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Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 08:36

I’ve been living in the UK for 16 years, have two children, and work full-time. I consider myself integrated, living according to British values, and respecting this country. I look after myself and my home, and I try to contribute positively to the community.

Yet, many of us — especially from Eastern Europe — don’t feel entirely safe with the ongoing issues around illegal migrant boats. Even though we are legal residents, I’ve noticed growing dissatisfaction from some neighbours. When I mention that I’m from Eastern Europe, I often hear comments like, “Of course you are…” — basically implying I’m not British.

This makes me feel like I’ve somehow “brought these boats” here, as if I’m just another part of the immigrant problem. Seeing flags and attitudes that suggest “immigrants go home” is disheartening.

I also feel somewhat less confident around British people, especially in areas with mostly locals and fewer immigrants. For example, when I travel to campsites or smaller towns, I sometimes feel looked at as untrustworthy. Luckily, in London I feel much less like this.

Post-Brexit, it feels like the country has changed in ways that make life less secure, not just for immigrants but for everyone. It’s heartbreaking that all migrants, legal or not, are often dropped into one pot and judged as a single group.

I keep wondering — after so many years of people from other countries contributing to making the UK a brighter, more vibrant place, why does it feel like the country has been going downhill over time?

I feel so heartbroken, because I understand that the UK will never truly be my home, as I was not born here. Yet it hurts to realize that, with every passing year, it feels more and more like I will never be fully welcome.

Why has it gone so wrong on a broader scale? How can we have a healthier, safer society for everyone, while respecting the law and supporting integration?

I hope we can have a conversation about this that goes beyond fear and politics, and focuses on community, fairness, and safety for all residents.
Im just curious, in this era of migrant boats and heightened tension around immigration, how do you perceive or feel about other immigrants, even those who are legal residents? Does this climate affect the way you interact with them or how you feel about other immigrants, especially in less multicultural towns? What does your family of friends say?

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slownova · 30/08/2025 11:24

Like others I am sorry you feel this way and have been made to feel uncomfortable. I'm from a small town where about 5 years ago it was pretty much all white people with a small but notable population of Eastern Europeans with a few shops catering to Polish emigrants. My cousin is married to a woman who moved here from Poland.

In the past 5 years there seem to be a lot of people from Africa and India moving here to work in care, retail, security and so on. It is a very noticeable and shift as literally a few years ago you would never have seen anyone black or asian living here. We also have a migrant hotel in the town centre housing asylum seekers. However even though all this change has happened there seems to be no issues at all. The hotel that houses asylum seekers is very quiet and I've never heard of any trouble. We have a homeless hostel just outside town and there are always stories about fights and trouble there.

New arrivals from India and Africa seem to have just fitted in and you see them in the supermarket, going to church, taking their kids to the local leisure centre, putting their bins out. I can't see what anyone has to complain about and to be fair I don't hear anyone else complain. However I know that doesn't mean that people don't and that if you are an immigrant you won't be getting the brunt of that.

My husband is russian but he's been here for 31 years now since he was 17 and now speaks english with scottish accent more or less so most people wouldn't know he wasn't british. We've also spent time living in London, Prague and Dublin over the years and so I'm not sure perhaps we just have a different view of things.

I do see on social media, youtube especially a lot of racist bile that seems to pop up at the drop of a hat so it does feel like that content is being directed at people and if you didn't look at it critically then I worry it could almost brainwash / radicalise people. I just see a big disconnect with what I have heard people say online and the reality of my own suddenly quite diverse town where if anything recent immigration has brought a bit of life back to the place.

bombastix · 30/08/2025 11:23

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 30/08/2025 11:21

You're arguing against someone's personal experience.

We are generally a xenophobic country, it's just in the past it's been largely covered up in many by politeness. I've known plenty of people with mildly racist views, who would never have publicly voiced them, and would have been genuinely horrified at abuse or violence aimed immigrants. They still would like them to "go home", but would never dream of putting a brick through someone's window and look down on those who would.

Now that is actually quite accurate. It is this kind of attitude that will bring a Reform government imo.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 30/08/2025 11:23

If you’ve been here for 16 years then surely you know this isn’t a new issue. Did you forget the outrage and headlines about the EE “invasion “ and “swarms” way back when? We were the baddies then. Followed by the Brexit rhetoric , then actual Brexit. Now this . If you go further back , you’ll find more of the same. Immigrants are an easy scapegoat and it was ever thus. The “bad kind of immigrant “ might change, but the underlying sentiment is the same, and for some people no immigrant is a good immigrant.

I’m a big girl , I can take it and I’ve made very conscious decisions in regards to DD so she’ll never be seen as anything other than British so she doesn’t have to deal with any of the shit I’ve had to.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 30/08/2025 11:21

DisabledDemon · 30/08/2025 11:10

No, actually, Britain hasn't been. There are xenophobic elements but by and large, Britain has been hugely accepting of different races and cultures (not just recently but for many centuries - after all, how many European countries have had a Jewish Prime Minister?). More so than a number of our European neighbours.

For you to declare that Britain is largely xenophobic is very wrong and extremely insulting - and you should be embarrassed to make such a statement.

You're arguing against someone's personal experience.

We are generally a xenophobic country, it's just in the past it's been largely covered up in many by politeness. I've known plenty of people with mildly racist views, who would never have publicly voiced them, and would have been genuinely horrified at abuse or violence aimed immigrants. They still would like them to "go home", but would never dream of putting a brick through someone's window and look down on those who would.

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:21

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Ok. I think you are deeply insular and are unfamilar with internationally mobile people working across the world, but that's your prerogative. My son has just got both an Oxford and Cambridge masters offer so perhaps he will make a home here. Or not. Who knows? He is going to be in an internationally mobile profession too.

As a tall brown man he will be yours and some people's worst nightmare, but that's your lookout really. Not his.

Dweetfidilove · 30/08/2025 11:20

inkognitha · 30/08/2025 09:31

It took me a while to apply for citizenship and I thought it would make no difference, just a paper but it has actually deepened my connection to the UK, even with my shitty accent, I m British now, nobody can kick me out, so why would I care if an idiot decided to have a go at me because I m not British-born … which has never ever happened to me or anyone I know in the 12y I have been here I must say

And people are mostly angry at the rise of migration in the last 5y, and the massive cultural differences arising from importing people from other continents than Europe, not really at the European migrants who have been here ages imho

I also hesitated, but eventually applied for citizenship for practical reasons.

I'm always conscious, however that I can be kicked out. Citizenship can be taken back, so I treasure the citizenship of my birth country. Thankfully, I'm allowed both.

catspyjamas1 · 30/08/2025 11:20

QueenofDestruction · 30/08/2025 10:58

And what do you think right of abode British-Irish means? Reading a little more might he.p you decipher that.

Um no. You stated and implied that the majority of UC claimants are British and Irish, they "just don't work" and are "xenophobic".

  1. UC claimants include non British citizens.
2. Nearly 3 million or so are IN WORK. 3. Nearly 60% of UC claimants are women. Most likely with children. 4. 50% of UC households have children.

So, please, do petition government to channel your higher rate tax to asylum seekers instead of understanding the broader economic landscape of the UK, the working people claiming UC to top up low and stagnant wages because, as you said, British and Irish claimants "just don't work". I, however, am happy for my higher rate tax contributions to be used for the benefit of the citizens and residents of this country that need it.

Hotflushesandchilblains · 30/08/2025 11:20

There is a huge eastern european community where I live, although it is a small town - there was a resettlement camp here in WW2 and a lot of people stayed on, so a lot of people who have names that identify their heritage but sound as local as local can be.

I think where we get into trouble is where there is a refusal to integrate. I dont mean you have to throw all of your own culture out of the window, there is no need for that. But if you do not largely accept the culture, language and values of the society you move to, even if you keep different customs, that is where problems begin. I guess the reason people immigrate is a factor- you are more likely to want to fit in if you move of your own free will.

I grew up in London, have lived all over the world and am a big fan of diversity. But when I see things like a rise in birth defects because of cousin marriage, or a drop in vaccine take up, or I go to an area where most people are not speaking english, it does make me uncomfortable. And if you combine that with economic difficulties, these things seem to be making a powder keg.

Dragonflydancer · 30/08/2025 11:19

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:07

What would you like me to do? I speak English to native level, take nothing from the state, and have friends from all races. I don't only socialise with people from my own country. Oh, and I volunteer. Is there anything more I can do?

I mean speaking English is another bare minimum, yes

OchreSnail · 30/08/2025 11:18

pointythings · 30/08/2025 09:03

Because some countries won't allow dual citizenship. Mine is one of those. And frankly, given the way the UK public are behaving, I want to hang on to that beautiful burgundy passport so that if necessary, I can sell up and get the hell out of here. Which will be a shame for the UK as they will miss my tax contributions, but such is life.

Definitely hang on to your EU passport! I wouldn't give it up if I had one - we're effectively prisoners in this bloody country after the self-inflicted wound of Brexit

RedMaker · 30/08/2025 11:16

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Middlechild3 · 30/08/2025 10:36

Agree. If I migrated I would bend over backwards to learn the language and fit in with the local ways whichever country I went to. British people can't query why this hasn't been happening here without being labelled racist. The pendulum has swung too far the other way. Asylum seekers and some economic migrants should always be welcomed but the onus is on them to fit in not British people and culture to change to accommodate.

Your post would be funny if it wasn't so depressing so see people display such racist ignorance throughout this thread.

There is a very long history of people from Britain migrating all over the world and not making any effort to learn local languages or respect local cultures and traditions, but instead forcing everyone too speak/ read/ write English.

Many of the yobs going on about 'stopping the boats' and 'illegal immigrants' now (and/or voting for Brexit a few years back) are exactly the same folk who will go on holiday (or even more hypocritically, migrate themselves) to places like Spain and then complain about the Spanish population's habits (or speaking Spanish, and eating traditional Spanish foods). No attempt to 'integrate', understand, 'fit in' by them....

Squigglydums · 30/08/2025 11:15

As a third generation, there is definitely an uneasy feeling, but I wouldn’t say it’s exclusively an English only problem- I and many friends have experienced xenophobia in many Eastern European countries openly. And adding to the narrative to Create this idea of a ‘good’ immigrant just adds fuel to the fire IMHO. There is definitely a problem - cost of living, public services, housing issues- and the blame for these lies in many things and not one.

banananas1999 · 30/08/2025 11:13

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:07

What would you like me to do? I speak English to native level, take nothing from the state, and have friends from all races. I don't only socialise with people from my own country. Oh, and I volunteer. Is there anything more I can do?

As long as you dont have british accent you will be an unwelcome outsider who needs to go back “home” in those peoples eyes.

bombastix · 30/08/2025 11:13

banananas1999 · 30/08/2025 11:10

This person is clueless. She thinks waving british passport will save someone with a foreign accent from xenophobic attacks.

Yes I have to agree with that. If you are dealing with a real racist they don’t care about your contribution, your presentation, standard of English, how many generations you have been here etc. You have the wrong skin colour. Thats it.

The paperwork being completed for a passport is not going to cut it.

EilonwyWithRedGoldHair · 30/08/2025 11:12

LemondrizzleShark · 30/08/2025 09:05

Do you think that would make a difference to a random racist in the street? She’s hardly going to whip her British passport out to prove she is truly British is she?

And given plenty of 3rd gen black and Asian immigrants are also being told to “fuck off home”, I don’t think it actually matters what passport she has.

The racists argue that a non-white person can't be British.

But to some of them I'm not British enough either, even though I'm white, because one set of great grandparents and their children came here as refugees (on a small boat!). Unless you can trace your ancestry as 100% British for centuries you don't count - a minority view, admittedly, but one that has either gained more supporters or the people who believe it are shouting louder online.

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:12

DisabledDemon · 30/08/2025 11:10

No, actually, Britain hasn't been. There are xenophobic elements but by and large, Britain has been hugely accepting of different races and cultures (not just recently but for many centuries - after all, how many European countries have had a Jewish Prime Minister?). More so than a number of our European neighbours.

For you to declare that Britain is largely xenophobic is very wrong and extremely insulting - and you should be embarrassed to make such a statement.

I agree with this.

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:11

RedMaker · 30/08/2025 11:07

Good, that's the goal: British people (in fact, all Europeans) have consistently backed lower immigration for decades. Less takers is a win.

I really think you have a very poor grasp of economics. I didn't say takers are fleeing to the UAE. They wouldn't be allowed. Tax-payers are fleeing, of all kinds.
If it's your goal to have British tax-payers fleeing, then ok.

BundleBoogie · 30/08/2025 11:11

Middlechild3 · 30/08/2025 10:36

Agree. If I migrated I would bend over backwards to learn the language and fit in with the local ways whichever country I went to. British people can't query why this hasn't been happening here without being labelled racist. The pendulum has swung too far the other way. Asylum seekers and some economic migrants should always be welcomed but the onus is on them to fit in not British people and culture to change to accommodate.

Exactly. I even learn a few words of the local language when going on holiday so I can be polite in shops etc.

According to census data, over 1 million adults in the UK can’t speak English - either none or to an inadequate level). That involves huge costs to them NHS, police and court system for interpreters.

The NHS is spending approx £40 million per year (I looked it up for the non believers) on interpreters. That’s worth quite a few new doctors or nurses.

Immigrants aren’t going to integrate if they can’t speak the language. There are reports of many kids at school being the only English speaker in their family, that being a long term situation, not a question of time for learning.

As a country we offer immigrants free English lessons (and driving lessons etc but that’s another issue) so it’s not about resource.

Jujujudo · 30/08/2025 11:11

Racism is always alive and well. Racists just need a new excuse to justify it and be vocal about it. I’m not an immigrant but I’m Jewish and I’ve been the target of racism on almost a daily basis lately. It’s exhausting and demoralising. I’ve started being outspoken at times, I often call people out to their face which stops them in their tracks. I can’t educate people, I know that, but I can say: did you mean to make a racist comment to me? And things like that. I’m so sorry it’s come to this, you deserve better. But it’s not going away so you need to find your voice and stand up to them in a way that makes you feel more secure and confident.

DisabledDemon · 30/08/2025 11:10

pointythings · 30/08/2025 08:53

I feel the same as you. I've been here 28 years and if you spoke to me, you wouldn't know I'm not British. The Brexit referendum brought out all the xenophobia that was there all along, I'm afraid. My DC were told to fuck off back to where they were born at school the day after the referendum (that would be Cambridge, which my youngest told them). The British have always been an insular nation, suspicious of foreigners. And certain political actors, aided by a right wing media, have whipped that up very effectively.

No, actually, Britain hasn't been. There are xenophobic elements but by and large, Britain has been hugely accepting of different races and cultures (not just recently but for many centuries - after all, how many European countries have had a Jewish Prime Minister?). More so than a number of our European neighbours.

For you to declare that Britain is largely xenophobic is very wrong and extremely insulting - and you should be embarrassed to make such a statement.

banananas1999 · 30/08/2025 11:10

AugustSlippedAwayIntoAMomentInTime · 30/08/2025 11:06

Do you have any idea how stupidly expensive it is?

This person is clueless. She thinks waving british passport will save someone with a foreign accent from xenophobic attacks.

Ginmonkeyagain · 30/08/2025 11:09

@RedMaker 74.4% of the UK identifies as White British and it will be a lot higher than that outside of major urban areas.

I am not sure the "indigenous population" will be in the minority any time soon.

Also I am not sure what is meant by indigenous British anyway - we are an island formed by waves of migration. I am white British but my ancestry on both sides is not British (Askenazi Jewish and French Huguenot). Mr Monkey is white and was born here but is Irish. Is he "indigenous British"?

Longtimelurkerfinallyposts · 30/08/2025 11:08

RedMaker · 30/08/2025 10:08

It's very simple: there's too many.

No people in history have ever consented or accepted becoming a minority in their own country and losing the dominant status in their own land.

That's happened already in areas of Britain.

"For things to remain the same, everything must change."

It doesn't matter now whether the government ignores the will of the people and tinkers with superficial changes within the existing - failed - system or decides to act. Huge changes are coming.

The only question is whether they'll come as a result of political action or violence. But the UK is now an extremely explosive mixture.

Have you not heard of Scotland?

IceLollyMolly · 30/08/2025 11:07

Dragonflydancer · 30/08/2025 11:05

Paying tax in a country is the bare minimum of contributing btw. Its nothing to write home about in terms of positive impact

What would you like me to do? I speak English to native level, take nothing from the state, and have friends from all races. I don't only socialise with people from my own country. Oh, and I volunteer. Is there anything more I can do?