AIBU suggesting partner get rid of his new puppy

Oh, I came on here all ready to read the riot act to someone who would consider telling their partner to get rid of an animal but I’ve U-turned so hard I have whiplash.

There is no excuse for neglecting animals. I don’t say this very often but I could NOT stay with someone who acted like this.

So true.

Hes fed her once!?!

He isnt just lazy hes neglectful and youve facilitated. Id dump him and let him do what he likes with his pet

For most people the first few days after getting a new pet are the most exciting, so the fact he's done nothing with her is a recipe for disaster. He's not going to suddenly become more interested in caring for her.

It's best to rehome her now before she grows too attached.

Appalling behaviour on his behalf. He didn’t feed the puppy? I’m afraid I’d be absolutely refusing t help, puppies are very hard work, I’m on my 3rd set of dogs, I know how much work they are when little. He needs to train her, feed her, take her out, carried or in the car until she’s allowed out properly. Go nuts, don’t help or get him to return her. You sound too busy to worry about HIS puppy. Don’t tell me, he does sod all in the house. Couldn’t even be arsed to uncover the poor bloody parrot? Disgusting.

He's fed her once since last week and hasn't played with her or walked her at all? And then he left all the animals unfed for half a day?? Has he ever been left alone with your dogs/animals before? I have a feeling he's not much use around the house generally because no one who can look after themself would behave like this. I'd also get rid as PPs have said. He is useless at best and neglectful at worst, plus he knows you have a condition but has presumably been happy to let you clean up after the dog. I bet your daughter would be a better pet parent

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As is so often the case the first post nails it. Honestly how can you possibly find this person attractive and want to be in a relationship with them given how they treat animals?

Get rid of him not the animals - he's a neglectful prick

Do you live together? I presume you don’t as it would be a bit strange to have ‘his and hers puppies’ under one roof. If you don’t live together id just stop being so accommodating to the puppy.

If you do live together this puppy is definitely going to end up your problem. Clearly we don’t know the complexities about who owns the house you live in or if he is the father of your DD etc, so it’s difficult to advise what you could actually do. But it will 100% end up your problem if he’s not willing to get rid and you’re not willing to leave him. That is already clear.

Keep the puppy and re-home your partner. He doesn't deserve to have animals, or dch. When is he going to grow up?

Definitely tell him to get rid of it and I'd be reconsidering a relationship with him tbh. Puppies can be difficult to look after but if he hasn't even managed to feed it (and uncover the parrot, poor thing) then he's not going to commit to the rest of the hard work. Better to rehome the puppy before it gets too attached to you. For the puppy's sake get the poor thing a responsible home before you kick him out so he doesn't take it with him.

I definitely don't think you're being unreasonable. I look after my son's guinea pigs most of the time but he is a teenager so not surprising. Your husband is a grown up. Maybe give him a chance to chip in a week or so and if nothing changes the dog has to go x

It will have no idea what ‘the wild’ is. Captive Parrots are all bred.

Do you live together? In which case you both need to be in agreement when buying a pet and commit to taking care of it. Wouldn't make sense for a pet to only belong to one person imo.

It sounds like he views the pet as belonging to you both and as you're already well versed in taking care of animals, he's left it up to you. He isn't respecting your time or views and he isn't respecting the helpless animals he's brought into things...

Doesn't sound like a good person to me

Jesus, how can someone who obviously lives animals be in a relationship with someone you is casually abusive to them? Why on earth didn't he feed the poor thing?

Bet your parrot is more devastated about living in a cage rather than the wild

He's a neglectful animal owner, you can't trust him to think about anything or anyone but himself.
Get rid of him and rehome the poor pup.

What a bastard.

Why do you want to continue in a relationship with someone who is cruel to animals.
If I'd come home and found he had neglected the pets in that way and caused them suffering then that would have been the end of things.
What a nasty cruel man.
And people who are cruel to animals are also more likely to be perpetrators of domestic violence.

He sounds like a small child wanting a pet and then leaving it to mummy to look after. Gross in a grown man. Also concerning if he’s that useless with your daughter too.

Yeah I’d also break up with a man that neglected animals like that

If he’s not going to care for it, then definantly.?

Also, I don't know if this is even on the cards, but please think very carefully before reproducing with such a person. He sounds like he will also make a naff father

Keep the puppy, ditch the bloke.

Why did he want a puppy if he didn't want to look after it?