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Since when?

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 30/08/2025 21:40

Posting here for traffic.

My DD starts year 7 next week. Local secondary. Nothing fancy.

She and we are respectful of uniform policy and have purchased everything we need to. She looks bloody smart and we (and she) can't wait for her to start.

As 11 year old girls will do, they have tried their whole set up in front of their friends and all of them said the same thing:

"You will get sent home with those shoes"

They throw detentions out for the most minor of uniform infractions and DD is now having a massive anxiety spiral that she's going to get a detention or worse sent home 1st day because of her shoes.

I spoke to a friend who works in the school office and showed her a picture and her response was "oooh, I'm not sure. Air Force 1s are the best way to go"

Since when have trainers been a smarter, more acceptable form of shoe than a patent loafer??!!!

For full disclosure she has chosen the Kickers Edie loafer as in the link

https://www.kickers.co.uk/adult-women-edie-loafer-patent-leather-black/14913640.html?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=UK+-+Kickers+-+Search+-+Brand+-+Core+-+Broad&utm_term=kickers&utm_content=brand+-+Kickers&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20162340688&gbraid=0AAAAADiNwZXHWpJ1LFmAfTE2drVjkEy8k&gclid=Cj0KCQjwwsrFBhD6ARIsAPnUFD1w_j6Ufhx1cfFv1a1fF0Ageht-fZYRGu_xo9ofOilAOdjE7KgGjEgaAoLrEALw_wcb

This school stipulates that hair past chin lemgth needs to be in a ponytail with a hair band that is the closest colour to the individuals hair colour, yet believes that a trainer is smarter/more acceptable than the loafer.

AIBU here?! I know trainers are more acceptable these days but are they really considered smarter considering how rigid they are on the smaller items?!

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DiscoBob · 30/08/2025 22:05

They've got quite a big heel. That must be what people are on about.
If they were flat they'd probably be more acceptable. You'll just have to see I guess. I wouldn't be buying air force ones as well. If the ones she's got are wrong the replacement would need to be cheap.

IGaveSoManySigns · 30/08/2025 22:05

Oh, fucks sake 🤦🏼‍♀️

PotolKimchi · 30/08/2025 22:05

There is a sizeable heel on that. She is going to be wearing it all day everyday. Is it comfortable apart from whether it’s part of the regulations?!

Also confused by what is a heel if that is not a heel?!

CornedBeef451 · 30/08/2025 22:03

That is not a school shoe, of course they are likely to cause a problem.

Goofles · 30/08/2025 22:03

Well they clearly have huge heels!! She likely won’t be allowed to wear them.

Did you think heels were ok based on their uniform policy wording?

PennySweeet · 30/08/2025 22:02

Well they're certainly more practical for children than huge heels, and probably safer too.

WonderingWanda · 30/08/2025 22:02

No trainers allowed at my kids school. Nothing in the uniform policy about heels but as a parent I wouldn't want my dd traipsing about in those all day. So bad for her posture and feet, especially combined with lugging a massive bag around all day.

Spies · 30/08/2025 22:02

Policy says no heels or stiletto. I clearly have a different definition of heels

I'm genuinely so beyond curious about what you consider to be a heel if you think this shoe doesn't have a heel? Confused

PennySweeet · 30/08/2025 22:01

Christ, that's a heel and a half isn't it?

I can't think of any schools around here that would allow those.

Toastedpickle · 30/08/2025 22:01

The school’s uniform policy would have been very thorough, especially if you know that they need a certain colour hair band. So it is odd that you are now pretending to be confused on shoes. Ours even send photos for such parents who can’t understand what “no heels” looks like so perhaps you can see if you can find similar 😅
Trainers are much more practical/healthier/safer. Time for some last minute shopping!

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 30/08/2025 22:01

Sunshineismyfavourite · 30/08/2025 21:54

The Air Force 1s look much more suitable for school than the Kickers.

I think the Kickers are a bit fashion statement tbh - they are definitely not a standard patent loafer with the big heel and platform sole.

For me the AF1s are more of a fashion statement.

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McSteamyorMcdreamy · 30/08/2025 21:59

Policy says no heels or stiletto. I clearly have a different definition of heels and maybe I was being massively nostalgic when she chose them in the shop

Thankyou for your feedback DH is ordering AF1s as we speak and she can follow the herd as every alternate (less heel) I have showed her has been a no.

I just hate that trainers are more acceptable!!

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Superhansrantowindsor · 30/08/2025 21:59

I am surprised a young lass wants these. They look like what we wore thirty years ago. No way would they be allowed at any high school where I live. The heel is impractical and not suitable for school.

LaughingCat · 30/08/2025 21:59

Zippidydoodah · 30/08/2025 21:46

Too high but we all had those exact ones in the nineties!

I immediately was like ‘omg, I totally had these!’ And we weren’t allowed them back then either 😂

Heeled loafers, can’t see the school being happy with them and unfortunately uniform restrictions are way tighter now than they ever were back in the nineties!

Seasonofthesticks · 30/08/2025 21:58

Those aren’t loafers they’re high heels 🤣

cryinglaughing · 30/08/2025 21:58

Too high for school, she'll do herself a damage in those heels 😳

IGaveSoManySigns · 30/08/2025 21:55

Surely this is a wind up? I’d not even wear those to work! They’re high heels ffs

InfoSecInTheCity · 30/08/2025 21:55

They wouldn’t meet our school uniform policy either, they have a very definite high heel and flats are the requirement.

Sunshineismyfavourite · 30/08/2025 21:54

The Air Force 1s look much more suitable for school than the Kickers.

I think the Kickers are a bit fashion statement tbh - they are definitely not a standard patent loafer with the big heel and platform sole.

Coldnightsapproachingwhereismyduvet · 30/08/2025 21:54

Dd's mate was put in isolation for having a red hair elastic not black...
Those shoes aren't suitable for school

Did you really think they were?

AliTheMinx · 30/08/2025 21:54

I don't think these are acceptable (sorry!) - but also don't like the idea.of trainers either. What happened to normal.smart shoes?

bumblefeline · 30/08/2025 21:54

I had a pair of those in the 90s loved them. They would not have been allowed at either of my kids schools.

LunchtimeNaps · 30/08/2025 21:53

My DD school would not accept these because:

branded shoe
heel too high
patent

Ours also do not accept trainers.

Purpleheatherrain · 30/08/2025 21:53

Heels on teens are really damaging. Glad schools are banning them.