Couple having sex in front of window

How far away is the house?

Some of the PPs sound like they are making the OP’s husband out to be a voyeur which is ridiculous and I’m assuming by “he saw a lot of detail” possibly means seeing them change position rather than getting his binoculars out.

Large windows, with the lights on means they want to be watched. I’d report them as it’s gross indecency. I think sending a letter would just add to their excitement!

I wouldnt want my kids to see this disgusting behaviour!!....

but id certainly watch with some ice cream!

You'd photograph people having sex?

I can’t believe some of these responses. To me it’s public indecency. I would take photo evidence and go to the police.

The house is in the distance, I suspect op dh was using binoculars

It's performance sex, did your dh close the kids bedroom curtains as soon as he saw , how far away is their house,

It would only be indecent exposure if the couple are aware they are being watched, if they have intent for someone to see.
It would depend how far in the distance the house is, it could be so far they think they won’t be seen? Or it could be 100m away which you presumably would know you’d be seen

People on these types of threads always say “just don’t look”.
If some creepy guy flashed at your kids in a park would you tell them “just don’t look”? No, you’d call the police.

This couple can’t be so stupid as to not know they can be seen. If this was a single man wanking in front of the window would you all be so calm then? I’d be having a word with them and, if it continued, calling the police. Because by that point it would definitely be deliberate.

Letters will be ignored.

If you can go near enough to the house to be heard then fake noises or applause or cheering comments will probably do the trick.

Two different adults have already seen them, once during the day and once in the evening, so it is only a matter of time before children see them. I would definitely tell the neighbours concerned and say that if they are seen again, you will report them to the local police.

I think the issue is how far in the distance is it and how frequently you are actually looking into their window. Because a neighbour mentioned to you what they once saw, have you been subconsciously now looking to see if you spot anything?

I think you could report them actually. In the same way ppl can play music in their homes as long as it’s at an acceptable volume and doesn’t impact others - ppl are allowed to decorate and conduct activities in their home - as long as it doesn’t adversely affect others. Having sex in the afternoon or in front of windows with the lights on would be negatively impacting children. People have sex in their gardens and this is a grey area - but in a well lit window that ppl would naturally look at if it was dark - it’s all very well to say “dont look”.

Would you be happy for your (or any) 5 year old to glance up and see two naked people engaged in doggy or oral sex? Or choking, domination, degradation or potential consensual violence?

Telling them to “look away” is a bit late once they’ve seen it!

Outraging public decency etc are included in laws I can’t be bothered to look up right now, but there’s a difference between having sex in your house with the lights off and no curtains (or lights on in a cottage in a remote location where there is a greater expectation of privacy), and choosing to expose yourselves by putting the lights on in a curtainless room, or during the day when ppl can see in. That smacks of getting off on ppl watching or the thought that they might. But when this includes children who live nearby or would be walking past, living nearby, or on the way to the shops etc, that’s pretty gross and also potentially paedoey.

I mean, this. Draw the curtains instead of looking.

I disagree with the idea that you can do whatever you want in your own house. Does this mean a man could stand in his window exposing himself to passers by? Of course not

What is everyone going on about? You can’t just ‘do what you want in your own house’ ffs. Is it ok for someone to stand bollock naked at their window and masturbate for everyone to see? No. No it’s not! And it’s not OP’s job to make sure her kids have to hide behind curtains in their own home to avoid them seeing a pair of idiots shagging. You’re will within your rights to phone the police if you want. You’re not allowed to just bang away in full view of people … believe it or not! Ffs.

I don’t want to see people shagging never mind children being exposed to it. I’d make it clear in my note that children are able to see them and suggest a privacy screen when they are having sex. I can understand people not wanting blinds or curtains but no-one wants to see them at it. I don’t know what you can do otherwise unless you think they are deliberately exposing themselves, in which case have a chat with the police. You could have some sort of privacy film on your kids bedroom but I personally wouldn’t want to do that.

I don't know if it's going to make a difference because I think some people like to be exhibitionist and find it risky knowing people could see. Sounds like this is why they are doing it.

I don't agree with previous comments saying don't look, shut your curtains etc. You shouldn't need to modify your behaviour and keep your kids room curtains shut 100% of the time due to selfish behaviour of others.

We have floor to ceiling windows and would always make sure the blinds are closed and we’re away from them as even shadows aren’t what neighbours want to see.

It seems like they are doing it on purpose for an extra thrill if people seeing them. I think somebody needs to knock on or post a letter and if it doesn’t stop I might report them.

I can't believe some of the PPs.

Of course you can do whatever you like in your own home, but if they are doing it right in front of a massive window, knowing they can be seen by anyone INCLUDING CHILDREN then this is just grim.

My husband said he saw a lot of detail

So your DH was staring and watching? To see a lot of detail from a house in the distance that wasn’t a quick glance tell him to not let the kids catch him watching because he’ll draw their attention to it.

How far in the distance? I don’t think you can write a letter to a couple 200 yards away telling them where in their own home they can have sex.

This!

Just because they are physically in their own home doesn’t make it acceptable to show the public what they are doing, and it sounds as though they are getting a thrill out of it. Huge windows, no curtains and leaving the lights on? Honestly, why are people’s standards so low these days that they think this is ok? It’s horrible for others to see, and especially children.
I would write to them first and tell them to get some bloody curtains!