AIBU suggesting partner get rid of his new puppy

All I can say is I’m glad the tiny puppy has had you around. Missed meals etc is absolutely appalling. I’d genuinely find this degree of irresponsibility / laziness a deal breaker. He hasn’t even bothered to do basic research on how to care for a puppy before getting one.

Put down the kool aid.

We talked for a few months and he agreed he would do the majority of work with new pup, just as i have mine.

Sounds like he had no intention of doing this.

How can he let an animal go hungry? Why is feeding a dog beyond him?

What's REALLY SAD IS THIS PUPPY IF RETURNED WILL MOST LIKELY GET EUTHANIZED AS THOUSANDS WAIT TO FIND A HOME OR MOST OFTEN WAIT TO DIE... FIND IT ANOTHER FAMILY IF A SIMPLE TASK OF FEEDING IT, LETTING IT POTTY OR GIVING IT 10 MIN WALK 1-2 A WEEK IS A HARDSHIP. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR DOING THIS OUT OF SPITE. I've made agreements with family they didn't do. I didn't send them back... suck it up. Love the dog - you know a pat on the head, feed it twice a day and water 24-7 and so it has A HOME. TO LIVE IN... how petty some are.... wonder what you would do if you got pregnant oh lord. What he doesn't help so we return the baby... if this is ur stance. Stay alone. No kids. No pets.

What's REALLY SAD IS THIS PUPPY IF RETURNED WILL MOST LIKELY GET EUTHANIZED AS THOUSANDS WAIT TO FIND A HOME OR MOST OFTEN WAIT TO DIE... FIND IT ANOTHER FAMILY IF A SIMPLE TASK OF FEEDING IT, LETTING IT POTTY OR GIVING IT 10 MIN WALK 1-2 A WEEK IS A HARDSHIP. IT SOUNDS LIKE YOUR DOING THIS OUT OF SPITE. I've made agreements with family they didn't do. I didn't send them back... suck it up. Love the dog - you know a pat on the head, feed it twice a day and water 24-7 and so it has A HOME. TO LIVE IN... how petty some are.... wonder what you would do if you got pregnant oh lord. What he doesn't help so we return the baby... if this is ur stance. Stay alone. No kids. No pets.

Your updates are just eye rolling OP. He sounds a bloody awful lazy git.

Do you live together?

Do you have children together?

If no, please don't.

I would get rid of the partner, as many have said.

I agree. By all means sit with him whilst he writes it down, but I wouldn't do it for him.
At the age of 9 my dd researched all about Giant African Land snails before she bought some. If she can do that, back when the internet isn't as vast with this sort of knowledge as it is now, he sure as hell can look into bringing up a puppy.

At least I don't have to resort to name-calling and rudeness to try and win an argument on the internet 😂

He’s a selfish idiot!. How stupid do you have to forget to feed your pets?!?

He doesn’t sound responsible at all, I wouldn’t leave my pets with him ever, and he should contact the breeder to take the pup back - assuming he went to a reputable breeder who would do that.

Absolute tool

Why would he feed train walk it. No need. You are doing it.
Stop.
If he doesn't do it call the RSPCA.

I didn't realise you were the thread police.

I was responding to a previous comment which is kind of how a forum works.

You wouldn't keep an owl or eagle in a house - why is a parrot any different?

What's the difference between dogs and wolves?

You're derailing the OP's thread. I'm only here to support her upset about her parrot (and puppy). If you want to debate the ethics of pet keeping, start a thread of your own.

I didn't buy mine, I adopted her. Are you aware of how many parrots are in rescues? How would you like them to be looked after in their lifetime since they wouldn't survive in the wild?

I was speaking generally.

And IMO they should be kept in sanctuaries where they can free-fly as much as possible, in an environment as close to the wild as possible, not locked up in someone's house.

Of course I recognise that's not possible for most, but I still don't think that means it's okay to keep them in our houses. You wouldn't keep an owl or eagle in a house - why is a parrot any different?

You are extremely unreasonable if you stay with such a feckless, animal-abusing git. I don’t know how you can bear his presence.

we shouldnt be buying them and keeping them locked up in our homes for their entire lives.

I didn't buy mine, I adopted her. Are you aware of how many parrots are in rescues? How would you like them to be looked after in their lifetime since they wouldn't survive in the wild?

I'll point out that both the OP and I are unhappy that her partner left her parrot covered in its cage far too long. Clearly we both know parrots shouldn't be kept in cages for long periods. OP even says hers has its own room.

I'll also add that parrots need 10-12 hours sleep somewhere dark. They need to feel safe. That's a good time to use a cage.

That doesn't mean we should be buying them and keeping them locked up in our homes for their entire lives.

Well they can’t in the UK, obviously. But perhaps if they weren’t stolen as eggs from nests in the wild, they’d have a better chance of not living in a cage. Or, perhaps if people stopped buying birds bred in captivity, to keep in cages, the market for breeding parrots would die the death it deserves.
Is that some crap you were waiting to come out with or is that truth too truthy for you…?

You actually still want to have sex with someone who's neglectful to animals?

Most people do the research about looking after a puppy before purchasing it. Not wait until it arrives.

I was waiting for someone to come out with this crap.

You do realise that parrots can’t just be let out in the wild don’t you? They wouldn’t survive for starters.

Who looks after the dogs when you are at work?

OP, you need to change your mindset . You’re the one saying, “I dont have a problem with him getting any animal he wants, as long as he looks after it.”

You need to have a problem with it. You both sound totally irresponsible!

I would get rid of him and keep the puppy.