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Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 08:36

I’ve been living in the UK for 16 years, have two children, and work full-time. I consider myself integrated, living according to British values, and respecting this country. I look after myself and my home, and I try to contribute positively to the community.

Yet, many of us — especially from Eastern Europe — don’t feel entirely safe with the ongoing issues around illegal migrant boats. Even though we are legal residents, I’ve noticed growing dissatisfaction from some neighbours. When I mention that I’m from Eastern Europe, I often hear comments like, “Of course you are…” — basically implying I’m not British.

This makes me feel like I’ve somehow “brought these boats” here, as if I’m just another part of the immigrant problem. Seeing flags and attitudes that suggest “immigrants go home” is disheartening.

I also feel somewhat less confident around British people, especially in areas with mostly locals and fewer immigrants. For example, when I travel to campsites or smaller towns, I sometimes feel looked at as untrustworthy. Luckily, in London I feel much less like this.

Post-Brexit, it feels like the country has changed in ways that make life less secure, not just for immigrants but for everyone. It’s heartbreaking that all migrants, legal or not, are often dropped into one pot and judged as a single group.

I keep wondering — after so many years of people from other countries contributing to making the UK a brighter, more vibrant place, why does it feel like the country has been going downhill over time?

I feel so heartbroken, because I understand that the UK will never truly be my home, as I was not born here. Yet it hurts to realize that, with every passing year, it feels more and more like I will never be fully welcome.

Why has it gone so wrong on a broader scale? How can we have a healthier, safer society for everyone, while respecting the law and supporting integration?

I hope we can have a conversation about this that goes beyond fear and politics, and focuses on community, fairness, and safety for all residents.
Im just curious, in this era of migrant boats and heightened tension around immigration, how do you perceive or feel about other immigrants, even those who are legal residents? Does this climate affect the way you interact with them or how you feel about other immigrants, especially in less multicultural towns? What does your family of friends say?

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RedMaker · 30/08/2025 11:07

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 10:54

Lol at pp saying the UK should switch to a UAE model. You could try that, but you won't get many takers when so many tax payers are fleeing. The only reason the UAE works is because of low taxes and relatively high wages, built on modern slavery.

Good, that's the goal: British people (in fact, all Europeans) have consistently backed lower immigration for decades. Less takers is a win.

Tigergirl80 · 30/08/2025 11:07

The way some people behave towards others just because they have a darker skin colour is disgusting. But they go abroad and want brown skin and get takeaways from Indians Chinese Turkish Greek and Italian businesses. I know white European immigrants nobody treats them with disdain.

I also know a family of Asylum Seekers from Myanmar formerly Burma. There isn’t much in the media about the country. Some assume it’s a safe country. But there has been an ongoing civil war there for years. they have put up with so much abuse and rascist graffiti on their accommodation. They are desperately trying to integrate. The husband and daughter are fluent in English. The wife knows basic English but she’s learning. They can’t work but are desperate to. They all volunteer in the community even the teenage daughter.

bombastix · 30/08/2025 11:06

Strictly speaking British nationality is not a right. ILR is. In law, nobody has a strict right to obtain a British passport,

Most of these laws could change tomorrow with a motivated government. If there was no ECHR then getting any status in the UK would be just on what the government decided. Legally I would say not having a British passport is to live on sand.

All things are open and liberal until they are not. The UK has just had a liberal policy for 30 plus years. That looks to be ending whatever government we have. Reform will remove laws relating to equalities and discrimination which would take us back to around the mid 1990s. No one should think this stuff is forever unless you vote for parties that say they will keep it.

Bookloveruk · 30/08/2025 11:06

I’m so sorry you have this experience. It is not acceptable. all countries round the work have people of different nationalities, religions, cultures and experiences and that is what makes the world a better more rounded place but sadly creates divides. I am from north of the border and encountered bigotry due to religion and as an adult I love to travel to see different perspectives and welcome the diversity in the uk. I celebrated Hindu celebrations this week in the uk and enjoyed it. I wish you all well.

AugustSlippedAwayIntoAMomentInTime · 30/08/2025 11:06

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:00

Why haven’t you applied for citizenship?

Do you have any idea how stupidly expensive it is?

RedMaker · 30/08/2025 11:05

StandFirm · 30/08/2025 10:55

Why should PP be 'grateful' if she's literally just pointed out she and her husband got their status and jobs thanks to their own hard work. That's called meritocracy.

You're stuck in the neoliberal western "country as economic zone" post-national view, which is now failing and falling into chaos everywhere

Dragonflydancer · 30/08/2025 11:05

Paying tax in a country is the bare minimum of contributing btw. Its nothing to write home about in terms of positive impact

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:05

I used the term "cringingly grateful" btw. It's interesting how poor reading comprehension here is.

I am not going to tug my forelock and self-flagellate over taking a job away from a British person. Nope. I am grateful in a sense, but the opinions expressed on this thread make me not want to go out of my way to kiss the ring, so to speak.

Deafnotdumb · 30/08/2025 11:04

Xenophobia always spikes when people feel under pressure. In this case from inflation, crumbling services and really high housing costs. Then you've got bloody Farage and social media whipping up a sense of helplessness by implying we have no control over our own borders and the whole of Africa is about to move here to live off state benefits (that last bit is sarcasm).

For those who are here, contributing to the UK; thank you. I am sorry you are experiencing this, especially as it's more about our homegrown problems than anything you’ve done. We would be up a certain creek without a paddle, without you.

In the long run, I do think we need a commonsense and compassionate reform of the UN Refugee Act. It was created in the aftermath of World War II and the drafters never envisaged a situation where people would die in deserts and drown in the Mediterranean to find a new place to live. Instead, we need to financially and practically support refuge cities close to conflict which people can easily get to, and return from, once the conflict is over. It stops the host countries from being overwhelmed (Lebanon and Turkey comes to mind), kills the people smuggling routes, stops the impression that refugees are gaming the system, and gives women, children and people with disabilities a chance at a safer life. It also stops the conflict country from bring hollowed out. Couple that with decent visa routes that allow ambitious people who want to move here, the chance to do so with dignity and fairness. The UK should be proud of the people who chose to make their home here.

Deafnotdumb · 30/08/2025 11:04

Xenophobia always spikes when people feel under pressure. In this case from inflation, crumbling services and really high housing costs. Then you've got bloody Farage and social media whipping up a sense of helplessness by implying we have no control over our own borders and the whole of Africa is about to move here to live off state benefits (that last bit is sarcasm).

For those who are here, contributing to the UK; thank you. I am sorry you are experiencing this, especially as it's more about our homegrown problems than anything you’ve done. We would be up a certain creek without a paddle, without you.

In the long run, I do think we need a commonsense and compassionate reform of the UN Refugee Act. It was created in the aftermath of World War II and the drafters never envisaged a situation where people would die in deserts and drown in the Mediterranean to find a new place to live. Instead, we need to financially and practically support refuge cities close to conflict which people can easily get to, and return from, once the conflict is over. It stops the host countries from being overwhelmed (Lebanon and Turkey comes to mind), kills the people smuggling routes, stops the impression that refugees are gaming the system, and gives women, children and people with disabilities a chance at a safer life. It also stops the conflict country from bring hollowed out. Couple that with decent visa routes that allow ambitious people who want to move here, the chance to do so with dignity and fairness. The UK should be proud of the people who chose to make their home here.

WeAreExperiencingHigherNumberOfCallsThanUsual · 30/08/2025 11:03

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 10:59

The white paper proposed by Starmer suggests contributions and is making citizenship harder.

That's good. As long as it isn't just financial contribution. Thanks. I totally missed that citizenship update

banananas1999 · 30/08/2025 11:03

BundleBoogie · 30/08/2025 10:50

So are you saying that’s ok now?

That we should be wiped out as a people because a few of our ancestors did bad things?

Its not just ancestors is it, UK is still aiding genocides in other countries and then shock, you get waves of refugees and aslym seekers mainly from the same countries your gov has bombed.

Bambamhoohoo · 30/08/2025 11:02

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 10:54

Lol at pp saying the UK should switch to a UAE model. You could try that, but you won't get many takers when so many tax payers are fleeing. The only reason the UAE works is because of low taxes and relatively high wages, built on modern slavery.

Also what would even be the basis of a UAE economy? We’ve exploited our property boom. We don’t have natural resources to exploit as they do. You can’t just make a similar economy by saying no tax oh dear we don’t actually have anything for you all to do 😭

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:02

RedMaker · 30/08/2025 11:01

And yet you're seeking to remain as long as you can - evidently, you need us and/or aren't wanted elsewhere.

The only problem is that the government hasn't addressed people's concerns for decades. But that's now coming to a head and reaching the stage of collapse. I suspect it's going to be a problem for you too, come the next election.

This country isn't Netflix. It's not a subscription service where you become British or are entitled for you and your descendants to be here simply because you've paid tax. Paying tax is the minimum to be permitted to be here for an extended period of time.

Legal immigration is a problem when it occurs on such a scale that it makes the indigenous population a minority in areas of their own country.

But that's never held anywhere, and results in fracture. Which is what we're seeing the start of in the UK.

Ok. Whatever you say.

catspyjamas1 · 30/08/2025 11:01

@RedMaker On being grateful:

I encounter this attitude A LOT with other immigrants. Of all types of nationalities and races.

It's bizarre to me. I am incredibly grateful and lucky to have been able to move to the UK. I know so many people who would love to come here and leave SA but can't, including close relatives. A lot of immigrants just don't appreciate how lucky they are.

RedMaker · 30/08/2025 11:01

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 10:52

I came here because I have worked around the world in a skilled profession and like diverse environments. I also love London and all it offers by way of museums, parks, and the West End.
You are welcome to be hostile to me and get me out legally. Knock yourself out. If you have a problem with legal tax paying immigrants, that's a "you problem' .

And yet you're seeking to remain as long as you can - evidently, you need us and/or aren't wanted elsewhere.

The only problem is that the government hasn't addressed people's concerns for decades. But that's now coming to a head and reaching the stage of collapse. I suspect it's going to be a problem for you too, come the next election.

This country isn't Netflix. It's not a subscription service where you become British or are entitled for you and your descendants to be here simply because you've paid tax. Paying tax is the minimum to be permitted to be here for an extended period of time.

Legal immigration is a problem when it occurs on such a scale that it makes the indigenous population a minority in areas of their own country.

But that's never held anywhere, and results in fracture. Which is what we're seeing the start of in the UK.

sofabouncing · 30/08/2025 11:00

Arrivist · 30/08/2025 10:59

Many of the ‘illegal’ immigrants here come from countries which were previously colonised by the British. We are reaping what we sowed.

So what is it then? Immigration is a wonderful thing affording us a vibrancy we lacked otherwise, or revenge?

StandFirm · 30/08/2025 11:00

HonestOpalHelper · 30/08/2025 10:55

I wouldn't take the accent question as an insult, I always ask what part of the world people hail from if they have an interesting accent, its a good conversation starter - and that's not just international - Yorkshire or Lancashire?

I got asked about my accent by a cabby the other day, got us chatting, mines Cardiff but very light so he couldn't make it out.

Its a bit like taking about the weather!

Agree on the accent - but it can feel easily othering for someone who wasn't born in the UK. Especially now.

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:00

OP is talking about legal immigrants, so I am unsure why people are talking about asylum seekers.

Ginmonkeyagain · 30/08/2025 11:00

@RedMaker Japan has a huge issue with a decling and aging population and economic stagnation.

Now they have embraced automation a lot more than we have. And that is an interesting thing. There is probably an overlap here between peple who dislike immigration and dislike increased automation such as self service stores, more chatbots etc.. In an ageing country if you don't want immigration you need increased automation.

thepariscrimefiles · 30/08/2025 10:59

Ihavetoask · 30/08/2025 09:42

I don't understand why you'd think being here legally would change the minds of someone who is anti-immigration. The issue is that you are from a different culture that may worship a different God/follow a different religion, have different cultural values and will use resources that these types believe British people should have sole access to.

You may be here legally, but for example, your child may still require extra resources from their school simply because they speak a different language or have had adverse experiences that led you all to come here. Your child may get a place in a school above a British child who had it down as first choice. Your sons might look down on women in a way that British men do not (or something). You might wear a hijab. You will either claim benefits that British tax payers fund, or you will take jobs meant for Brits.

These are the issues that people have with immigration. Your legality is irrelevant.

OP's children were born here.

Which religions/believers are acceptable to you? Just White Anglo Saxon Protestants? What about Catholics? Jews? Obviously not any of the religions followed by brown people.

What jobs are meant for Brits? I've never seen a job advertisement saying Brits only.

OP's legality is very relevant. Given her higher level scientific qualifications I would imagine that she is probably a net contributor to the UK.

These threads really bring all the bigots out of the woodwork.

Arrivist · 30/08/2025 10:59

Many of the ‘illegal’ immigrants here come from countries which were previously colonised by the British. We are reaping what we sowed.

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 10:59

WeAreExperiencingHigherNumberOfCallsThanUsual · 30/08/2025 10:57

I agree they never lost the dominant status, yes.
I don't think uk should switch to same system, but something does need to happen or locals to see benefits.
I also think the citizenship should be bit more complex to get and I don't mean just making tests more difficult. Proving positove contribution to uk or something like that

The white paper proposed by Starmer suggests contributions and is making citizenship harder.

BundleBoogie · 30/08/2025 10:58

NoMoreHotHols · 30/08/2025 10:26

I don’t think so. It seems that British people are not allowed ro speak freely and are called a racist as soon as they mention issues that immigarion can bring.

Thank you. @PandoraSocks has proved my point totally.

Which bit is racist Pandora? Is our Border Force chief reporting that contrary to popular belief, quite a few ‘asylum seekers’ are happy to pop home for Christmas, racist? Is our government racist for admitting there a problem with small boats? Are the women and children raped or murdered by ‘asylum seekers’ while residing in the hotels racist? Do elaborate please.

QueenofDestruction · 30/08/2025 10:58

And what do you think right of abode British-Irish means? Reading a little more might he.p you decipher that.