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Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 08:36

I’ve been living in the UK for 16 years, have two children, and work full-time. I consider myself integrated, living according to British values, and respecting this country. I look after myself and my home, and I try to contribute positively to the community.

Yet, many of us — especially from Eastern Europe — don’t feel entirely safe with the ongoing issues around illegal migrant boats. Even though we are legal residents, I’ve noticed growing dissatisfaction from some neighbours. When I mention that I’m from Eastern Europe, I often hear comments like, “Of course you are…” — basically implying I’m not British.

This makes me feel like I’ve somehow “brought these boats” here, as if I’m just another part of the immigrant problem. Seeing flags and attitudes that suggest “immigrants go home” is disheartening.

I also feel somewhat less confident around British people, especially in areas with mostly locals and fewer immigrants. For example, when I travel to campsites or smaller towns, I sometimes feel looked at as untrustworthy. Luckily, in London I feel much less like this.

Post-Brexit, it feels like the country has changed in ways that make life less secure, not just for immigrants but for everyone. It’s heartbreaking that all migrants, legal or not, are often dropped into one pot and judged as a single group.

I keep wondering — after so many years of people from other countries contributing to making the UK a brighter, more vibrant place, why does it feel like the country has been going downhill over time?

I feel so heartbroken, because I understand that the UK will never truly be my home, as I was not born here. Yet it hurts to realize that, with every passing year, it feels more and more like I will never be fully welcome.

Why has it gone so wrong on a broader scale? How can we have a healthier, safer society for everyone, while respecting the law and supporting integration?

I hope we can have a conversation about this that goes beyond fear and politics, and focuses on community, fairness, and safety for all residents.
Im just curious, in this era of migrant boats and heightened tension around immigration, how do you perceive or feel about other immigrants, even those who are legal residents? Does this climate affect the way you interact with them or how you feel about other immigrants, especially in less multicultural towns? What does your family of friends say?

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LakieLady · 30/08/2025 12:34

banananas1999 · 30/08/2025 10:11

I have lived in the UK for 20+ years, all my kids born in the UK, my husband is british and we are moving from England due to 5 years of harassment,stalking and verbal abuse due to my nationality, my children have also have been left traumatized for life as they are old enough to understand people shouting at me how I dont belong here etc and they find it upsetting. I have never involved myself with the offenders we always ignore them and just call the police but its not the way to live. Even doctors have made xenophobic comments aka people like you coming here demanding things (asking for a routine bloodtest for a chronic daily medicated health issue)

I'm so sorry you've experienced such appalling treatment, @banananas1999 . It's especially appalling coming from doctors imo.

User3256 · 30/08/2025 12:34

I have absolutely no problem with you being here and imagine you contribute to society, quite possibly a lot more than some natives. I would assume your VISA was approved because you had skills we wanted and we should be glad you filled the skills gap. However, we should be making sure our own people have the skills so we don’t need as much legal migration - that’s a health of the country thing, not a problem with those who take the opportunity to answer the call. You’ve been here 16 years, you should definitely be able to become a British citizen.

I have a massive issue with illegal immigration - the number should be zero. I want the UK to be selective about the sort of cultures and attitudes that come in, and to ensure it is hard-working, law-abiding people, to increase the odds of successful integration and so legal migrants such as yourself don’t get tarred with the same brush as those with backward attitudes by the ignorant. There are many people who are ignorant and putting our fingers in our ears and going la la la won’t make those people disappear. I believe secure borders are essential to any country in any case. I don’t know why people assume I’m racist because of this. I don’t care about colour at all.

Genuine asylum seekers fleeing war… I would have said we should help in the past, but we have so many genuinely poor working native people now who can’t get a roof over their head, although so much of this could well be due to terrible economic mismanagement. Just not sure what I think on that issue.

Would I vote Reform? Unless other parties get as ready to tackle this issue as Reform, I probably would. They have no economic credibility though so therein lies the rub.

Just in case you’re wondering, I voted Remain as there was no plan for Brexit and look at the half-assed, expensive way it has been done so I don’t regret my vote, although I’ve always been against the EU in principle (although it did have great benefits).

I think the two biggest letdowns on this issue has been the political class and the media. They are the cause of much unnecessary public anger.

BundleBoogie · 30/08/2025 12:33

banananas1999 · 30/08/2025 11:03

Its not just ancestors is it, UK is still aiding genocides in other countries and then shock, you get waves of refugees and aslym seekers mainly from the same countries your gov has bombed.

UK is still aiding genocides in other countries

Thats a pretty big accusation.

Can you list the countries we have bombed recently and how that corresponds with the motivations for leaving of the ‘asylum’ applicants?

I’ve just checked the answers on the MoD website.

JHound · 30/08/2025 12:32

I’m not an immigrant to Britain and even I feel unsafe with the current rhetoric. I can only imagine how you are feeling.

Just know not everybody (even those with concerns about the scale of immigration) shares in the vitriol.

DoggerelBank · 30/08/2025 12:31

BundleBoogie · 30/08/2025 11:45

I think that might be a comprehension issue on your part.

The word ‘illegal’ is used to preface ‘immigrants’ to distinguish between legal immigrants and illegal immigrants. There is an important difference and most people make it crystal clear they have issue with the illegal immigrants, not the legal ones.

Genuine question, as my professional background influences how I see asylum seekers, and I'd like to understand how others do.
The sentiments above seem to be extremely common.
Legal migration = no problem
'Illegal' migration (i.e. asylum seeking) = big problem that must be stopped.

All the people that say they're happy with legal immigration but not with 'illegal' immigration, are you saying that if we could reduce immigration by 16% (the percentage of immigrants that are asylum seekers), you'd be happy?

Or are you unaware of the proportions of legal and irregular migration are what they are, and you'd really like immigration in general to go down much more than this?

Couldn't we phase out our current practices for recruiting the lower-skilled immigrant workforce we need and instead recruit legitimate asylum seekers for those jobs? We'd give people in desperate need a safe home while keeping immigration numbers at a manageable level. A lot of the anger against asylum seekers seems to be the 'free lunch' 'they don't even work' stuff, but I've never met an asylum seeker who isn't keen to start work as soon as the govt allows them to. (On a side note, the free lunch in hotels is a pretty awful lunch that is leaving many children malnourished.) The problem is that they can't work until the govt makes a decision to accept them as refugees, and they can't be accepted as refugees unless they come her by irregular and often dangerous means. The govt could change that.

poetryandwine · 30/08/2025 12:28

Nevereatcardboard · 30/08/2025 12:18

The left wing are currently every bit as racist as the right wing. Being Jewish is extremely unpleasant in the UK at the moment. I don’t feel safe here anymore and I hide the fact that I’m Jewish when I first meet anyone new. I assume being Israeli must be really dangerous in some areas.

This is so sad.

I think it must be awful to be Israeli, or even Jewish, and be horrified by the war, or rather genocide. 7 Oct was completely beyond excuse but since then most of the blame belongs to a certain sector of the Israeli government, military and society.

I see red when some of them spout their nonsense in the media but tarring all Jewish people with their views and actions is contemptible.

I am sorry

PandoraSocks · 30/08/2025 12:27

Hereforthecommentz · 30/08/2025 12:21

The truth is mass migration affects working class people more than anyone else. This is why you get white liberal middle class twits who call people racist ect when they live in their own little suburban bubbles. We are allowed to speak on our experiences and not be told we are racist. They probably don't want to upset thier cleaners 🙄.

What are your views on Yaxley-Lennon? Do you think he is racist?

Sunsetswimming · 30/08/2025 12:26

Hereforthecommentz · 30/08/2025 12:21

The truth is mass migration affects working class people more than anyone else. This is why you get white liberal middle class twits who call people racist ect when they live in their own little suburban bubbles. We are allowed to speak on our experiences and not be told we are racist. They probably don't want to upset thier cleaners 🙄.

The UK takes 1% of refugees. Mass migration isn’t the cause of working class problems

FatCyclist · 30/08/2025 12:25

I feel the same OP. I've been in the UK for over 2 decades, paying tax, contributing to society, but this anti-migrant discourse is causing me a great deal of stress. In turns I am angry, sad, and terrified.

Angry because:

Migrants on average pay a lot more tax than the average UK-born person. So we are disproportionately funding the exchequer, yet are treated like we're parasites.

Migrants on average are young, childless, and economically-active taxpayers. So much less likely to need the NHS. Yet we are required to pay a yearly NHS surcharge of £1500 (£700 for students). So we are disproportionately funding the NHS.

Migrants do the jobs UK-born don't or won't do, particularly agricultural, health-care, low-paid careworkers.

Those of you on Mumsnet constantly moaning about migrants: who do you think is picking your fruit & veg? Who is going to wipe your bum when you're in a care-home or need adult social care?

We migrants make a net positive contribution to this country. How do you think it makes us feel to be constantly demonized by the press and in these threads? It sucks.

Sunsetswimming · 30/08/2025 12:24

Hereforthecommentz · 30/08/2025 12:17

We don't need anymore left wing propaganda being taught to our children at school thank you.

I’m not saying left wing propaganda should be taught in schools. I’m saying facts should be taught and misinformation corrected. If you have a problem with that then you are the propagandist

BundleBoogie · 30/08/2025 12:24

StandFirm · 30/08/2025 11:00

Agree on the accent - but it can feel easily othering for someone who wasn't born in the UK. Especially now.

I’m sure most people with accents have the intelligence to spot polite chit chat and not feel offending or ‘othered’. We can’t erase all evidence of Britishness to stop everyone across the world feeling othered by our existence.

I’ve stopped an entire pub in Glasgow (well it felt like it) with my English accent - I knew I was not Glaswegian, they knew I was not Glaswegian - why should they have to pretend otherwise?

Hereforthecommentz · 30/08/2025 12:21

The truth is mass migration affects working class people more than anyone else. This is why you get white liberal middle class twits who call people racist ect when they live in their own little suburban bubbles. We are allowed to speak on our experiences and not be told we are racist. They probably don't want to upset thier cleaners 🙄.

pizzaandchips123 · 30/08/2025 12:20

What are your views on the many young men entering Britain via small boat?

Nevereatcardboard · 30/08/2025 12:18

RedTreeLeaf · 30/08/2025 09:25

I’m disgusted at the flourishing of the racist right wing, we’re going backwards. The media coverage inflames the issue. I heard the Green Party have as many seats as Reform, yet they’re not given the same airspace and coverage. I’m embarrassed to be British with this anti immigrant, racist dialogue now associated with our flag.

OP you are very welcome here. I’m sad that a vocal minority are making you feel uncomfortable.

The left wing are currently every bit as racist as the right wing. Being Jewish is extremely unpleasant in the UK at the moment. I don’t feel safe here anymore and I hide the fact that I’m Jewish when I first meet anyone new. I assume being Israeli must be really dangerous in some areas.

Hereforthecommentz · 30/08/2025 12:17

Sunsetswimming · 30/08/2025 12:11

I’m very sorry you feel this way. There is a lot of ignorance around immigration and right wing populists are exploiting this to stir up hatred and division. We need a strong push on education and stopping the spread of misinformation. It won’t stop the racists of course who will always hate regardless of the truth but we can turn back to a more enlighted nation.
It important to point out that the immigrants in hotels are not illegal immigrants. They are asylum seekers who have not yet been processed. If their claim for asylum is rejected and they abscond before deportation then they become illegal immigrants.

We don't need anymore left wing propaganda being taught to our children at school thank you.

BundleBoogie · 30/08/2025 12:13

Ironfloor269 · 30/08/2025 10:56

Is that the best response you can come up with? I was hoping for something more constructive.

Try posting something less hyperbolic and ridiculous then.

Chickenbone123 · 30/08/2025 12:12

reluctantbrit · 30/08/2025 12:06

@Chickenbone123 in order to have this vision, you need to change the system.

Teach languages, ensure that especially social and health care are jobs which are valued and paid sufficiently.

But also realise that the world is smaller and more mobile, movement means knowledge exchange as well.
The issue is not immigration, it's that net-immigration is too high.

When I lived in my home country, the UK was always seen as aloof and a country who thought itself as being better than the rest of Europe (as in the continent, not just the EU).
When I arrived here I was astonished how easy it was to find a job based on the fact that I speak another language fluently, I know some of my UK colleages earn more because they speak another language.

I was definitely concerned with the very narrow history curriculum in school, yes it's important to learn the own country's past but there is so much more than the Tudors and Victorians.

Yes I agree.

And when I say anti immigration; that is what I mean. Anti net high migration. Anti mass migration.

Our history lessons are odd. I don’t know whether part of that is that most history is quite age inappropriate. Ie. Death, slavery, wars etc. Most history is not nice history. But yes they should look at that.

Sunsetswimming · 30/08/2025 12:11

I’m very sorry you feel this way. There is a lot of ignorance around immigration and right wing populists are exploiting this to stir up hatred and division. We need a strong push on education and stopping the spread of misinformation. It won’t stop the racists of course who will always hate regardless of the truth but we can turn back to a more enlighted nation.
It important to point out that the immigrants in hotels are not illegal immigrants. They are asylum seekers who have not yet been processed. If their claim for asylum is rejected and they abscond before deportation then they become illegal immigrants.

poetryandwine · 30/08/2025 12:11

Rowan Williams (Former Archbishop of Canterbury, former Master of Magdelene College, Cambridge, Lord Williams of Oystermouth) has an excellent piece in the Guardian today.

It focuses on asylum seekers but the broader theme is how scarcity tends to bring out the worst in us all, from whatever position in society we hold and whatever our philosophical beliefs may be. Lord Williams believes that the only long term solutions to the immigration crisis will evolve from focusing on our common humanity.

This may make him sound like a pushover. He isn’t. The article is complex and thoughtful.

Climbingrosexx · 30/08/2025 12:11

I am sure this will get me attacked and called a right wing racist because apparently that sort of hate speech is perfectly acceptable,. I hate what is happening in this county right now, the boats, hotels amount of money being spent, but I would say the majority of people have absolutely no issues with legal immigration. Governments have not listened to the people which is why things have got so out of control. I can honestly say hand on heart i have no issues with legal immigration and I am sorry this is now affecting people like yourself who have done everything right and are an asset to the country. I work with people who were not born in Britain. Some east European some are from Africa and like me they all work their asses off and their taxes go towards paying for all this, there are enough layabouts already who make living off benefits a career choice. That needs sorting too but that's another thread

anotherside · 30/08/2025 12:10

blueclip · 30/08/2025 11:44

I think that the root of the problem is that this country has gone to utter shit. Everything is broken from healthcare to education to society in general. I don’t exactly know how it broke, but nevertheless we are where we are. Everything is a struggle, from getting a driving test to getting a GP appointment. There is growing discontent. And people are angry and frustrated and looking for someone to blame.

If I had strong links to another country, I’d be hot footing it out of this shit hole.

Of course the irony is that people like you have enhanced this country very significantly. We have lots of people who were born here who are wasters and criminals and they are the problem.

But I do think the boats should be stopped. We don’t have the resources to help more people. We can’t even meet our own basic needs - A&E looks like the third world with people on corridor floors etc. I bet there are classrooms in the third world outdoors with almost no facilities - but functioning better than the awful stuff that goes on in our classrooms.

We should accept immigrants who can help us - and that primarily means being a net contributor. But why any such immigrant would want to come here beats me.

Some areas of the country have gone to shit. That’s the problem, it’s a very unequal nation. Unfortunately, but inevitably, most immigrants will settle in cheaper - ie poorer - areas. Which makes those areas struggle even more in terms of housing, public services etc. And the people in those areas are already struggling. So immigrants are an “easy” target.

CryingAtTheDiscotheque · 30/08/2025 12:10

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 12:06

I see your comment has been deleted @RedMaker but I don't really believe that most of the British people I encounter don't want me here. I have felt pretty welcome, as I have said many times. I have been invited to British people's homes, weddings and other celebrations. They didn't have to do that.

As for the UK changing, of course. I will deal with that when it happens, as most do. Threatening me is really pointless. I don't scare easy, no matter how hard you try. Have dealt with worse.

You clearly don't want me here, but you are a stranger on the net. Some others may not either. Again, I have followed the rules and that's all I can do..If rules change, I think again.

Well said @IceLollyMolly
That twerp does not speak for most of us.
you sound great and congratulations to your son too.

Hereforthecommentz · 30/08/2025 12:08

I'm perfectly happy with high skills migration. The trouble with being in the EU anyone could migrate, those without skills. The EU was meant to be a trading block no one wanted mass migration.

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 12:06

I see your comment has been deleted @RedMaker but I don't really believe that most of the British people I encounter don't want me here. I have felt pretty welcome, as I have said many times. I have been invited to British people's homes, weddings and other celebrations. They didn't have to do that.

As for the UK changing, of course. I will deal with that when it happens, as most do. Threatening me is really pointless. I don't scare easy, no matter how hard you try. Have dealt with worse.

You clearly don't want me here, but you are a stranger on the net. Some others may not either. Again, I have followed the rules and that's all I can do..If rules change, I think again.

reluctantbrit · 30/08/2025 12:06

@Chickenbone123 in order to have this vision, you need to change the system.

Teach languages, ensure that especially social and health care are jobs which are valued and paid sufficiently.

But also realise that the world is smaller and more mobile, movement means knowledge exchange as well.
The issue is not immigration, it's that net-immigration is too high.

When I lived in my home country, the UK was always seen as aloof and a country who thought itself as being better than the rest of Europe (as in the continent, not just the EU).
When I arrived here I was astonished how easy it was to find a job based on the fact that I speak another language fluently, I know some of my UK colleages earn more because they speak another language.

I was definitely concerned with the very narrow history curriculum in school, yes it's important to learn the own country's past but there is so much more than the Tudors and Victorians.

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