Couple having sex in front of window

I’d confiscate DH’s binoculars, for a start.

Mental isn't it? People going about their daily life must be the ones to adapt their normal reasonable behaviour to facilitate exhibitionists. More and more I don't believe many posters on here are authentic at all.

They are commiting an indecency offence if (a) on view, (b) sexual in content, and (c) deliberate. If they repeat it after being notified (some have suggested posting a letter - I would only get involved anonymously myself), they meet all three. Report to the police online.

They definitely know they can be seen, they’re doing it by a huge, unobscured window with the lights on 😅

It’s quite an easy fix for you to safeguard your children from this - put up blinds or window film to obscure the view from their rooms. When they’re going to bed I would expect the blinds to be down or curtains drawn anyway.

We have some good, inexpensive Venetian effect material blinds which you can adjust so they are fully or partially open or closed. B&Q etc do them.

I‘m not sure whether the couple doing it are braking any public indecency laws because they are so obviously doing it in plain sight - maybe you could research if you wanted to go down that route (sorry didn’t see the pps about this before posting)

Public Order Act 1986 (Section 5)
Outraging Public Decency (Common Law)
Sexual Offences Act 2003 (Section 66)

It's possible it could be illegal for them to be doing this, depending on if they seem to be deliberately performing the act knowing or intending for people to see.

I'd just report them to the police, they already know what they're doing, probably get a kick out of it.

Posters are being deliberately disingenuous to try to appear "cool". It's a very weird aspect of this forum.

Also the OP said "in the distance" and the oddbods are queuing up to make oh so clever quips about binoculars.

I read the OP as the house being at the bottom of the garden, across the road, round the corner - not RIGHT next door, or a side window of one house looking into the side window of another house. Unless you are particularly hard of thought, you can imagine houses you may have been in where you can clearly see into someone's kitchen from your kitchen. As I come down the stairs, I can see the upper landing of my neighbour's house which is about 10 feet away. If you have a back garden, which backs onto someone else's back garden, and they have a massive glass extension on the back with big windows, of COURSE you are going to be able to see into those rooms from the rooms at the back of your house. Especially when it's dark and their lights are on. You would clearly be able to see (as the OP says) that they were "going at it doggy style".

You do need to address this OP, either anonymously or by reporting to the police.

What would happen if OP was recording the view from her window and posted it online? Is that fair game too?

So the children have to have their curtains closed night and day?
That’s reasonable.

Indeed, the actual distance will certainly be important if it were to go to court for example.
The other side of a residential street vs 300m away would potentially be viewed very differently. I note OP has refused to respond on the requests for the distance.

I wouldn't want my children to see it but actually I wouldn't want to see it either and that is really an ok thing. There are a hundred different ways I could view people having sex if I want to but I don't want to. If you're the one having sex it's incumbent on YOU to do so privately.

And what would you want the police to do exactly?

I agree

Most people on planet Earth enjoy shagging and understand basic etiquette around discretion, rule number one being that you don't do it where there's even the slightest chance of children seeing you. You're not " cool" or " sex positive" for thinking this is acceptable.

I was subtly (maybe too much so) noting that the critical piece of this story has yet to be supplied.

Also who said OP doesn't have the right to complain...her husband? 😄 it's understandable she doesn't want her kids to see though, and if this couple are doing it in daylight the kids curtains probably won't be closed

That’s exactly what we felt too. In your case, I’d write a letter telling them that neighbours, including children, can see them. It’s not acceptable and unless they take measures to keep their private life private, you will involve the police to protect children.

If they think they are so far away no one can see, they’ll be mortified. If they’re doing it deliberately they might be concerned about a police visit.

Honestly, some of the responses on here!

You're not a prude, OP, and I wouldn't want my kids being able to see the neigbours having sex just be looking out of the window.

I think the first step is to pop a note through their letterbox explaining that you can clearly see their intimate moments from your kids' bedroom windows and suggesting that they install curtains or a blind to use at these times.

If that didn't work, then yes, I think speaking to the police is reasonable.

If you still have no joy, perhaps a leylandii hedge at the bottom of your garden would do the trick. Or a tall, fast-growing bamboo perhaps.

revising in sexual activity.

Thats one way to get the knowledge in.

To all the PP that think this is fine, do you have sex in front of your children ?

OP, of course it's not OK. Could you ring 101 and get some police advice on it? I'm sure people can be arrested for public indecency if they have sex in full view of other people whether in their own home or not.

Edited to say I just read the post from the police officer who said that police would take it seriously.

Try an anonymous note to start with, post it to them so not caught on Ring doorbell etc, and if they carry on, then contact police.

You can't keep your curtains drawn all the time just in case they fancy a bit.

Is that a joke?
In the distance means nothing.

Could be 100 yards or half a mile.

And unless there are no houses any closer, someone else is surely able to see them.

Victim blaming is oh so fashionable these days. I guess all these people who think it’s perfectly acceptable for kids to be exposed to a neighbour’s live sex show from their bedroom window are the kind of people who wander around naked at home and have sex whenever and wherever it takes their fancy, no matter if their own kids see them at it, they’re in their own homes so can do what they like.

I would be seriously tempted to take a few photos with my telephoto lens and post them anonymously through their door. But wouldn't actually do it.

I'd put a note through the door saying you're sure they're not aware but they can be clearly seen engaging in sexual activity when they are in their bedroom by neighbours including from your children's bedroom. Then if it carries on, they don't put blinds up or similar you know they are doing it deliberately and can report to police. It is illegal to engage in sexual activity even in private premises when it can be seen eg the man masturbating in his bedroom knowing the double decker bus is due

How far away are they? You've not said.

"in the distance".