To dislike my husband masturbating in bed?

That’s pretty unpleasant.

Presumably you’ve all had sex with your husbands? Really don’t understand the “grim” or “disgusting “ comments. Just bizarre.

I would however be pissed off at anyone waking me up!

We use condoms, but also get up to use toilet, wash hands etc.

What did he do with the ejaculate? Not judging, just curious.

This was in response to @freerangethighs- sorry, still working out how this works!

When you have sex, do you immediately jump up and change the sheets?

Yuk! You make good points in your response! OP doesn’t say if he goes out to clean himself up and what he does with the (ahem) jiz…

I wouldn’t like it. Like people already said, he’s doing something sexual next to you in bed, he should have your consent!
I’d tell him to sort himself out while he’s having a shower.

I don't see how this would work. One, it seems to risk waking you up, and so I'd think that unless there's previous agreement he'd go into an another room to do this as he would to, say, make a phone call or play video games or watch TV. And two, unless he's VERY handy (no pun intended), he runs the risk of getting spooze on the sheets, which he cannot change whilst you're asleep and so will have to marinate in until morning.

Well considering he is doing it whilst he thinks she is asleep, he obviously doesn’t want her involved. So if that’s the case he can take a few steps to the bathroom. It’s called respect.

I’d find it rather arousing.

I find this quite interesting. Me and my partner have a healthy sex life. If I choose to masturbate, it is because I want to orgasm through mastirbation, and my partner joining me would totally ruin it. That being said, i would not mastirbate next to my partner unless it was supposed to be a joint sexy thing, but then it wouldn't be masturbation.

Yeah it was a mistype rather than a juicy secret 😂

I'd find it a turn on tbh and want to join in

Jeez! You share a bed!! Either join in with him or let him get on with it....
There should definitely be a conversation between you both....

I don't think it's objecting to the wank, it's objecting to wanking next to a person who is trying to sleep and doesn't want to be disturbed.

Anyone else thinking Dave Gorman should be reading some of these comments out in a “found poem”?

Depends. What is he planning to do with the jizz? Preferably keeping it to himself, I don’t want an unwanted pearl necklace to clutch if I wake up. It’s ok with me if the jizz is aimed away from me and stays away from my side of the bed.

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/articles/24332-masturbation

masturbation is a need for any adult male with a normal libido. If someone is sexually unsatisfied, then their partner starts objecting to them having a wank, what other options have they got?

Ew. I'd actually feel pretty violated. I didn't give permission for him to do that next to me. Sleeping should be our safe space.. not wondering what he is doing next to me.
I'd also wake up feeling extremely uncomfortable and thinking was he wanking over me whilst I was asleep??!
Unless you have a consenting partner, of course it should be done in a private ALONE space.

I think you meant DP rather than OP unless there’s about to be a juicy secret revealed….?!! 🤣🤣

Me too... Esp when stressed... Sometimes OP will wake and join me! 😉

This!

DH having a quick wank in bed next to me wouldn’t be an issue personally, provided he didn’t disturb me sleeping!

In fact, there’s been a few occasions where I’ve woken up feeling horny during the night and masturbated with DH asleep beside me. I had a wank because either I didn’t want to disturb/wake him or because I was more in the mood for a quick and dirty self administered orgasm than full blown sex.

Honestly, it’s never once occurred to me I might need DH’s consent so I can climax. Plus whenever I have mentioned my nocturnal activities to him the next day, the only thing he’s said is to wake him up next time so he can get involved!! 😂

Why?

No it's not.