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Couple having sex in front of window

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doremifaso · 31/08/2025 10:05

My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

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Owly11 · 31/08/2025 10:24

They sound like exhibitionists who aren’t going to put curtains up for your sake, so there’s probably very little you can do. I would just ignore them and not give them the pleasure of knowing that anyone has even seen them, let alone been watching them.

heldinadream · 31/08/2025 10:24

Light on and big windows?
It's deliberate. It's exhibitionism.
I'd be tempted to get the police to have a word.

DelphiniumBlue · 31/08/2025 10:24

Either they don't know that they can be seen (or not averting their minds to the possibility) or they are exhibitionists and actually like the idea of being seen.
I suppose you could let them know that their antics are visible, just in case they didn't realise, but my guess is that they are well aware and like it that way.

DysmalRadius · 31/08/2025 10:24

You could put window film on the kids windows so they get all the light without the floorshow.

Moveoverdarlin · 31/08/2025 10:23

My husband said he saw a lot of detail.

*LOL! Whilst clutching his binoculars and furiously wanking.

jeaux90 · 31/08/2025 10:22

I’d write a letter.

MsTamborineMan · 31/08/2025 10:20

YetanotherNC25 · 31/08/2025 10:16

You could not look? Your DH has clearly watched them ‘in the distance’ to see that level of detail. Close your curtains if you don’t want to see.
They’re allowed to have sex in their house. They’re also allowed to to choose not to have curtains spoiling their floor to ceiling windows.
And don’t write to them or you’ll sound even more like a prude.

It'd hardly prudish to not want your young children to see people having sex. Moat adults would be horrified that a child could see you shagging from their bedroom window

ToKittyornottoKitty · 31/08/2025 10:20

How hard is he watching to see all that detail ‘in the distance’ while putting his kids to bed really? Doesn’t sound like he just shut the curtains which would be my first step

ElfAndSafetyBored · 31/08/2025 10:19

So PPs think it is OK to put on live sex shows? I’m not sure it is. It sounds like indecent exposure to me.

It’s not like OP has gone looking for it, or snuck into their garden to watch. She’s in her own home.

Personperson · 31/08/2025 10:17

Just close your curtains?

They can do what they want in their house. Your responsibility to make sure your children don't see.

MirrorMirrorontheFall · 31/08/2025 10:16

Honestly? I wouldn’t do anything at all.

If I caught a glimpse of them doing it, I’d roll my eyes, look away, and leave them to it.

YetanotherNC25 · 31/08/2025 10:16

You could not look? Your DH has clearly watched them ‘in the distance’ to see that level of detail. Close your curtains if you don’t want to see.
They’re allowed to have sex in their house. They’re also allowed to to choose not to have curtains spoiling their floor to ceiling windows.
And don’t write to them or you’ll sound even more like a prude.