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Immigrants but legal ones?

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Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 08:36

I’ve been living in the UK for 16 years, have two children, and work full-time. I consider myself integrated, living according to British values, and respecting this country. I look after myself and my home, and I try to contribute positively to the community.

Yet, many of us — especially from Eastern Europe — don’t feel entirely safe with the ongoing issues around illegal migrant boats. Even though we are legal residents, I’ve noticed growing dissatisfaction from some neighbours. When I mention that I’m from Eastern Europe, I often hear comments like, “Of course you are…” — basically implying I’m not British.

This makes me feel like I’ve somehow “brought these boats” here, as if I’m just another part of the immigrant problem. Seeing flags and attitudes that suggest “immigrants go home” is disheartening.

I also feel somewhat less confident around British people, especially in areas with mostly locals and fewer immigrants. For example, when I travel to campsites or smaller towns, I sometimes feel looked at as untrustworthy. Luckily, in London I feel much less like this.

Post-Brexit, it feels like the country has changed in ways that make life less secure, not just for immigrants but for everyone. It’s heartbreaking that all migrants, legal or not, are often dropped into one pot and judged as a single group.

I keep wondering — after so many years of people from other countries contributing to making the UK a brighter, more vibrant place, why does it feel like the country has been going downhill over time?

I feel so heartbroken, because I understand that the UK will never truly be my home, as I was not born here. Yet it hurts to realize that, with every passing year, it feels more and more like I will never be fully welcome.

Why has it gone so wrong on a broader scale? How can we have a healthier, safer society for everyone, while respecting the law and supporting integration?

I hope we can have a conversation about this that goes beyond fear and politics, and focuses on community, fairness, and safety for all residents.
Im just curious, in this era of migrant boats and heightened tension around immigration, how do you perceive or feel about other immigrants, even those who are legal residents? Does this climate affect the way you interact with them or how you feel about other immigrants, especially in less multicultural towns? What does your family of friends say?

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Lifestooshort71 · 30/08/2025 09:03

I'm so sorry for any who feel this way, it is shameful 😞

pointythings · 30/08/2025 09:03

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:00

Why haven’t you applied for citizenship?

Because some countries won't allow dual citizenship. Mine is one of those. And frankly, given the way the UK public are behaving, I want to hang on to that beautiful burgundy passport so that if necessary, I can sell up and get the hell out of here. Which will be a shame for the UK as they will miss my tax contributions, but such is life.

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:00

Why haven’t you applied for citizenship?

ladybirdsanchez · 30/08/2025 09:00

I get what you're saying, but it's not just Britain that is like this. Scratch the surface and all countries are xenophobic and think that their native born citizens are superior to others and have additional rights that others do not. I've lived in three other countries and in all of them I was always seen as a foreigner. In one western European country, when trying to open a bank account, something I was legally allowed to do, I was told that I couldn't because I was 'an unknown person', despite having all the correct documentation and the right to live, work, etc in that country. It was because I wasn't from that country, pure and simple and the bank teller wasn't afraid to be xenophobic to my face about it. In Scotland, I had 'fucking English' said to me in a very vicious tone of voice at a bus stop, and England and Scotland are part of the same nation!

Peoplearebloodyidiots · 30/08/2025 08:58

My parents came to the UK when they were children and I was born here and feel British (I have olive skin and do nt look white), but I do not feel welcome here either anymore, although I've not yet directly experienced any racism since I was a teenager, due to all the stuff in the media at the moment. It's very sad. I worry for my child too.

Pickledpoppetpickle · 30/08/2025 08:57

I'm sorry you feel this way, OP. Just wanted to say that these people don't speak for all of us. I am deeply saddened - and fearful - of what seems to be happening in this country right now.

Loadsapandas · 30/08/2025 08:54

I think it’s a common feeling.

I know many. British black and brown people are worried and feeling targetted by these movements.

Remember the Brexit vote was about EE going home, it’s just shifted to asylum seekers now and much more vocalised in general.

The language is coded and used interchangeably as dog whistles - to some basically anyone who isn’t white British are seen as invaders.

pointythings · 30/08/2025 08:53

I feel the same as you. I've been here 28 years and if you spoke to me, you wouldn't know I'm not British. The Brexit referendum brought out all the xenophobia that was there all along, I'm afraid. My DC were told to fuck off back to where they were born at school the day after the referendum (that would be Cambridge, which my youngest told them). The British have always been an insular nation, suspicious of foreigners. And certain political actors, aided by a right wing media, have whipped that up very effectively.

CaptainMyCaptain · 30/08/2025 08:45

I'm so sorry you feel like this. I am British, born to British parents, and I hate what is happening here as do many, many people like me. I think it is a small but vocal minority who behave in this disgusting way.

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