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Would you like to round up to £1? No I fucking wouldnt.

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DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

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changeme4this · 01/09/2025 22:35

The practice that grinds my gears is the food bank trolleys in the supermarkets after the registers.

So the supermarket look like they are doing something for the charity, but the likes of you and me are paying the supermarkets full price for items being placed in those food bank trolleys!

AmberDuckBlue · 01/09/2025 22:06

I have never in my life done this and I never will. Only tips I've ever given are waiting staff and taxis.

Chompingatthebeat · 01/09/2025 22:04

Dopeydoraz · 01/09/2025 19:24

I hate it. It sours the transaction

Or sweetens it, depending on your take

fetchacloth · 01/09/2025 22:02

YANBU it grinds my gears too 😒 especially when there's queues in the shop.

MeandT · 01/09/2025 21:32

Bumblebee72 · 01/09/2025 20:23

I pay enough in tax to fund the lazy and feckless, like fuck I'm giving additional money to charities to fund them even more.

Well that's a lovely attitude, isn't it! I'm sure you also fund very hardworking teachers & nurses, but there are still charities that help various education & medical conditions with research & support.

Anyhooooo, I don't donate at the till because it's wildly tax inefficient. We do donate a substantial amount to the Trussell Trust on a monthly basis, which is both tax deductible to us and a direct replacement for the tax rate we feel we SHOULD be paying to ensure families working full time jobs - sometimes 2 jobs - can keep everyone fed. Clearly the polar opposite of how Bumblebee feels about how society should work, but there's room for many different opinions.

For anyone buying at a supermarket to put in the food bank donation trolley - I'd highly recommend switching to donating straight to a food bank charity direct. Even if you don't do a tax return to reduce your taxable pay, you'd be cutting out the profit to the supermarket in the shelf price, as the charity can buy direct from food wholesaler at far less inflated prices, so more money ends up as food in the hands of those who need it.

anon666 · 01/09/2025 21:05

You know what boils my nads, the fact that they apparently offset it against profits as a "charitable donation". So essentially a tax dodge.

No I will not round it up to reduce your tax bill, you absolute bstrds.

Blankscreen · 01/09/2025 20:47

The only one I do do is the Ronald McDonald houses as McDonald's actually donate a lot of money themselves.

Blankscreen · 01/09/2025 20:46

This pisses me off massively. I always ask the staff if the shop matches the donation and they don't in which case I refuse. Same as the food bank donation points. Do any of the shops match what the customers donate?

Zov · 01/09/2025 20:44

YANBU @DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays it does my head in. It's in most shops you go in now. Savers do it too. Every time! I shop in there 1-2 times a week, and every time, first I get, 'are you OK for perfume and batteries?' and then when I go to pay, I get a red button and a green button. 'Green to donate 20p to charity' they say. They don't say 'red to NOT donate,' which leads (some) people into thinking they have to donate. I just press red.

Fucking sick of it I am. And on top of this, you have some grabby twat in the foyer of Tesco, Morrisons, or Sainsburys (at least half the time you go in,) trying to get you to give your bank details to sign up to the charity they are working for. I just ignore them. #Sorrynotsorry I am sick of it now

GiddyDog · 01/09/2025 20:41

The only time I say yes is for Medicinema when I book cinema tickets and for Ronald McDonald House and that's because DS has benefited when he was younger.
I have a 'save the change' feature on my bank account where it rounds up purchases and transfers the extra to a separate savings account.
At the end of the month I use whatever is there to make a small mortgage overpayment, it's usually about £50 over the course of a month.
That's really quite a lot if I was saying yes to random donations every time rather than saving it in my own account.

TranceNation · 01/09/2025 20:33

Nope, because most charities have a lot of high paid manager's. Not paying their salaries.

pinkbackground · 01/09/2025 20:31

It irritates me too. If I want to donate to charity I know how to do it without the pressure.

TheMauveBeaker · 01/09/2025 20:26

Hard no from me, I only give to two charities. Neither of them have ever been an option when paying for something.

Bumblebee72 · 01/09/2025 20:23

I pay enough in tax to fund the lazy and feckless, like fuck I'm giving additional money to charities to fund them even more.

Effiex08 · 01/09/2025 20:23

I went to Megan's restaurant yesterday and they kept coming over with bottles of what I assumed was just tap water. Then I noticed on the menu it was "charity water". Unlimited filtered water for £1.50pp with 20% going to charity. Fair enough if they gave me a heads up and all of it went to charity, but they didn't even mention. Feel like this falls into the same category.

MumsGoneToIceland · 01/09/2025 20:17

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

I won’t donate in this way as they are doing it for tax relief purposes not charity purposes. I make my charitable donation separately .

AlexisP90 · 01/09/2025 20:12

Its literally everywhere. In the pub, the supermarket, restaurants..

Its not that Im tight - i always buy a food bank bag when I do my shopping but its the forcefulness of it.

Most people like it to be their idea to give to charity. It makes them feel good. Its the fact cash is dying that they do it. No one puts money into pots anymore because most of us dont carry it.

The guy in the pub now literally says "just click red in that" and leans over and clicks the cross. I can see why. I can see it in his eyes he is sick of having to ask..

OneKhakiFish · 01/09/2025 20:09

I just say no thank you, it's the hey we've got an offer on chocolate when you get to the till I think it's Poundland, I always say i'd love to but i'm a diabetic! 😉

catzrulz · 01/09/2025 20:02

My bank automatically rounds up anything to the nearest pound, which I chose to do.
I've just added up how much it was in August. £18:34, which goes into an interest account and I save towards Christmas.
That would be quite a lot to donate in a year.

MatriarchCaz · 01/09/2025 20:02

75p was asked in my local Tesco Express yesterday 😡

herbalteabag · 01/09/2025 20:01

I occasionally do it. Most of the time I say no.

Itchyfeetkeepmemoving · 01/09/2025 19:58

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:45

Yes they can. They can remove the charitable donations (that customers make!) from their profits.

As someone above said, they arent doing it out of the kindness of their heart!

I think you are misunderstanding how it works. Your donation is not part of their profits so was never going to be taxed.

RattlingTin · 01/09/2025 19:47

I don’t like it because my dad has dementia and he used to really struggle with this. (He’s now in a home). We did his main shopping but he liked being able to do top up shops at the local supermarket. He could just about manage this using his debit card. When the local supermarket introduced donations it flummoxed him because there was an extra step in the payment process. He often used to press the green button, even though he didn’t want to donate, because a green button seems like the right thing to press! At one point he was donating every time he bought a single pint of milk or a packet of biscuits. In the end, he got so confused and upset by it, we had to take over all the shopping, If they hadn’t introduced these donations I think he’d have been able to hang on to that small act of independence for a bit longer.

Owly11 · 01/09/2025 19:47

I say no every single time and don’t even think about it.

TheeNotoriousPIG · 01/09/2025 19:46

No, because the Yorkshire in me wouldn't let me! (Yorkshire folk, or just farming folk in general, have a stereotypical reputation of being tight-fisted. If it's true, it's probably part of my genetic code!).

Mind you, I'm the person who charity muggers avoid because I probably look too dirty/tired/smelly/poor after work. That, and I pleaded poverty because I am a farm worker, and LOOK, I even have iodine stains on my hand to prove it! It works every time, especially if I start rambling passionately about cows and sheep 🙂