I probably spend too much time on mumsnet, probably because it is such a fascinating window into other people’s lives.
One thing that I have found completely astounding is how many women live in a set up where they are a SAHM (or work very part time and are almost a SAHM) but have limited access to money. It’s very much “his money” and best case scenario they may have an allowance. Just saw a post about someone being “gifted” some money from their DH’s bonus to buy themselves something. A bit like a child may be given some spending money.
Or alternatively women who work, have responsibility to home/children and struggle and pay their “share”.
In some ways their position, financially speaking, is worse than in the past because I think some men nowadays are really resentful about having to share their earnings (whereas in the past that was the expectation) but don’t want to do their share, so you get this really terrible dynamic of women who are the primary care givers but are are also really resented - almost like an unpaid nanny/housekeeper?