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Couple having sex in front of window

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doremifaso · 31/08/2025 10:05

My children’s bedrooms looks out toward a house in the distance that has a bedroom in which looks like a converted loft. They have big floor to ceiling windows and NO curtains.
We were told by my neighbour once that he saw the occupiers there having sex in full view in front of the window - this was during an afternoon.
My husband also witnessed their act just last night when settling the kids to bed. It’s not hard to miss because their light is on and they’re BIG windows. My husband said he saw a lot of detail.
Not to sound prude but I’m really concerned about my children one day seeing them doing it. I have both sons and a daughter and don’t really want to expose them to sex in this way.

I’ve been told I don’t really have much right to complain because it’s within their own home but I am thinking of writing a letter to politely ask if they would be able to get some blinds or curtains installed.
If they ignore it, is there anything else I could do?
What would you do?

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Cantheowneroftheredcorsapleasemovetheircar · 09/09/2025 14:23

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:12

Posters who are obsessed with the distance… it’s much less than a mile away. You don’t need binoculars to see. Anyone with decent eyesight can make out what they’re doing without purposefully ‘looking out for it’.

Do you want me to include a map or sketch for further analysis?

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yellowbuzzybee · 09/09/2025 14:12

you should start an only fans and start filming their action And charging for it. Then you can ask them if they want to go 50-50 on the proceeds

spoonbillstretford · 03/09/2025 05:37

People in glass houses, should lower the blinds before removing trouses.

Spike Milligan

Daygloboo · 02/09/2025 17:48

Cabinqueen · 02/09/2025 07:47

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Ooo er missus

Notmyreality · 02/09/2025 14:22

user1492757084 · 02/09/2025 05:53

No harm in telling the sexy neighbours that they can be seen. Tell them some neighbours have witnessed their intimate displays and relaise that their children might also see through their windows.

I would like the local Police to deliver a message like that - rather than me calling over with a note.
Ask the local Coppers to make a friendly call.

Who are these “local coppers” people keep mentioning? Haven’t had any local police around our way in years….

Zov · 02/09/2025 11:17

You said it's resolved now @doremifaso but half an hour before you said that, you were still having issues. How was it sorted in half an hour? What happened?

Cabinqueen · 02/09/2025 07:47

Moveoverdarlin · 31/08/2025 10:23

My husband said he saw a lot of detail.

*LOL! Whilst clutching his binoculars and furiously wanking.

🤣

Elsvieta · 02/09/2025 07:23

Sounds like they want people to see. Put a note through the door telling them to get curtains or you'll report them to the police.

niadainud · 02/09/2025 07:01

Their windows must be very smeary.

Clonakilla · 02/09/2025 06:41

Your husband presumably saw very little as when he realised he hadn’t closed the curtains to put the children to bed for whatever reason he would certainly have done so extremely quickly when he realised what he could see.

If this were us, the same sex partner (ie man speaks to man or woman speaks to woman) would pop over and say politely that they mustn’t realise they can be seen and you don’t want them to be embarrassed in future. Police if it continued after that.

The person who suggested you take photos is out of their mind.

user1492757084 · 02/09/2025 05:53

No harm in telling the sexy neighbours that they can be seen. Tell them some neighbours have witnessed their intimate displays and relaise that their children might also see through their windows.

I would like the local Police to deliver a message like that - rather than me calling over with a note.
Ask the local Coppers to make a friendly call.

Sintonia · 02/09/2025 04:39

Report to police.

spoonbillstretford · 02/09/2025 04:12

FreyjaOfTheNorth · 02/09/2025 03:06

“Defending such action?” We are taking about two consenting adults having sex in their own home. You make it sound like they were cooking meth.

How do you think your children got here? And all of the others on your “family oriented neighbourhood”?

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Er, without putting on a public show?

Children are not legally able to consent to adults having sex in front of them and neither are the neighbours consenting to that going on in front of them. The consent is between two people, if you are bringing the wider world into your sex life you need everyone's explicit consent.

spoonbillstretford · 02/09/2025 04:07

LoveItaly · 31/08/2025 10:25

Just because they are physically in their own home doesn’t make it acceptable to show the public what they are doing, and it sounds as though they are getting a thrill out of it. Huge windows, no curtains and leaving the lights on? Honestly, why are people’s standards so low these days that they think this is ok? It’s horrible for others to see, and especially children.
I would write to them first and tell them to get some bloody curtains!

Exactly. They know what they are doing. Tell them you can see them and they are opposite a child's bedroom, if they carry on call the police. It absolutely is an offence if they know they can be seen and have been told to stop.

FreyjaOfTheNorth · 02/09/2025 03:06

doremifaso · 31/08/2025 13:47

It’s been resolved now and I thank everyone who agreed that it’s not acceptable at all. To those who even considered it to be (given children were in the equation) either don’t have kids themselves or if they do, don’t give two about them!
Also says a lot about one’s character when defending such action.

“Defending such action?” We are taking about two consenting adults having sex in their own home. You make it sound like they were cooking meth.

How do you think your children got here? And all of the others on your “family oriented neighbourhood”?

SemiRetiredLoveGoddeess · 02/09/2025 02:13

Are these people part of some kind of Only Fans set up?.
Or fetish site?

They are obviously getting off on their sntics and know the neighbours can see them.

You are not a prude but just being a good, decent and responsible parent.

Well.done.

Daygloboo · 02/09/2025 00:13

Sodastreamin · 01/09/2025 20:16

It’s illegal to knowingly expose yourself/take part in sexual acts when you know you can be seen by the public..

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The thing i find odd is that if they are doing it deliberately , they must know they will eventually get challenged over their behaviour. Why risk it. Why dont they just go to a swingers club or go dogging or whatever it is these exhibitionists usually do. It's a bit bizarre. Does anybody in the area actually know who they are or where they work or anything like that..I.mean it could have implications for their jobs.

JeannieJo · 01/09/2025 23:11

I would phone the non urgent police line for advice. I don’t think it would be ok if it was you and your partner doing it in front of the kids or the neighbours individually naked in front of the windows in full view. Time for some proper advice.

Yourcatisnotsorry · 01/09/2025 22:47

I’d write a letter and say you were concerned about the shape of his penis/the colour of her nipples/whatever and they should see a doctor. They should be mortified into putting blinds up.

ThreePointOneFourOneFiveNine · 01/09/2025 21:57

In front of a big window with lights on is definitely deliberate.

Crudd99 · 01/09/2025 21:50

MsTamborineMan · 31/08/2025 10:20

It'd hardly prudish to not want your young children to see people having sex. Moat adults would be horrified that a child could see you shagging from their bedroom window

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Agree.

TwoFacedBessie · 01/09/2025 21:11

DeeKitch · 31/08/2025 18:28

Ask other neighbours in a joking way if it would be legal to record them and make a fortune on OF

it might filter back to them

Forget OF, I would record them on video and show it to the police and ask them to have a word with the exhibitionists. OP kids should not be exposed to their antics.

Sadworld23 · 01/09/2025 21:02

Anyone that thinks it's reasonable to have sex in full view of the neighbours, is either similarly inclined or is a troll just refuting the OP for the sake of it

If it was 2 blokes or 1 bloke and his handy mate it clearly wouldn't be ok.

I think.mn admin should take a look at these 'what are you worried about' keyboard warriors and considet if their input is useful to MN generally.

Sodastreamin · 01/09/2025 20:16

YetanotherNC25 · 31/08/2025 10:16

You could not look? Your DH has clearly watched them ‘in the distance’ to see that level of detail. Close your curtains if you don’t want to see.
They’re allowed to have sex in their house. They’re also allowed to to choose not to have curtains spoiling their floor to ceiling windows.
And don’t write to them or you’ll sound even more like a prude.

It’s illegal to knowingly expose yourself/take part in sexual acts when you know you can be seen by the public..

Hillarious · 01/09/2025 19:34

How was it resolved?

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