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Would you like to round up to £1? No I fucking wouldnt.

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DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

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millymae · 31/08/2025 16:57

The only place I do is Macdonalds when using the self pay machines.

Someone posted on here sometime ago that being able to stay in a Ronald Ma Donald house whilst their child was receiving hospital treatment was an absolute godsend, and she urged everyone to round up their spend. What she said really really struck a chord with me and never having done so before I’ve done it ever since.
There are plenty of charities I wouldn’t give a penny to, especially when I’m being asked to do so or have a collecting box thrust at me, but I’m happy to let Ronald Macdonald have my change, assuming of course that it does actually filter in the charity’s account.

MyTommyGunDont · 31/08/2025 16:56

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:45

Yes they can. They can remove the charitable donations (that customers make!) from their profits.

As someone above said, they arent doing it out of the kindness of their heart!

They can remove the charitable donations only if they also bring your payment to the company into tax too. So it’s a net nothing for tax… there isn’t super deductions for charitable giving here like there is in the USA.

PissedOffNeighbour22 · 31/08/2025 16:54

When I collected a prescription at the chemist this week the chip and pin machine flashed up asking for a donation to charity. No idea who the charity was as there was no information anywhere. Things like that piss me off so I definitely won’t be donating 😡

Lavenderandbrown · 31/08/2025 16:54

Easy there @GenieGenealogy.did my post say it should be “staffed by volunteers”?? No it did not … but i can choose the donation of my choice at the time of my choosing while being informed about the salaries of their administration which can be in the six figures

if you Genie are content to donate to charities who hundreds of thousands of dollars of raised funds are used for paid salaries then donate.
Your sarcasm is unnecessary and your accusation unfounded. No one said volunteers

Mapletree1985 · 31/08/2025 16:53

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

I say no on principle. I could be saving all those 20p and making a donation of my own to my chosen charity at the end of the year.

carowils · 31/08/2025 16:53

I don't mind doing this as its a way to give to charity without giving your details so they hound you. I either donated or raised money for a few charities in the past and was subject to endless calls, emails, letters forever after until I moved house and changed my number and email. I am now very cagey about giving them my details because of that.

Agapornis · 31/08/2025 16:52

I work in fundraising and the best way to donate is to pay it direct to the charity, ideally online to minimise processing costs/staff time. CAF Bank is good too.

There are a few different models for customer donations via corporations.

A) Schmooze model: Named charity of the month/year at the till. Gets a cheque at the end of the period. It usually takes a lot of networking and staff time from the charity to get nominated. Not an open process.

B) Tiny grant model: Consumer gets to choose 1 of X amount of charities, the charities get £500/1000/1500 depending on amounts of plastic coins/app choice. Charities have to apply for this process, it's considered a grant but you have no idea how much you may get in return. Think Tesco, Co-op.

C) The tax avoiding model: Company sets up their own grant-giving charity. Your donation becomes a donation from the company to their own charity. The charity may or may not donate much to actual charities. Often charities have to apply for grants, this may be an open or closed process with lots of foggy unpublished details. E.g. how much they'll give, how often they give, application open and closing dates, how to apply at all. Big barrier is usually needing an employee to nominate you. This is usually office staff, not shop floor staff because they're not even told about it or have better things to do.

D) The tax avoiding PayPal model: Company sets up its own charity. Your donation becomes a donation from the company to their own charity. FakeCharity pays out the exact amount to chosen charity after 1-3 months. Charities have to register to be on the list of available charities to donate to, which is a pretty complicated and long process when they only get a tenner a year if they're lucky. Open process but a hassle.

Edit:
E) The 'it's a con' model. Company sets up it's own charity. Charity does whatever the hell it likes. Gatwick's nominated charity is the Gatwick Travelcare charity 😂 They're using it to pay to "help over 2,000 passengers with travel-related problems each year" like passport and missed flights... You know, the kind of thing that the airport should pay for!

MissHollysDolly · 31/08/2025 16:51

I only ever do it in charity shops. I hate it in other contexts

1990s · 31/08/2025 16:50

PauliesWalnuts · 31/08/2025 15:37

I refuse. They donate and say oh, this is from “insert retailer name here” when it’s the customers doing the donating.

This 👆

gotmyknickersinatwist · 31/08/2025 16:46

I don't give a shiny shite about looking tight.
I just decline, every time.
I support charities in other ways.

Same with automatically adding tips to card payments.
I almost always tip in cash, unless service doesn't warrant it, but with auto-tipping, it becomes a demand, rather than a discretionary expectation.

Soggydog · 31/08/2025 16:45

To be fair to tesco and their food bank lists, they weigh all the food collected and give a monetary amount to the food banks related to the amount donated as well as give all their fresh food going out of date. They do more than most realise.

Also always round up with mcdonalds having had friends use their accommodation. Other places I happily tick no without guilt. I wonder if staff genuinely judge as much as some on this thread think as they have always been fine with me for ticking no.

toomuchfaff · 31/08/2025 16:45

Even worse, paying for petrol and being asked on the card machine of id like to tip... no I don't want to tip at the petrol station...

nosleepforme · 31/08/2025 16:44

intrepidpanda · 31/08/2025 15:38

If i want to give to charity it will be a charity of my choosing, not Tesco"s

This

Youdontseehow · 31/08/2025 16:43

YANBU @DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays - I hate being asked as I donate to charities close to my heart rather than those chosen by companies. It really rips my knitting when flying back from somewhere and you get asked to donate to Jet 2s chosen charity - why don’t you donate a % of your profits instead?

Between this and everyone and their auntie asking for sponsorship for running/walking/fasting/watching TV or whatever, it’s like another tax! Don’t even get me started on Middle Aged men who want you to sponsor them to do something they’ve always fancied doing. Hey youdontseehow, fancy sponsoring me to do a trek to Machu Picchu? I’ve actually been asked to do this last year!

AugustSlippedAwayIntoAMomentInTime · 31/08/2025 16:42

Danikm151 · 31/08/2025 15:55

Agreed. To some 20p seems like nothing but it will all build up over the year.

Giving to charity should be a choice. Pestering for money isn’t charity.

Frankly a fair few big charities spend very little on what the money is raised for so I’d rather select a charity of my own choosing.

Agree with all of this

Being asked every single time you make a purchase or walk down busy areas in town for 'a donation' is exasperating, not 'charitable' if you feel pressured and bullied, and it adds up quickly.

mamagogo1 · 31/08/2025 16:42

@AtlanticStar

please do not donate cash to “homeless” beggars, quite a few are actually trafficked by gangs, others spend it on alcohol and drugs. Give donations to local projects who provide hotels, hot food or sandwiches etc eg many churches do this

PurplePantsofPower · 31/08/2025 16:41

I understand it might be irritating but consider the lost income to charities with the cashless economy. No one has spare change to pop in a jar nowadays and this seems a reasonable alternative, it adds maybe a second or two onto a transaction which feels like a minor inconvenience really.

ThePerkyEagle · 31/08/2025 16:39

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

Annoys me too.
It’s asked in a way that you will be judged if you say no. I always press no, I’d rather donate to charity when I know where it’s going and not “a charity donation”

JohnTheRevelator · 31/08/2025 16:39

I must admit that this hasn't happened to me very much,but it did remind me of an incident in a charity shop that happened last winter. I picked up a cardigan that was priced at £4. I handed the lady serving a 5 pound note. She then said 'Oh we've got a half price sale on today,so that's 2 pounds. I replied 'I've got 2 pounds in change,saves me breaking into a fiver'. I gave her the 2 pounds,which she put in the till. I waited for her to hand my 5 pound note back. She looked at me a bit puzzled and said 'Was there something else?' I said 'Yes,my 5 pounds'. She laughed looking a bit embarrassed and handed it to me. As I walked away from the till towards the door,I distinctly heard the other woman behind the till mutter to her 'Nice try!'. 😱

redshoes2017 · 31/08/2025 16:38

I am a paid sales assistant in a charity shop and a company wide email has been sent out saying we must ask every customer to round up after every transaction- I don’t want to do it because it feels like begging but I don’t know if it would compromise my job if I refuse. Does anyone know of my employer can fire me for refusing to ask ?

BunnyLake · 31/08/2025 16:36

I always say no thanks (or press the decline on chip&pin). Charity begins at home and that is mine in these difficult days.

Cattenberg · 31/08/2025 16:35

PauliesWalnuts · 31/08/2025 15:37

I refuse. They donate and say oh, this is from “insert retailer name here” when it’s the customers doing the donating.

I didn't know that! But I've seen a few shop assistants select "No" on my behalf before handing me the card reader. Maybe they disapprove of the whole thing.

What annoys me too, is when I pay fairly steep admission costs to a heritage site such as the Tower of London. I'm then asked if I'd like to make a suggested donation to pay towards the maintenance of the site. Caught on the spot, I agreed once, and then thought, "hang on, where is all the money from the sale of tickets going? Haven't I already contributed to the site maintenance?"

CopperWhite · 31/08/2025 16:35

Most of the time they don’t even tell you what charity they want you to donate to. I wouldn’t mind so much if each company that asked for donations was clear about what charity they are supporting, why they have chosen it and what the company itself was doing to support it other than badgering customers for money.

Cucy · 31/08/2025 16:31

I’ve never had to say yes or no to a person though.

If it’s a manned till then they’ll often just tell me and say to press green if I want to donate.

Thissickbeat · 31/08/2025 16:30

I don't mind doing it in McDonald's. There's the option of rounding up to the nearest 10p, 50p or pound.
I've heard good things about the Ronald McDonald hospital flats.