Couple having sex in front of window

It's really inappropriate of them and there are some dickish (oh so predictable) replies on this thread from posters falling over themselves to point out what a prude you are (you're not) and how cool they are (they're not.) It's indecent and disrespectful of your neighbours. I'd definitely try the letter but I'd expect it will be ignored, so perhaps then look at partial film on the windows so the sky etc can still be seen, whilst blocking out these self indulgent show offs.

Oh, stop mucking about at the back.

I'd speak to the police and ask them where you stand legally,

for the best view ?

It’s quite obvious that it’s indecent exposure. Tell the police. I can guarantee they won’t laugh, as…it’s not even remotely funny. It’s abusive.

Sell tickets.

I'd speak to the police and ask them where you stand legally, if it's illegal hopefully the police will have a word. If it's not a police matter I'd drop them a note and appeal to their better nature, even if they like the idea of adults seeing them surely they wouldn't want small children to see

Your neighbour clearly knew what she was doing when she installed floor the ceiling windows and no curtains in a room she gets fucked in.

I’d do everything I can to protect your children from this.

Or maybe the neighbours could just stop having sex in a place where they clearly know they can be seen from neighbouring properties?

This is not the OP's problem to fix. It is inappropriate and probably something the neighbours get off on. A letter is the way to go, nothing hugely formal, just a casual note telling them that just for their information their bedroom windows are clearly visible from the upper floors of No 76 or whatever. If they carry on, then yes, I think this is something worth reporting.

It's about the children seeing it. No problem about them knowing about sex but you do not want their first introduction to be from seeing exhibitionists doing it - and maybe doing things that you might wish your children to learn about more gradually and when old enough to understand.

It is all very well to say pull the curtains - that is an adult choice - but does not solve the problem. A child cannot say: "Oh look what is happening there; I should not be looking at this/seeing this, so I must close the curtains!"

The parents cannot be running around checking what is going on over the road all the time, so as to be able to close the curtains at the appropriate moment.

I would contact them in whichever way you choose to tell them that you have a problem with this and wish them to turn off the light or get curtains. If they do not respond, I would tak with the local police.

I thiink it is potentially breaking the law - indecent exposure that is potentially upsetting children. I suspect though that the police wouldn't be interested but I might be wrong.

You could try a letter but I suspect that might backfire because they sound like exhibitionists but they might not be.

Probably the best thing to do is take measures to prevent your children from seeing them.

My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.

I bet your creepy husband did, dirty bugger. 🤣

How about, if you like seeing sunsets and stars, look at the sky, not your neighbours’ window.

Send them a note saying politely as possibly they may not be aware but their sex shows are the talk of the steamie so could they possibly shut the curtains. They may absolutely not be aware they are being seen at night. Keep a record of what've you've sent. Or go and talk to them. If they ignore it then phone the police and ask for advice.
I think it is their problem people seeing it- its the same as flashing and from previous threads on here- the police will go and talk to them.

Also I don’t know why the hell people are expecting you to move your children’s room or keep the curtains closed at all times. Why the hell should you have to waste money or disrupt your living space to cater for a bunch of perverts.

I’d be putting a very firm letter through their door. Then can purchase a pair of curtains like any normal person and shag to their hearts content.

They're in their bedroom having sex. Perfectly normal. Their house is also apparently "at a distance" from yours. Presumably they aren't aware you can see them. If your DH has only seen them when putting the kids to bed, presumably it was night time and he drew the curtains on the kids' windows?

Dh was so shocked by their public display, he nearly dropped his binoculars.

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It’s disgusting and perverted theyre doing it knowing fine well children could be watching. They sound like a bunch of exhibitionists and creepy ones at that.

I’m in my twenties and no prude but I would be mortified if I knew people could see me having a shag, especially children!

As for those insinuating your husband is a creep for watching, I think most people would out of being shocked. It may have been only for a few seconds.

You’d better believe I’d say something. It’s really weird and disingenuous that posters on here are telling you to ignore it.
If the daylight shaggers were on here saying ‘AIBU: it’s not our problem that the neighbours’ kids can see us fuck’, they’d be given a roasting and rightfully so.
Mumsnet is seriously odd at times.

I'd assume if they're doing it in front of a window, then there's an exhibitionist element to their fun and it's intentional. They're getting off on it in other words. They need to be told that children are potentially seeing this and that others seeing it don't want to see it. They shouldn't need to be told but obviously they are self absorbed.

Many years ago I had a neighbour repeatedly expose himself to me in an upstairs window whilst I was in the garden.

I ignored it until he did it when the downstairs flat’s children were in the garden and they noticed. The police took it seriously. Not sure of the outcome but he didn’t do it again (and then I moved away).

I think this is similar.

Either they're exhibionists or don't have a clue that they are part of an x-rated show for their neighbours.
I do understand your fears and I would not be happy about my children viewing it. So my solution would be to place privacy film on your son's bedroom window. Not the ideal solution, but it's what I'd do.
Edit to add, I would also contact the Police to ask their opinion.

Yes, people can do what they want in the privacy of their homes, but...having sex right by a large window (where people can see what you're doing!)...I'm sorry but no, that is not on at all. I'd report/talk to them/write to them. This isn't a walk through a red light district, neighbours don't want to see the equivalent of a sex show, and kids should not be seeing this sort of thing at all. The couple can't be that stupid that they don't realise that they could be seen by all and sundry. I sleep with curtains open (I like the natural light coming into my room to wake me up) but I always close my curtains before I undress/change as I don't want neighbours/kids playing out seeing me undressed.

You should close your curtains but not the people putting on a live sex show, typical Mumsnet 😆

haha yes well what does that mean? That visibility is clear and good? Any 'detail' is only a question of that. Somehow though it sounds like he's saying that from their positions etc you could see into her pussy 😂😂

Ok well I'd keep the curtains shut and I might even move the kids bedroom.

You could write a letter but it might make them do it more.

What kind of a street it is?! How far away are they? They must know people can see them..

Surprised people are jumping on you, I mean either they dont know they can be seen or they do and they like the idea, some people do as a form of reverse voyeurism.

However that's bringing people into your sex life without their consent, it's not like they live in a detached house and someone would have to go really out of their way to see through the windows. If people (and kids) can see by doing something as normal as looking out the window then it's potentially a problem.

People saying close curtains etc, it's a bit like the freedom from and freedom to argument. They want to be free to have sex in front of open windows, you want your kids to be free from seeing their sex acts from yours. In this case I think children being able to look out of their windows at the world outside trumps a couple wanting to have sex in full view. If it was reversed then the children would have to have no view from their bedrooms so that seems more unready able to me than the amorous couple just shutting the curtains or a blind for their antics.