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Would you like to round up to £1? No I fucking wouldnt.

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DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

OP posts:
liveforsummer · 01/09/2025 19:38

It does it on the tills at the pub I work at - I cancel it off before asking people to pay. It’s a pain in the backside and gets confusing especially for elderly people

Pres11 · 01/09/2025 19:34

I say no every time, I give to charities of my choice when I choose to.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 01/09/2025 19:32

immalesorry · 31/08/2025 18:37

Perhaps I'm missing something here, but I've tended to the view that the important part of giving to charity is that a worthwhile cause is supported, not that my name gets publicity about the 20p I've donated.

I've tended towards the view that the important part of giving to charity is that a worthwhile cause is supported, not that a massive shop gets publicity and good PR for passing on the 20ps that others have donated.

RubieChewsDay · 01/09/2025 19:31

sleeppleasesoon · 31/08/2025 18:40

McDonald’s makes extortionate profits. It would be spare change for them to build those places.

It’s shameful they ask working people to donate. They’d be the last ‘charity’ I’d donate to.

The houses aren't fully funded from the donations at the tills, McDonald's also donate from their profits.

mathanxiety · 01/09/2025 19:28

CatsnCoffee · 01/09/2025 18:58

It’s embarrassing because there’s usually someone standing in the queue behind you,observing and judging you. There have been periods of my life where I was counting every penny to get by. During a cost of living crisis there will be many in that situation. To put people in that awkward position is actually quite cruel.
Just to be clear; I currently donate monthly to 3 charities and I’d happily give more when I can. It’s the method employed by these retailers which I find objectionable.

Why do you think people's lives are so empty that they have nothing better to occupy their minds than observing and judging whether the people in front of them in the checkout line decided for or against spending an extra 20p?

And even in the million to one chance that they were tutting, why would the alleged judgement of people you don't know from Adam bother you in the slightest?

mathanxiety · 01/09/2025 19:24

blueclip · 01/09/2025 18:56

It doesn’t cost virtually nothing if you visit several shops and go frequently. It actually adds up. People often don’t like to click no as they feel really guilty so it’s a bit of a charity mugging, rather than a willing donation in many cases. I once went through the finances of a struggling relative - 3 charity direct debits that they just couldn’t afford but had trouble saying no. Relative also gave to people wanting money on entering the supermarket. This is a person who couldn’t afford to eat properly!

'Feeling really guilty' is a Them problem that they should address.

People who hand over money when they can barely afford to feed themselves need to give their heads a wobble. Nobody is forcing them to do anything. Common sense is a useful trait to muster up.

Dopeydoraz · 01/09/2025 19:24

I hate it. It sours the transaction

RubieChewsDay · 01/09/2025 19:24

ThingsgetbetterwithalittlebitofRazzmatazz · 31/08/2025 15:45

I always round up in McDonald's because I like to support the Ronald McDonald's houses. I generally decline in other shops. In a charity shop it would probably depend on whether I feel they have under or over charged for whatever I've just bought from them!

Me too! A friend stayed in one when her child was really sick and I know how valuable having that facility is for families so this is one I always say yes to.

I totally understand your point OP, but I suppose this is just the modern equivalent of having a collection box next to the till, where you'd drop in some of your change. It's just a bit more in your face as no one would ever have asked you to put the money in the box, you'd just see it and drop in some coins if you were in the mood.

Bournetilly · 01/09/2025 19:16

Usually when this comes up the staff seem to automatically press no themselves, if not I don’t feel bad pressing no but I’ve never had someone actually ask me, they have just let me read it myself.

LoyalMember · 01/09/2025 19:01

I tell them to do one, although politely. I donate a lot, and buy from charity shops quite often anyway, so I can do without their manipulative scrounging.

CatsnCoffee · 01/09/2025 18:58

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:47

Yes! It feels like shaming customers at the till. When I said no, the lady looked at me like I was stealing from the chaaarrrriiiteeee.

It’s embarrassing because there’s usually someone standing in the queue behind you,observing and judging you. There have been periods of my life where I was counting every penny to get by. During a cost of living crisis there will be many in that situation. To put people in that awkward position is actually quite cruel.
Just to be clear; I currently donate monthly to 3 charities and I’d happily give more when I can. It’s the method employed by these retailers which I find objectionable.

Sparklesandspandexgallore · 01/09/2025 18:56

I find it annoying and no I don’t donate.
I will donate as and when I see fit.
The charities I want to donate to, I research first.
It must be a pain for the cashier having to repeat themselves endlessly, I feel sorry for them.

blueclip · 01/09/2025 18:56

GiveDogBone · 01/09/2025 18:42

Oh the humanity! Just click “No”, how long does that take? 2 seconds out of your fucking pathetic life?

The whole point of this is that it costs virtually nothing to an individual, but to the charity it adds up to a windfall. And lots of companies offer to do the same (except round the pennies down) with your pay cheque. Same principle.

It doesn’t cost virtually nothing if you visit several shops and go frequently. It actually adds up. People often don’t like to click no as they feel really guilty so it’s a bit of a charity mugging, rather than a willing donation in many cases. I once went through the finances of a struggling relative - 3 charity direct debits that they just couldn’t afford but had trouble saying no. Relative also gave to people wanting money on entering the supermarket. This is a person who couldn’t afford to eat properly!

Scorchio84 · 01/09/2025 18:51

Philandbill · 31/08/2025 16:10

Same here. I do planned giving by direct debit each month and will give to street collections if it is a charity I want to support. Also sponsor colleagues etc. I press no at the supermarket, don't care what the cashier thinks as they don't know my finances. We don't go to McDonald's very often but if we do we round up; the Ronald McDonald house was amazing when my nephew was in ICU and it hadn't previously been a charity I was aware of. They do great work.

Yeah that's us too here with McDonalds, their foundation is one of the few (like Barrattstown over here too) that I fully support & round up when the opportunity arises but the constant rounding up requests gets old very quickly @ThingsgetbetterwithalittlebitofRazzmatazz

Havesomecommonsense · 01/09/2025 18:48

GiveDogBone · 01/09/2025 18:42

Oh the humanity! Just click “No”, how long does that take? 2 seconds out of your fucking pathetic life?

The whole point of this is that it costs virtually nothing to an individual, but to the charity it adds up to a windfall. And lots of companies offer to do the same (except round the pennies down) with your pay cheque. Same principle.

God are you always thus vitriolic to strangers on Internet forums?

Havesomecommonsense · 01/09/2025 18:47

I totally agree and also every coffee place now has would you like to add a tip on the card machine.
Hate it
Also hate all the upselling at the till as well.
I'm very grumpy these days!

GiveDogBone · 01/09/2025 18:42

Oh the humanity! Just click “No”, how long does that take? 2 seconds out of your fucking pathetic life?

The whole point of this is that it costs virtually nothing to an individual, but to the charity it adds up to a windfall. And lots of companies offer to do the same (except round the pennies down) with your pay cheque. Same principle.

RaininSummer · 01/09/2025 18:38

I always say no. I will choose which charities I donate to thanks. Shopping is expensive enough already and work also hits me every month for charity and food bank.

crazeekat · 01/09/2025 18:38

intrepidpanda · 31/08/2025 15:38

If i want to give to charity it will be a charity of my choosing, not Tesco"s

Exactly

PloddingAlong21 · 01/09/2025 18:37

Crushed23 · 31/08/2025 15:46

Oh, it’s everywhere. I live in the US where there is tipping culture (fair enough) but then I’m asked would I like add an extra $1 here, $5 there to such and such charity. If I said yes to all, it would literally be hundreds of dollars a month. I know nothing about the charities in question or the tax benefit to the companies asking, I just hit “no” every time.

The tipping culture in the US is utterly out of control. Unrelated to this whole thread but they simply need to pay their staff a living wage.

Didshejustsaythatoutloud · 01/09/2025 18:34

BishyBarnyBee · 31/08/2025 15:39

The place it really gives me the rage is WHS where they are robbing you blind with inflated prices because you are a captive audience at a motorway services or rail station, then they add a charity donation as well. Just no!

Yeah, think it was whs, who started this shite

RatherBeOnVacation · 01/09/2025 18:34

So in the U.K. McDonalds serves about 4 million people every day. Their charity is the Ronald McDonald Houses at hospitals - an amazing resource if you ever have a child in hospital long term.

If everyone donated just 1p that’s £40,000 per day. Over 364 days that’s £14.56m per year. That’s STILL not enough to cover running costs.

I am all for it so long as people know where the money is going and how it will be used. Random amounts to random charities - no thanks!!!!!

Strawberrydelight78 · 01/09/2025 18:32

You don't have to do it every time. Sometimes it's only 25p. I always donate at McDonald's as they have their own Ronald McDonald house which accommodation for families with children in hospital long term.

I stayed in 1 of those accomotios when my own cousin was fighting for his life. He sadly didn't pull through. But it makes so much difference to parents when family members can stay over to support them or just give them a much needed break.

Mackerelfillets · 01/09/2025 18:32

I really resent it. I already pay monthly to 2 charities. I ALWAYS choose no and I don't feel bad about it. I think its cheeky.

AngelinaFibres · 01/09/2025 18:30

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:38

Our Tesco makes 99% of shoppers use self service tills so I dont feel so bad pressing no.

I know the staff dont care and probably get fed up of asking. Apart from the woman in the charity shop who was quite out out when I (politely) said no twice.

I get asked if I'd like to buy a raffle ticket for 1.00 everytime I go into our local charity shop. Sometimes I say yes . Frequently I say no thank you, not today, but thank you for asking . If they judge me I don't give a toss.

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