Since when?

It's weird that you're so focused on how she looks. Trainers are far more comfortable and practical than loafers with heels for anyone, but especially an 11 year old child. She will feel so much better in trainers.

But apologies to the OP for laughing at her. Having read ALL her posts, I do see that she took feedback onboard very quickly and more sane shoes have been ordered.

I see you have finally accepted defeat 😂 I still can’t understand why you would want an 11 year old wearing those high heels to school. Far too young to wear heels like that. Your definition of “smart” is very old fashioned and also a little bit sexualised if you see nothing wrong in an 11 year old wearing high heels like that

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I wore shoes like the ones in the OP to secondary school in the 90s, because they were fashionable. I wish they hadn’t been allowed because they were totally impractical, and painful to walk around on all day.
Or I should have been less of a sheep and worn flats despite fashion!

I started secondary as a 12 year in 1990. Went to several schools, both in the UK and abroad. There were also students who 'interpreted' the uniform policy a bit loosely but I can't recall ever seeing anyone wearing shoes like that in school. They'd have been sent home and told to rethink their attire.

I never understand the point of posts like the OP's original post. When you choose a school you have to accept it will have rules, and you need to follow those rules, including the ones you personally disagree with. People have told the OP the shoes are unsuitable and her DD may get sent home. Instead of bleating about DD's anxiety the solution is to buy a pair of shoes that comply with school rules. Or move to Sheffield where there is still a secondary school with no uniform.

I was a girl in the 90s, they’d never in a million years have been allowed at any of the high schools near me.

Why would you put your child in heels?!

no those are definitely not OK for school. Air force 1s are standard.

Don't understand how the OP keeps arguing that the school think trainers are smarter than humungous heeled 'loafers'. Did the school actually say this?

They no doubt (like everyone with common sense) think that trainers are a good deal SAFER than those chunky heeled things OP linked to. That'll be their motivation.

I still think it’s a click bait joke. The obvious heels when she says the school have stated ‘no heels’, plus then refusing to accept that the school may prefer ‘practical’ over ‘smart’…

This thread, and the indefatigable OP ... 😂I'm not sure what's made me snort the harder - the initial innocent posting of the link to UTTERLY UNSUITABLE SHOES for an 11 year old schoolchild; the OP's dogged doubling down in the face of her daughter's friends' conviction, her own friend's recommendation, and pretty much all the posts on here saying that chunky soled, heeled shoes will not be acceptable and are bad for kids; or the fact that these fugly nightmares from the late 90's are apparently back.

I used to lecture in heeled loafers in my first job in the early noughties because I'm 5'2" and wanted to be taller than at least a couple of my students 😂It didn't work and I used to trip over the soles and chunky heels as they sort of got caught on one another. I tripped over my own shoes, OP.

Honestly this is daft. I'm surprised but pleased if people in the know at the school think that Air Force 1s (had to look them up) are going to be acceptable, but plain black trainers with adequate arch support always struck me as a perfectly good school shoe.

I thought this post was a clickbait joke. Who on Earth thinks a heel (however chunky and ‘smart’) is appropriate for a child that age, at school!?

I was in high school in the 90s. I certainly recall these shoes - never on anyone at school and never on a child this young.

Really surprised these were ok for an 11 yr old at your school even in the 90s.

I suspect the school doesn’t think they look “smarter” but they are more appropriate for a school setting. All children should have practical shoes that are comfortable, safe, reasonably water proof (to not get wet socks in the slightest drizzle), allow feet to grow properly, allow them to run around.

Platform soles and heels (even a chunky one) doesn’t meet those.

I think it is great a school is allowing trainer style shoes, shoes at this age should be practical above all else.

Meant kindly, but I really think you need to do some research about the affect of heels on developing feet.

No sensible parent should be encouraging their 11yo DC to be wearing high heels like that for their everyday shoe. Well made trainers or school shoes would be much better.

If you don't consider them heels, that's even more telling. Those heels look huge to me!

Just because shops sell them as school shoes doesn't mean they're actually good for their feet.

Google says heels for children can:

"negatively impact the spine by altering posture, increasing pressure on the back, and potentially leading to back pain, poor gait, and other musculoskeletal issues. Proper-fitting, supportive school shoes are crucial for developing feet, as ill-fitting or high-heeled options can cause foot deformities and affect the alignment of the entire body, including the spine."

Our foot bones don't fuse properly until some point between 12 and 22 so at 11yo the foot is still developing and absolutely should not be in a heeled shoe day in and out, no matter how smart you think it looks.

She could have still gone for a chunky loafer, but with a flatter heel?

I was expecting the kind of loafers I have, very flat. That's a big heel especially for a child. They wouldn't have been allowed when I or my DCs were at school.

I’m just baffled at the choice being between those heeled shoes and trainers. Both are banned at my dc’s schools. We somehow managed to provide footwear: Clark’s, Startrite, Geox, Kickers provide a decent range. M&S too.

Thanks for the quick memory jolt back to school in the 80s where I desperately wanted a pair of shoes that everyone else had from Dolcis but my mum made me have the 'not quite the same' version from Clarks and the sodding things just wouldn't wear out (unlike the Dolcis ones others had). Then I still had the Clarks when others had moved on to Pixie boots.

Oh God, I have now remembered the red leather sandals I had at infant school which I adored and was sick on.

My dds would love those shoes for school.
They cant wear trainers except for pe.
So its just flat plain black shoes with no bows/design features at all. They are very strict

Don't you want her to be comfortable, or is looking smarter more important to you. A good pair of trainers will be much more comfortable to wear all day, and safer.

I had those in the 90s, personally though I am surprised branded trainers are deemed acceptable - thought the whole idea was to stay away from branded shoes/trainers?

Waaay too young for heels. She's just 11 fgs. 🤦‍♀️

Not a good choice of school shoe. Would not have been accepted at my DC’s state secondary school.