Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Would you like to round up to £1? No I fucking wouldnt.

384 replies

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:28

I cant be the only one who is getting increasingly pissed off at being asked to donate 20p everytine I pay for something?

The recent one in a charity shop was being asked to round up to the nearest pound AND then being asked to donate 25p. In fact, it wasnt even asked, it was "shall I round it up?" and "press green to say yes".

I always end up feeling really tight but apart from the fact that it would cost a fortune if I gave a donation every time I was asked, I really resent that businesses get tax relief for this whilst also bragging that they donated £x to charity.

OP posts:
user1471538283 · 31/08/2025 17:48

Poundland ask for 25p. It's madness considering I'm going into Poundland because the bleach is 20p cheaper. If a company wants to donate they can do so themselves.

stimpy1 · 31/08/2025 17:46

Absolutely agree, the verbal request really irritates me... Looking at you superdrug. I also round up in McDonald's as I love to support their charity but the rest I find hugely irritating in the same way I won't respond to people who accost you in the street. I will decide when and where I donate 🤬

AngryBookworm · 31/08/2025 17:44

I don't mind so much in charity shops (though nobody should be made to feel guilty for not doing it so I voted YANBU). I never do it in supermarkets or other shops though. It also annoys me when I'm invited to 'donate' money or points (eg cashback on my credit card) to charity. Er, no, if I want to donate to charity I'll do it myself rather than you being able to claim the credit for it.

MostArdently · 31/08/2025 17:36

The only place I do it rightly or wrongly is McDonalds because we stayed in one of the houses when my DD was little. Other than that I always say no.

Notmyreality · 31/08/2025 17:33

I just say no and/or press the red button. But I agree it’s ridiculous it’s everywhere now.

IzzyHandsIsMySpiritAnimal · 31/08/2025 17:33

TheRealMagic · 31/08/2025 16:10

I appreciate that it's more intrusive and direct, but presumably it's supposed to replace the old habit of putting your change in the collection box? Collection boxes must get very little now.

The problem with collection boxes is that people try to steal them. We've had ours ripped off the chain and taken before.

Funnywonder · 31/08/2025 17:28

It irritates me. I feel as though I’m being presented with a moral dilemma every time I buy my tinned beans and teabags. On the one hand, it’s just a few pence, but on the other, I want to make clear decisions about what I do with my own money, rather than feeling pressured to do so when I’m distracted or in a hurry. It strikes me as a bit sly and underhanded. One of the guys who works in our local Superdrug just reaches over and presses ‘no’ for everyone. Clearly not a fan!

Strider55 · 31/08/2025 17:21

I hate it as well. Why don't these companies who earn billions ever single year start rounding up to a £1 on what their customers spend and donating money to charity instead of asking their customers.

Maybe sacrifice those huge bonuses the CEOs and board of directors are getting. Oh, and pay their staff fairly and stop treating them like crap while they're at it.

3678194b · 31/08/2025 17:20

No, even if it's 1p I never say 'yes' at the checkout.

I do give generously and take part in activities to raise money for charities of MY choice, however.

KimTheresPeopleThatAreDying · 31/08/2025 17:17

Giving to charity is a good thing. I don’t resent it at all.

AugustSlippedAwayIntoAMomentInTime · 31/08/2025 17:16

millymae · 31/08/2025 16:57

The only place I do is Macdonalds when using the self pay machines.

Someone posted on here sometime ago that being able to stay in a Ronald Ma Donald house whilst their child was receiving hospital treatment was an absolute godsend, and she urged everyone to round up their spend. What she said really really struck a chord with me and never having done so before I’ve done it ever since.
There are plenty of charities I wouldn’t give a penny to, especially when I’m being asked to do so or have a collecting box thrust at me, but I’m happy to let Ronald Macdonald have my change, assuming of course that it does actually filter in the charity’s account.

Same

I knew someone who used it when their child had cancer.

It's one of the few I regularly do round up/tip on or put all my loose change in their collection boxes.

MyDarlingWhatIfYouFly · 31/08/2025 17:13

Shareholders expect big companies to do this sort of thing now - using their systems and resources to benefit charities is just one of the ways that profitable companies are expected to “give something back” - it’s reported publicly and a lot of investors will not invest in a company that doesn’t do it.

Personperson · 31/08/2025 17:10

DelphiniumBlue · 31/08/2025 15:47

When Tesco pays full tax on its profits then I might not get so annoyed about them asking me for money. But it's a hard no from me.
Reminds me of a charity I signed up to donate regularly to - within 10 minutes I had a call from them saying the amount I was donating ( a sum suggested by them) , approx £5 a month, wasn't enough because [admin reasons] so could I increase it ? I was flabbergasted at their CF-ery, told them no and that I was cancelling the monthly payment that had just been set up.

Omg who was that? Just so I don't donate to them, the cfs!

TequilaNights · 31/08/2025 17:10

I'm fed up with it.

I have round up to a pound on all my spending into my savings, and save loads a year this way - it adds up very quickly.

housethatbuiltme · 31/08/2025 17:08

Agreed.

I also hate restaurants where they hand you a card machine to pay and it asks you to put in a tip while they stand over you. We aren't American, you get paid to do that job (and its always places when its been the bare minimum done too, like they basically just brought a plate and annoyingly waited to asked if your foods ok when you have a mouthful like a chipmunk).

We can't afford to eat out anymore (use to regular but cannot afford it since COVID) as it is. Certainly don't have enough to be giving extra money away like Oprah on the odd special occasion we do manage to afford it.

We are in a cost of living crisis, why are we expected to help profiting business give to charity or pay their employees.

buymeaboaanddrivemetoreno · 31/08/2025 17:08

PauliesWalnuts · 31/08/2025 15:37

I refuse. They donate and say oh, this is from “insert retailer name here” when it’s the customers doing the donating.

This is exactly why i don't in major retailers. 'They' then give a donation which is really from the customers.

My other pet hate is when you are asked to donate to 'charity' but there is absolutely no information about what charity it is.

sleeppleasesoon · 31/08/2025 17:08

It’s too much.

Bills, food, public services are going up. Wages are stagnant. And now charities wanting more.

How about the rich give more. Their wages are going up lovely.

SmudgeButt · 31/08/2025 17:07

I have a simple reply. "no thanks - I work for a charity" and that seems to satisfy everyone. (& yes it was true until I retired a couple of months back)

Franpie · 31/08/2025 17:06

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 31/08/2025 15:45

Yes they can. They can remove the charitable donations (that customers make!) from their profits.

As someone above said, they arent doing it out of the kindness of their heart!

You’ve got this wrong, OP.

They are doing it to boost their ESG reporting for investors. Nothing to do with reducing profits or tax.

It’s a good thing. It is the modern equivalent of having a charity loose change pot next to the till.

Charities have been hit massively by the huge reduction of cash in our society with the move to electronic payments.

I recently met one of the founders of Pennies. This is the fintech charity that many retailers use to administer their rounding up donations. They do great work and it’s a fantastic idea.

Take a look at their website to see the impact that these micro donations, as they are called, has had….

https://pennies.org.uk/about-us/our-impact/

Our impact | Pennies

Together with partners, supporters and the customers who donate with Pennies, we are creating huge impact for communities across the UK, ROI and beyond.

https://pennies.org.uk/about-us/our-impact/

Itsabeautifulthing · 31/08/2025 17:06

I just press no. The worse for me is when people stand collecting for whatever charity (usually a local football team), at the exit doors in super markets with their buckets and hold them up to you while you try to squeeze past. I already donate monthly and rarely carry cash.

MyDeftDuck · 31/08/2025 17:05

I always refuse……..both of us make charitable donations to Air Ambulance, Alzheimer’s UK, and RNLI as well as being members of the RBL and IMO that’s enough. Add the occasional raffle tickets purchased at social events too and we are gifting quite a lot of money annually.

JudgeJ · 31/08/2025 17:03

newshoestoday · 31/08/2025 16:07

That’s appalling of them, I would have done the same! How rude!

About 15 years ago there was an almighty stink about charities signing up people for a monthly 'donation' then calling to bully them for a greater 'donation'. This particularly was aimed at older people and there were older people who were found to be 'donating' vast amounts each month to these scammers and impairing their own standard of living. There were/are companies who call saying they're representing a particular charity but then sell vulnerable contacts' details to other charities.

blueclip · 31/08/2025 16:59

It’s awful. Part of our drip drip drip money loss. When you have charity roundups in shops, parking charges in the car parks that used to be free, it’s little wonder people just use Amazon. And then add in subscription based stuff and you are just haemorrhaging money.

BIossomtoes · 31/08/2025 16:59

They can remove the charitable donations (that customers make!) from their profits.

Obviously they do because they’re not keeping the money! Why would they pay tax on money they’re collecting for a charity?

Philandbill · 31/08/2025 16:58

@Thissickbeat they were wonderful when my nephew was in ICU. His parents could afford a hotel but not having to sort that and being so close to the hospital (they slept in shifts) when DN was so poorly was so helpful at a horrible time. They have of course donated to Ronald McDonald house since and I think will always be grateful.