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Couple having sex in front of window

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doremifaso · 31/08/2025 10:05

My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

OP posts:
yellowbuzzybee · 01/09/2025 19:30

I would go round to the house knock on the door when they answer I would say it’s nice to see you with so much clothes on ha ha ha. My kids can see you having sex through your window. Can I kindly ask that maybe you close your curtains when you’re having sex? Of course it’s natural, but they’re only young and I’d rather them not see you pounding each other doggy style and what not.

Suusue · 01/09/2025 19:29

You are NOT being a prude. Who the hell wants to see that! Especially your children. They are obviously doing it on purpose for attention and it turns them on. Idiots. Don't write no point Maybe put some film up on your window thst faces them??

TheFoxylady · 01/09/2025 19:17

Moveoverdarlin · 31/08/2025 10:23

My husband said he saw a lot of detail.

*LOL! Whilst clutching his binoculars and furiously wanking.

@Moveoverdarlinthis made me spit my cup of tea out 🤣🤣

GiveDogBone · 01/09/2025 18:54

You’ll know that they’ve seen them when they ask for binoculars for their birthday.

Vynalbob · 01/09/2025 18:52

A man got charged with indecent exposure while looking out of his sitting room window naked as a bus went by (about 25 feet away at a guess). At the time I thought it harsh. So it depends if guess on how obvious it is. Dropping them a note is reasonable, but if it's ignored you'll have to either live with it or contact the police.

Spinmerightroundbaby · 01/09/2025 18:23

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 10:05

My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

Who have you been told that by? That you don’t have a right to complain? Even if it’s in their own home if it’s visible, it’s still potentially an offence or antisocial behaviour. Years ago there was a couple who got an ASBO for all the noisy sex they were having in their own home. I’d politely put a note through their door letting them know and then if they don’t change their ways, report it to the police or council.

FluffySnugglyBlankets · 31/08/2025 22:08

80smonster · 31/08/2025 13:15

Had you considered blinds for your house? I’d tell you to stop looking through my windows if that letter appeared on my doorstep, or even forward to the police: peeping toms! Are you in a newbuild by chance? They are often very clumsily squished into landscapes in my opinion.

Edited

Blinds shouldn't have to be closed during the day in living areas. With that attitude, I'd be complaining to the police about indecent exposure.

THisbackwithavengeance · 31/08/2025 19:36

heldinadream · 31/08/2025 10:24

Light on and big windows?
It's deliberate. It's exhibitionism.
I'd be tempted to get the police to have a word.

This. They’re getting off on being seen. Unacceptable if you can easily be seen by minors. It would be perfectly reasonable to knock on the door and ask them to get a grip.

DeeKitch · 31/08/2025 18:28

Ask other neighbours in a joking way if it would be legal to record them and make a fortune on OF

it might filter back to them

Pinstripepillow · 31/08/2025 18:22

SerendipityJane · 31/08/2025 18:19

Not as high as the converted loft window ...

Ha true. The type of people who put it out there for all to see are never the type that you want to see.

SerendipityJane · 31/08/2025 18:19

Pinstripepillow · 31/08/2025 18:16

My standards are high.

Not as high as the converted loft window ...

Pinstripepillow · 31/08/2025 18:16

Pedallleur · 31/08/2025 17:49

Glass half empty there!!!

My standards are high.

Memberofstaff · 31/08/2025 18:04

Yes, people can do what they like in their own home BUT there are limits. They are in full public view and therefore subject to laws on nudity and indecent behaviour.

I would write a polite note to them, explaining about your children.

They might be doing it to be watched, but I imagine little children wouldn't be their target audience.

Moonlightfrog · 31/08/2025 18:02

Yes people can do what they want in their own homes….but with the curtains closed so people don’t have to see. Of course it’s not ok to fuck in front of a window that others can see into. I would call the police.

FluffyBoob · 31/08/2025 17:55

write an anonomous letter

Pedallleur · 31/08/2025 17:49

Pinstripepillow · 31/08/2025 16:41

Urgh. You don't even know if they're a pair of mingers and you'd be all over it?

Glass half empty there!!!

SerendipityJane · 31/08/2025 17:44

Indecent exposure carried out by lone males is, quite rightly, condemned. So why is it ok if a couple do it?

Maybe it's like electricity and they cancel each other out ?

AnnaQuayInTheUk · 31/08/2025 17:44

heldinadream · 31/08/2025 10:24

Light on and big windows?
It's deliberate. It's exhibitionism.
I'd be tempted to get the police to have a word.

This.
All the people saying "don't look" or "close your curtains" are ignoring the fact that this is being done to satisfy their fetish. They are doing it knowing that neighbours and passers by - including children - can see what they are doing

Indecent exposure carried out by lone males is, quite rightly, condemned. So why is it ok if a couple do it?

SerendipityJane · 31/08/2025 17:43

Neighbourhood Watch

Snort

Jennyathemall · 31/08/2025 17:40

Rosscameasdoody · 31/08/2025 16:31

One poster insinuated that he was wanking furiously at the sight, despite the fact that OP said he saw them while putting their kids to bed. Either reading comprehension is in the toilet or it’s just wilful misunderstanding !!

They were obviously making a joke. Are you always so gullible?

Notmyreality · 31/08/2025 17:35

Rosscameasdoody · 31/08/2025 16:31

One poster insinuated that he was wanking furiously at the sight, despite the fact that OP said he saw them while putting their kids to bed. Either reading comprehension is in the toilet or it’s just wilful misunderstanding !!

Or it’s a joke. Honestly do you take everything you read at face value?

Doseofreality · 31/08/2025 17:30

“Dear couple at No. xx

As you are aware, we thoroughly enjoy watching the displays of sexual activity you put on for our benefit. However, we are saddened to say that your performance recently has been somewhat underwhelming and lacking in any technical ability. The sex on “insert date your husband saw then” was a particular low point as the male participant lacked any real enthusiasm and, at times, looked thoroughly bored.

Yours, in anticipation of a return to previous form

Neighbourhood Watch”

Shove that through their door ideally with a box of Viagra attached. Should render the bloke impotent until you can move.

Daygloboo · 31/08/2025 17:23

LakieLady · 31/08/2025 17:15

I was wondering about that.

I figured the houses might be on a slope, so that loft level on the neighbours' house is in line with the first floor on the OPs.

I'm also intrigued as to how far "a distance" is. The house opposite mine is about 20 yards away, and I wouldn't call that a distance. And I really can't see more than a couple of feet into their front rooms. If they wanted to engage in public shagging, they'd have to stand in the window to do it.

😂😂😂oh God. This thread is really starting to make me snort with laughter. I'm just imagining what sort of people would go to the trouble of standing in a window to have sex so that everybody could see. The tears are literally running down my face. I think I'm gonna die in a minute.

Bloodyscarymary · 31/08/2025 17:22

I would write to them and let them know you have young children who can see them from that window. Perhaps they are mildly exhibitionist but hopefully the knowledge that it’s actually little children that can see them (rather than turned on adults as perhaps they are imagining) might put a dampener on their antics. You don’t lose anything by trying.

SerendipityJane · 31/08/2025 17:21

LakieLady · 31/08/2025 17:15

I was wondering about that.

I figured the houses might be on a slope, so that loft level on the neighbours' house is in line with the first floor on the OPs.

I'm also intrigued as to how far "a distance" is. The house opposite mine is about 20 yards away, and I wouldn't call that a distance. And I really can't see more than a couple of feet into their front rooms. If they wanted to engage in public shagging, they'd have to stand in the window to do it.

I'm starting to realise why there are always footprints in the snow.

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