To ask if I should get revenge anonymously?

I would honestly leave it, I think you would make yourself feel worse in the long run.

I think that taking the high road brings more satisfaction and peace of mind, when I think about people that bullied me and guys that messed me around I don't believe in karma, but I do believe in staying true to yourself and I know its not me to take revenge.

I do remember putting one guys toothbrush around the rim of a toilet though!

No you're right! "Gosh, what a long time ago now...Were we in French together, something like that?" 😆

There is someone I’d love to take revenge on, but it’s only hypothetically, I’d never actually do it. Tbh for the most I never give her a moments thought, why waste energy on someone you’d rather just simply disappeared? That said, if I’d heard of some misfortune which had happened to her I’d not be happy but I’d not lose sleep either.

Just move on!

I think sometimes there's a nugget of enjoyment and humour in thinking about revenge, but really, moving on, forgetting about them is the best thing.

I had a particularly nasty bully at school and I do think of her occasionally - I know if I ever met her again, I would pretend not to remember her. It's a bit pathetic!

What triggered this do you think?

You’d be found out, it’s not the 90’s anymore and the internet has rules now.

Which makes me think the OP would benefit from therapy.

A short while after we left school my school bully came into the bar where I worked in and I served her drinks all evening, lager and lime. Then when it was closing time I served her up a glass of lime with a dash of lager…it was petty revenge of me but also a little funny watching her face after that first sip.

I have seen her more recently and we spoke. She’s no longer a bully to me and I’m no longer a timid girl. People change even if they haven’t - you can. Get your revenge through your own success and achievements whatever they maybe x

I was bullied at senior school decades ago for 3 yrs. I still remember her name and what she looked like. Now when I think what a good life we have, I feel sorry for her. What a miserable life she must have had to have to bully someone to feel good about herself. Let it go OP, it’s wasted energy.

What happened to me in school or when I was younger stayed there, I am a grown up now so I moved on

You are giving them power over you decades on. I bet they don't give it a one second thought. Axe them from your life, see if you can get counselling from somewhere even if it's just writing down your feelings.
You are right to be upset and angry with what happened and I am sure they feel bad for what they did as a child but feelings of revenge are bad for you.
You are constantly making yourself feel bad and feel guilty at revenge and it's not worth the extra damage to yourself with worry about what would happen if you get caught. It would always play on your mind, though I understand reasons why you want revenge.
Put yourself in a good place, give them no more power and take back the power. Get a new hobby, join friends for coffee, see if there are some groups where you live that you could join. Every minute not used on them is a win for you. You can win by being you. You are worth it, you are worth not dragging yourself down, you are worth being you, don't turn yourself into someone you're not. Just asking this question proves you're above this and ready to make the time for you.

I understand why you'd feel that way but is it really going to help you in the end? Sometimes it's better to leave things in the past. I admit to being very human and knowing one of my worst bullies went through a nasty divorce, I feel they deserved it and don't care if they are miserable.

Also, if anyone came out of the woodwork decades later and it was anything other than friendly, I'd assume they were having mental health issues and would involve the police.

As pp have said, be the bigger person here. I didn't see the previous thread so don't know the background, but either the people in question are still nasty bullies (in which case, how sad for them. The best revenge would be to live a good and happy life) or they've grown up and changed since secondary school (in which case why try to punish them now for something they did as kids and may deeply regret?).

This makes it sound as though you think they're waiting for you to contact them decades later. They're not and you'd likely only be more upset if they don't remember you or say they hadn't thought of you for decades.

You are giving this way more space than it deserves. You need something else to focus on because obsessing over this is only going to prolong having to look at what is really going on

It's tempting and I understand why you feel this way.

Yes, you might get some satisfaction from it. Just be aware that it won't undo what they did to you and how it affected your life. Revenge doesn't correct or change the past. It's a stand alone action that may not bring the closure you're seeking.

You have to do that for yourself and you will ❤

I was bullied for the last 2 or 3 years of secondary, it was intense. My bullies were a school year older but it did not stop when they left as they had recruited others to their campaign that were still in the school. When I left at 16 and went to college one of the bullies apologised and asked to be friends, as they had no one else. I of course refused but accepted that apology. Almost 30 years on there are points I still struggle with my self-esteem, I would say maybe an impact of their actions. However, I still see the main bully about in the community. As an outsider looking in her world does not appear to be as enriching and fulfilling as mine, that is revenge enough in itself.

OP do not seek revenge because the likelihood is in one way or another they will have received their consequences for the way they made you feel. Enjoy what your life is now, don’t let them control your thoughts or world anymore.

Two wrongs don’t make a right OP. I wish you to find peace in the future x

People like this will usually get what's coming to them - my high school bully walked into the sea a couple of years ago, he made my life hell so I wasnt sad about it..

Do not get revenge. Just move on and try and enjoy your life. Most bullies have their own demons that they are dealing with. The person may have changed, realised their error. You’d just feel guilty and anxious. There’s nothing to be gained from thinking about them.

You are lowering yourself to their level … get on with your life.