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Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 08:36

I’ve been living in the UK for 16 years, have two children, and work full-time. I consider myself integrated, living according to British values, and respecting this country. I look after myself and my home, and I try to contribute positively to the community.

Yet, many of us — especially from Eastern Europe — don’t feel entirely safe with the ongoing issues around illegal migrant boats. Even though we are legal residents, I’ve noticed growing dissatisfaction from some neighbours. When I mention that I’m from Eastern Europe, I often hear comments like, “Of course you are…” — basically implying I’m not British.

This makes me feel like I’ve somehow “brought these boats” here, as if I’m just another part of the immigrant problem. Seeing flags and attitudes that suggest “immigrants go home” is disheartening.

I also feel somewhat less confident around British people, especially in areas with mostly locals and fewer immigrants. For example, when I travel to campsites or smaller towns, I sometimes feel looked at as untrustworthy. Luckily, in London I feel much less like this.

Post-Brexit, it feels like the country has changed in ways that make life less secure, not just for immigrants but for everyone. It’s heartbreaking that all migrants, legal or not, are often dropped into one pot and judged as a single group.

I keep wondering — after so many years of people from other countries contributing to making the UK a brighter, more vibrant place, why does it feel like the country has been going downhill over time?

I feel so heartbroken, because I understand that the UK will never truly be my home, as I was not born here. Yet it hurts to realize that, with every passing year, it feels more and more like I will never be fully welcome.

Why has it gone so wrong on a broader scale? How can we have a healthier, safer society for everyone, while respecting the law and supporting integration?

I hope we can have a conversation about this that goes beyond fear and politics, and focuses on community, fairness, and safety for all residents.
Im just curious, in this era of migrant boats and heightened tension around immigration, how do you perceive or feel about other immigrants, even those who are legal residents? Does this climate affect the way you interact with them or how you feel about other immigrants, especially in less multicultural towns? What does your family of friends say?

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Silverblue1985 · 30/08/2025 09:34

I’ve been in the UK for 20 years and definitely more wary. The other day I had gone on a walk and came across a security guard who said hello, asked how my day was etc. Just a chatty guy, who was patrolling who parked on a private estate by the beach. He then proceeded to ask if I’m British (to which I responded yes - I do have a British passport amongst my two birth ones) and he went on to tell me how immigrants fuck up this country and others. I consider myself lucky that I don't look any different to what these people perceive British people to look like, otherwise I think I’d be very concerned to go out these days. (This wasn’t in any city but a small village).

DuncinToffee · 30/08/2025 09:33

Importing people from other continents than Europe

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:31

LemondrizzleShark · 30/08/2025 09:05

Do you think that would make a difference to a random racist in the street? She’s hardly going to whip her British passport out to prove she is truly British is she?

And given plenty of 3rd gen black and Asian immigrants are also being told to “fuck off home”, I don’t think it actually matters what passport she has.

It took me a while to apply for citizenship and I thought it would make no difference, just a paper but it has actually deepened my connection to the UK, even with my shitty accent, I m British now, nobody can kick me out, so why would I care if an idiot decided to have a go at me because I m not British-born … which has never ever happened to me or anyone I know in the 12y I have been here I must say

And people are mostly angry at the rise of migration in the last 5y, and the massive cultural differences arising from importing people from other continents than Europe, not really at the European migrants who have been here ages imho

BrentfordForever · 30/08/2025 09:30

PandoraSocks · 30/08/2025 09:24

I'm afraid you are part of the problem OP is talking about.

You nailed it

that’s how racists also rationalise their thinking too

PandoraSocks · 30/08/2025 09:30

pointythings · 30/08/2025 09:20

By your logic nobody should ever leave the country they were born in.

And how do you define 'fully contribute'? People who come here as adults and start working immediately (as I did) have had all their schooling and healthcare in their country of birth - and so go straight into paying tax and contributing. Probably more than British people of the same age and in the same jobs.

And people don't always move because they want to 'take' something - I moved here because the man I wanted to marry was here. Back home I would be paid a great deal better for what I do (data analysis in the NHS). But I've put down roots here so unless Reform get in, I'm staying.

Your post exudes the xenophobia I mentioned earlier.

People who come here as adults and start working immediately (as I did) have had all their schooling and healthcare in their country of birth - and so go straight into paying tax and contributing

That is such an excellent point, pointy, something I hadn't thought of.

RedTreeLeaf · 30/08/2025 09:25

I’m disgusted at the flourishing of the racist right wing, we’re going backwards. The media coverage inflames the issue. I heard the Green Party have as many seats as Reform, yet they’re not given the same airspace and coverage. I’m embarrassed to be British with this anti immigrant, racist dialogue now associated with our flag.

OP you are very welcome here. I’m sad that a vocal minority are making you feel uncomfortable.

PandoraSocks · 30/08/2025 09:24

Fairyliz · 30/08/2025 09:07

Can I ask why you came here op?
If it was because you have a skill the country needs (doctor) then isn’t it sad that you have taken those skills it from your home country.
If it was for a better standard of living that implies the UK is giving you something,so you are taking from the UK.
Im not saying that now you don’t fully contribute, but there was a chance you might not. Does the country have the resources to offer that chance to unlimited amounts of people?

I'm afraid you are part of the problem OP is talking about.

Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 09:21

Fairyliz · 30/08/2025 09:07

Can I ask why you came here op?
If it was because you have a skill the country needs (doctor) then isn’t it sad that you have taken those skills it from your home country.
If it was for a better standard of living that implies the UK is giving you something,so you are taking from the UK.
Im not saying that now you don’t fully contribute, but there was a chance you might not. Does the country have the resources to offer that chance to unlimited amounts of people?

My parents moved here first as low-skilled workers. I followed to study and, after earning multiple degrees, have built a career in the biotechnology field. Although I had planned to head back, I met a man, and that changed my plans.

However, that doesn’t change the fact that immigrants contribute significantly to the welfare of the country through any legal job or profession. You disagree?

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Biskieboo · 30/08/2025 09:21

Fairyliz · 30/08/2025 09:07

Can I ask why you came here op?
If it was because you have a skill the country needs (doctor) then isn’t it sad that you have taken those skills it from your home country.
If it was for a better standard of living that implies the UK is giving you something,so you are taking from the UK.
Im not saying that now you don’t fully contribute, but there was a chance you might not. Does the country have the resources to offer that chance to unlimited amounts of people?

Oh FFS it's not a zero sum game, it is perfectly possible for people to come to the UK for a better quality of life than they would otherwise enjoy AND to contribute to the UK. The idea that if their life is better here then they must be 'taking' something is the thought process of the simpleton.

Having said that, in a way I would like all the people that the knuckle-draggers want to 'go home' to leave the country, because I suspect only then will they realise just how dependant the UK has been on immigration to keep the plates spinning. You can bet one thing though - when the economy and many public services did collapse, the people whanging on about immigration won't be the ones who get off their arses to sort out the problems they've caused, they'll just continue to blame their declining standard of living on another convenient minority group. And there will always be a charismatic shyster like Nigel Farage encouraging them to do so.

DuncinToffee · 30/08/2025 09:21

Fairyliz · 30/08/2025 09:07

Can I ask why you came here op?
If it was because you have a skill the country needs (doctor) then isn’t it sad that you have taken those skills it from your home country.
If it was for a better standard of living that implies the UK is giving you something,so you are taking from the UK.
Im not saying that now you don’t fully contribute, but there was a chance you might not. Does the country have the resources to offer that chance to unlimited amounts of people?

Do you ask British people moving abroad the same question?

pointythings · 30/08/2025 09:20

Fairyliz · 30/08/2025 09:07

Can I ask why you came here op?
If it was because you have a skill the country needs (doctor) then isn’t it sad that you have taken those skills it from your home country.
If it was for a better standard of living that implies the UK is giving you something,so you are taking from the UK.
Im not saying that now you don’t fully contribute, but there was a chance you might not. Does the country have the resources to offer that chance to unlimited amounts of people?

By your logic nobody should ever leave the country they were born in.

And how do you define 'fully contribute'? People who come here as adults and start working immediately (as I did) have had all their schooling and healthcare in their country of birth - and so go straight into paying tax and contributing. Probably more than British people of the same age and in the same jobs.

And people don't always move because they want to 'take' something - I moved here because the man I wanted to marry was here. Back home I would be paid a great deal better for what I do (data analysis in the NHS). But I've put down roots here so unless Reform get in, I'm staying.

Your post exudes the xenophobia I mentioned earlier.

Clarinet1 · 30/08/2025 09:17

Well I am white British but, as I sit here having my dialysis I am being looked after by staff none of whom were born in the UK. I am extremely grateful that they are here with their skills, knowledge and compassion; If they weren’t, who would be doing the job?

Flomingho · 30/08/2025 09:17

So sorry to hear tha you are experiencing this op. I am the granddaughter of an immigrant and my grandmother experienced some very unpleasant and xenophobic comments when she moved here in the 1950's. I think it is upsetting to hear that attitudes of some people haven't changed. I am genuinely baffled about why someone would take a dislike or mistrust someone because of their nationality or skin colour. I actually blame the media for stirring up hatred towards anyone who is not British. They only report the negative stories about something an immigrant has done. What about all the immigrants working in NHS hospitals saving lives or caring for elderly people in nursing homes

MarieAntoinetteQueenOfFrance · 30/08/2025 09:17

I am similar to OP and have spent most of my adult working life in the UK.
However, I am fully integrated into UK society- DH is as British as they come!

I don't feel ostracised or uncomfortable because I am an legal economic migrant. That could be because of my skin colour or the fact that I am fluent in English.
Many of my friends and work colleagues all have very different backgrounds, and yes, some are migrants that are associated with illegal immigration simply by their shin colour.

So yes, I agree, the tide has turned for many people who are legally living in this country. It's sad, especially for people who hold a British passport.

AlastheDaffodils · 30/08/2025 09:15

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:00

Why haven’t you applied for citizenship?

She didn’t say that she hasn’t.

But if she has EU settled status there aren’t that many advantages to getting citizenship, so it’s a reasonable decision to avoid the (very large) costs of applying.

Octavia64 · 30/08/2025 09:13

I’m British.

after Brexit (which I did not vote for) I went back through my family tree to try to see if in any way I was eligible for an EU passport. I wasn’t. My family have been east Anglian peasants for centuries.

i understand that the current anti migrant sentiment is not just a British phenomenon. It’s also in America, and in European countries as well.

people see that state services are creaking and that it’s hard to get jobs and it’s easy to blame migrants. It’s well known it’s hard to get GP appointments, and in my small town it’s because lots of new houses have been built and many of the people who live in them are not locals.

and by local I mean from the county that I live in.

hell, they don’t count me as local and I come from the next county along.

rural Britain has always been suspicious of incomers and that includes anyone who hasn’t lived in the village or town for the last seventy years.

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GreenAndWhiteStripes · 30/08/2025 09:11

Sadly, lots of countries are moving in this direction. The rise of right wing nationalism is not just a UK problem.

NoMoreHotHols · 30/08/2025 09:10

ladybirdsanchez · 30/08/2025 09:00

I get what you're saying, but it's not just Britain that is like this. Scratch the surface and all countries are xenophobic and think that their native born citizens are superior to others and have additional rights that others do not. I've lived in three other countries and in all of them I was always seen as a foreigner. In one western European country, when trying to open a bank account, something I was legally allowed to do, I was told that I couldn't because I was 'an unknown person', despite having all the correct documentation and the right to live, work, etc in that country. It was because I wasn't from that country, pure and simple and the bank teller wasn't afraid to be xenophobic to my face about it. In Scotland, I had 'fucking English' said to me in a very vicious tone of voice at a bus stop, and England and Scotland are part of the same nation!

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You are so right. I’m Eastern European myself although I never refer to myself as that as I come from an actual country in EE and it’s not one homogenous group of Eastern Europeans. And one of the reasons I’ve left my country was the xenophobia I experienced there. And it’s not improved in the past 20 years.
Ironically, I feel safer in my home country than some parts of England I go to. I have never experienced any negative comments though, but that might have been just luck.

Ragged · 30/08/2025 09:09

There's always been a deep strain of xenophobicness in British culture, English culture anyway, I realised that in early 90s. Whipped up now by QAnon type conspiracies that have spread widely and have a development process similar to how viruses swap new genes in and out, different parts of the conspiracy (story) theory get swapped in and out until the conspiracy (story) is especially contagious and makes people especially agitated.

"Protect the Children!" was being shouted by rt wing protesters at Gaza-related protests at our city hall the other day.

How does law define an "illegal" immigrant now? If everyone crossing on small boats or back of a lorry claims asylum... do they only reach "illegal" status in law when they are still resisting deportation after exhausted all appeals?

Am pretty sure the people using "illegal immigrant" language view every single small boat or other "irregular" arrival as "illegal", isn't that what Farage said, they are all "illegal" but those are personal opinions not opinions with legal status. Then there must be some indigenous-born people who view all migrants as 2nd class. I imagine a hierarchy like...

illegal(?) < asylum seeker < legal immigrant < nonwhite citizen < white citizen

Fairyliz · 30/08/2025 09:07

Can I ask why you came here op?
If it was because you have a skill the country needs (doctor) then isn’t it sad that you have taken those skills it from your home country.
If it was for a better standard of living that implies the UK is giving you something,so you are taking from the UK.
Im not saying that now you don’t fully contribute, but there was a chance you might not. Does the country have the resources to offer that chance to unlimited amounts of people?

Araminta1003 · 30/08/2025 09:06

You are most welcome here and this nation would be utterly broken financially without all the legal migrants who have made it grow and contributed. You have just as much of a legal right to be here then these people. We need to move to a contribution based system - that will shut all these losers up. Most of them simply don’t like the competition that overseas talent brings and simply cannot work out that our system only functions (just about) because of it.

LemondrizzleShark · 30/08/2025 09:05

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:00

Why haven’t you applied for citizenship?

Do you think that would make a difference to a random racist in the street? She’s hardly going to whip her British passport out to prove she is truly British is she?

And given plenty of 3rd gen black and Asian immigrants are also being told to “fuck off home”, I don’t think it actually matters what passport she has.

Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 09:05

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:00

Why haven’t you applied for citizenship?

My home country doesn’t support dual nationality, so I would lose my original citizenship by birth. Even if I had British citizenship, my accent would still give me away. And even if I said I had a British passport, the next question would always be: “Where are you from originally?”

I’m not even sure this question is really relevant, though.
Does it matter what my passport states?

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Mixedmix · 30/08/2025 09:03

Most countries are like this, especially UK and Europe, who openly hate those who aren’t originally from that country eg Scotland and most of Europe hate England and there’s lots of xenophobia. I’m mixed race and British born and I’ve experienced racism from people from different countries.

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