out all day working from home and would not want to/or have the time to be moving other people's cars. Neighbour is a bully. If the OP doesn't want to share her drive she just says no.

TwistedWonder · 03/09/2025 08:27

Goldengirl123 · 03/09/2025 08:14

I would say “you have blanked me all this time and now you want to use my driveway?’

I agree with this. Look her dead in the eye and say you’re asking me for a favour, really?’

I can’t believe how many people think rolling over like a doormat = being the bigger person.

Nope - treat people the way they treat you. That’s not petty it’s matching energy.

zaazaazoom · 03/09/2025 08:18

Fairyforest · 31/08/2025 17:58

I am a firm believer in karma and what goes around, comes around. It would be a no from me, but I have no interest in being friendly with neighbours anyway.

If you really believe in karma do you think by being petty you will get good karma or bad?

OP life is short. I always aim to be the better person.

Seismicshift · 03/09/2025 08:17

So room for one car until 6pm? Assume side by side so won't block you in?

To be honest I'd wait for her to ask me directly (important!) then probably say yes, because it may be one day you need a favour from her. It also makes you the bigger person. Ignore everything else.

Goldengirl123 · 03/09/2025 08:14

I would say “you have blanked me all this time and now you want to use my driveway?’

Blablibladirladada · 03/09/2025 06:01

Change2banon · 02/09/2025 23:37

Why should OP be a doormat? Especially to someone who has snubbed her? 😵‍💫😵‍💫

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Because that is way too much caring for that snobber. If she falls down to the snobber level, what good is it bringing her?

I would understand the strong desire to snub back for something a little bit bigger that she spoke wrong of her. These things happen, let it go and move to higher ground. The air smell less shitty 💩💩💩

Change2banon · 02/09/2025 23:37

Blablibladirladada · 02/09/2025 18:58

Arf, say yes and be done with it.

Plus if she says bad stuff about you after that…people won’t rally.

Why should OP be a doormat? Especially to someone who has snubbed her? 😵‍💫😵‍💫

Blablibladirladada · 02/09/2025 18:58

Arf, say yes and be done with it.

Plus if she says bad stuff about you after that…people won’t rally.

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