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Couple having sex in front of window

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doremifaso · 31/08/2025 10:05

My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

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LovingLimePeer · 31/08/2025 13:58

I would report this as a non-urgent report to the police. They won't do this again if they are spoken to and are aware that they are at risk of being prosecuted.

Shelly369 · 31/08/2025 13:58

Zov · 31/08/2025 13:57

Speaks volumes about those posters doesn't it? Wink

Yep. Makes you wonder about this place.

hididdlyho · 31/08/2025 13:57

Can you block the view by strategically planting something tall in your garden? I don't think there's anything wrong with posting a note in this situation, given you don't know these people and it's a pretty sensitive subject.

Zov · 31/08/2025 13:57

Shelly369 · 31/08/2025 13:56

Glad you’ve sorted it. Surprising isn’t it on mumsnet, how many people think it’s acceptable and those that make fucking stupid benny hill type jokes.

Speaks volumes about those posters doesn't it? Wink

Shelly369 · 31/08/2025 13:56

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:47

It’s been resolved now and I thank everyone who agreed that it’s not acceptable at all. To those who even considered it to be (given children were in the equation) either don’t have kids themselves or if they do, don’t give two about them!
Also says a lot about one’s character when defending such action.

Glad you’ve sorted it. Surprising isn’t it on mumsnet, how many people think it’s acceptable and those that make fucking stupid benny hill type jokes.

Whatafustercluck · 31/08/2025 13:56

Sorry op, just seen your update. How was it resolved?

ObstinateHeadstrong · 31/08/2025 13:55

You say it's been resolved so I hope you're right. My hall of residence at university faced a set of private flats. There was a man who kept exposing himself to the female students and we were told that we should report it to the police if we saw it as this is indecent exposure and is a crime. I cannot see how having visibly and obviously having sex is not also the crime of indecent exposure (or worse). They're absolutely breaking the law and posters saying to mind your own business are either fools or criminally minded themselves.

Zov · 31/08/2025 13:55

andthat · 31/08/2025 13:53

This.

some people on this site are absolutely bat shit.

There are certainly a small number on this thread.

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 31/08/2025 13:54

Blooming Nora - Props to the bloke with a massive penis that can be spotted from [nearly] a mile away.

Whatafustercluck · 31/08/2025 13:54

Yeah, I'm pretty open minded about quite a lot of things, and not a prude, but I wouldn't want my young dc to see that. It's fairly obvious they know they can be seen and will be getting a kick out of it. I think I'd be letting them know I don't want my dc to see their sex show, thanks.

Zov · 31/08/2025 13:54

SerendipityJane · 31/08/2025 13:52

This floated past my FB feed (I am an observer of "Angry people in local newspapers" which rather seems to suit the vibe)

https://www.stokesentinel.co.uk/news/stoke-on-trent-news/police-called-woman-climbs-car-10464502

This woman sounds like the same kind of attention seeking prat who likes to shag in front of an open window for all to see. Pathetic. Anyone who supports this kind of needy, attention seeking, childish behaviour, needs to give their head a wobble.

PebbleBeach1234 · 31/08/2025 13:53

My guess is they might enjoy the fact that other adults can see them but not have considered that children could be watching too.
Hopefully they'd feel sick at the thought if it's pointed out to them.

andthat · 31/08/2025 13:53

MsTamborineMan · 31/08/2025 10:20

It'd hardly prudish to not want your young children to see people having sex. Moat adults would be horrified that a child could see you shagging from their bedroom window

This.

some people on this site are absolutely bat shit.

PurpleSocks37 · 31/08/2025 13:52

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:47

It’s been resolved now and I thank everyone who agreed that it’s not acceptable at all. To those who even considered it to be (given children were in the equation) either don’t have kids themselves or if they do, don’t give two about them!
Also says a lot about one’s character when defending such action.

How was resolved? Did you write the letter?

Zov · 31/08/2025 13:51

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:47

It’s been resolved now and I thank everyone who agreed that it’s not acceptable at all. To those who even considered it to be (given children were in the equation) either don’t have kids themselves or if they do, don’t give two about them!
Also says a lot about one’s character when defending such action.

Oh cross post. That's good news! So, did you confront them?

SummerDaysAreTheBest · 31/08/2025 13:51

Iloveyoubut · 31/08/2025 10:29

What is everyone going on about? You can’t just ‘do what you want in your own house’ ffs. Is it ok for someone to stand bollock naked at their window and masturbate for everyone to see? No. No it’s not! And it’s not OP’s job to make sure her kids have to hide behind curtains in their own home to avoid them seeing a pair of idiots shagging. You’re will within your rights to phone the police if you want. You’re not allowed to just bang away in full view of people … believe it or not! Ffs.

This.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 31/08/2025 13:50

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:47

It’s been resolved now and I thank everyone who agreed that it’s not acceptable at all. To those who even considered it to be (given children were in the equation) either don’t have kids themselves or if they do, don’t give two about them!
Also says a lot about one’s character when defending such action.

How was it resolved?

TottyMaude · 31/08/2025 13:50

BigDeepBreaths · 31/08/2025 12:52

A note advising that your birdwatch camera has picked up them having sex…but that you managed to intervene on this occasion before oblivious DC posted it to Tiktok…

😂

DramaLlamacchiato · 31/08/2025 13:50

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:47

It’s been resolved now and I thank everyone who agreed that it’s not acceptable at all. To those who even considered it to be (given children were in the equation) either don’t have kids themselves or if they do, don’t give two about them!
Also says a lot about one’s character when defending such action.

No need to attack everyone else. You were the one who said it was some distance away, without quantifying that. It could have been the case they didnt know how visible it was.

Teanbiscuits33 · 31/08/2025 13:49

Zov · 31/08/2025 13:44

Actually, if the letter doesn't work, the next port of call is the police. It's indecent exposure.

Yes, I know it is. My point being is they are unlikely to be bothered by a letter from a member of the public because if they’re getting off by people seeing it, they will just have proof it works and they will laugh.

If OP reports it to the council and they get a professional headed letter from them with a warning, they might stop. If not, then police. That’s just how I would personally go about it. There is nothing wrong with people handling it differently.

Zov · 31/08/2025 13:49

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:12

Posters who are obsessed with the distance… it’s much less than a mile away. You don’t need binoculars to see. Anyone with decent eyesight can make out what they’re doing without purposefully ‘looking out for it’.

Do you want me to include a map or sketch for further analysis?

I think you should LOL, seeing as some people don't seem to believe you. I do. The 'it's OK to shag in an open window so everyone can see you' brigade are the ones who don't. Glad I don't live near them! 😬

the5thgoldengirl · 31/08/2025 13:49

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Mysterian · 31/08/2025 13:47

Film it and post it on a relevant site to earn a bit of money.

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:47

It’s been resolved now and I thank everyone who agreed that it’s not acceptable at all. To those who even considered it to be (given children were in the equation) either don’t have kids themselves or if they do, don’t give two about them!
Also says a lot about one’s character when defending such action.

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