Two year old flagged for SEN

Both my autistic sons got flagged up at nursery

I’m going to be honest and say I was highly offended when it was mentioned to me about then three year old DS. I was all “how dare they” “just because he is spirited” etc etc.
Actually they were right and he was autistic. They see lots of children and they see them together so they usually are right . It’s very scary when it’s first mentioned so I totally empathise

Respectfully, they deal with how many 3 year olds so will probably have a good idea. Our DD is almost 4 and on what sounds like a similar pathway although we do now have a diagnosis. We have asked their advice on occasions as she is our first, it’s a good thing to have them on board. Also don’t forget, it’s better to get it looked into and be nothing than run into trouble in 3/6/12 months time and have to start a potentially lengthy process from scratch.

Just remember - your DS hasn’t changed with this and there isn’t going to be any changes other than potentially positive ones to assist you and/or him.

I felt the same when the nursery flagged my daughter. Now I'm very grateful they did as the diagnosis process took 2.5 years and it's been much easier to get her help at school. Your feelings are valid but it's much better that they flag something that turns out to be nothing than miss something.

So much better to look and him and say ‘all fine’ then to ignore and wait and then things get really serious.

trying to get support for any sen is very hard even if severe so any early intervention you can get is brilliant.

diesn’t mean he has a permanent condition - he might just need a little more support now..

BUT if there is something more serious / long standing going on - you need to know - to face it and get the support you both need.

it probably feels very scary now and that’s totally normal - but as a mum of 2 children with prety significant sen (both ended up needing socialist schools) you soon discover not much come without a lot of waiting snd fighting.

they may do a few assessments and see no need for anything else snd thst is great / but believe me / if there is anything - you sooner you know what it is the sooner you can start the fight yo get his needs met.

wishing you well .

IME they don't flag stuff unless they think it needs flagging. Take the referrals and accept any help. It can't hurt to have these things flagged early, although they may well tell you to go away and come back when he's older.

A doctor thought my DC had a rare genetic condition while seeing them for something else. After a long wait he was tested - and he didn't have it. But I still got it checked out, why wouldn't I?

Yanbu go be upset as in worried, but Yabu if you’re criticizing nursery