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Tiktakmam · 30/08/2025 08:36

I’ve been living in the UK for 16 years, have two children, and work full-time. I consider myself integrated, living according to British values, and respecting this country. I look after myself and my home, and I try to contribute positively to the community.

Yet, many of us — especially from Eastern Europe — don’t feel entirely safe with the ongoing issues around illegal migrant boats. Even though we are legal residents, I’ve noticed growing dissatisfaction from some neighbours. When I mention that I’m from Eastern Europe, I often hear comments like, “Of course you are…” — basically implying I’m not British.

This makes me feel like I’ve somehow “brought these boats” here, as if I’m just another part of the immigrant problem. Seeing flags and attitudes that suggest “immigrants go home” is disheartening.

I also feel somewhat less confident around British people, especially in areas with mostly locals and fewer immigrants. For example, when I travel to campsites or smaller towns, I sometimes feel looked at as untrustworthy. Luckily, in London I feel much less like this.

Post-Brexit, it feels like the country has changed in ways that make life less secure, not just for immigrants but for everyone. It’s heartbreaking that all migrants, legal or not, are often dropped into one pot and judged as a single group.

I keep wondering — after so many years of people from other countries contributing to making the UK a brighter, more vibrant place, why does it feel like the country has been going downhill over time?

I feel so heartbroken, because I understand that the UK will never truly be my home, as I was not born here. Yet it hurts to realize that, with every passing year, it feels more and more like I will never be fully welcome.

Why has it gone so wrong on a broader scale? How can we have a healthier, safer society for everyone, while respecting the law and supporting integration?

I hope we can have a conversation about this that goes beyond fear and politics, and focuses on community, fairness, and safety for all residents.
Im just curious, in this era of migrant boats and heightened tension around immigration, how do you perceive or feel about other immigrants, even those who are legal residents? Does this climate affect the way you interact with them or how you feel about other immigrants, especially in less multicultural towns? What does your family of friends say?

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pointythings · 09/09/2025 14:16

Don't confuse the poor dears with facts....

thepariscrimefiles · 09/09/2025 09:40

Livelovebehappy · 31/08/2025 16:56

Agree. I think it’s a far better option for countries to adopt a point system like Canada and Australia, so we are only accepting people with the skills we need, and who aren’t going to be a drain on our finances here. I have relatives in Canada, and back about 20 years ago, applied to emigrate there. I failed on the points system, despite having a grandmother there, and an aunt who had actually offered me a job til I got settled. I was disappointed, but accepted that it is what it is, and I wasn’t someone they thought would bring any benefit to their country.

The UK does have a points based system though.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/uk-points-based-immigration-system-employer-information/the-uks-points-based-immigration-system-an-introduction-for-employers

The UK's points-based immigration system: an introduction for employers (accessible version)

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/uk-points-based-immigration-system-employer-information/the-uks-points-based-immigration-system-an-introduction-for-employers

thepariscrimefiles · 09/09/2025 09:36

JudithDunbar · 31/08/2025 16:18

But if you are thinking logically then you must know that the percentage of people who feel negatively towards someone simply for having a different skin colour is immeasurably small. It is dishonest and disingenuous to pretend that that is the source of peoples resentment. I've lived in London all my life and Sadiq Khan is loathed by the small remnant of indigenous Londoners, but that is not because he has brown skin.

Of course a lot of people hate Sadiq Khan because of the colour of his skin and his religion. Anyway, he has been voted into office three times by Londoners.

What is an 'indigenous Londoner'? Are they the descendants of the group of east London dockers and Smithfield porters who famously marched in support of Enoch Powell's anti-immigrant "rivers of blood" speech in 1968? Proper racists, not the more covert 'are you thinking what I'm thinking' ones.

Mixedmix · 08/09/2025 22:21

pointythings · 31/08/2025 16:31

More people are reporting hate crimes nowadays, but they didn’t use to. We just tried to ignore the racism. That’s why the data isn’t reliable. In my experience, the UK was a lot more racist in the 2000s and 2010s when I was at school. Less racism nowadays.

WhenYouSayNothingAtAll · 04/09/2025 18:17

DD got told today by a classmate that I’m a gypsy because I’m from a certain EE country, as an insult. Fun times , but I Guess it could’ve been worse .

Ihavetoask · 03/09/2025 07:54

NoVibrato · 02/09/2025 14:05

Actually, in the 40's and 50's one could find signs outside cheap boarding houses saying "no dogs, no Irish" --so not even being white saved the Irish! We have a long track record of nasty parochialism.

The Irish became white.

poetryandwine · 02/09/2025 16:46

Rainydayinlondon · 02/09/2025 13:44

A google search said that the main immigrants to Ireland are from the UK and Ukraine.
When they say the UK, do they mean from Northern Ireland?

Great question. All British citizens have right of abode in the RoI, and vice versa. NI is so small that I would be surprised if your statement is true, but not desperately so.

Why not ask Google?

Hiddendisability12 · 02/09/2025 14:15

My pal was born and bred in Manchester as are her three children. She and her children are dark skinned of and are 2nd and 3rd generation from Kerala. Both her parents were invited to the UK as GPs and experts in their field. She looks after her three nieces after her brother died last year and is a single mum in charge of six kids. We have all been camping together a couple of times over the summer, she is eyes with suspicion asked why she has so many children, asked where her husband is, has he gone home? To where Bolton? She is very blunt and funny tells hem the kids are her dead brother's and is done with it but I hate it for her and her kids. I'm white if it was me nobody would ask me all of those questions.

NoVibrato · 02/09/2025 14:05

Ihavetoask · 30/08/2025 10:07

For racists, yes being white is a pretty requisite and it has to be for as many generations as possible unless it was to do with the sexual exploitation of slaves.

Actually, in the 40's and 50's one could find signs outside cheap boarding houses saying "no dogs, no Irish" --so not even being white saved the Irish! We have a long track record of nasty parochialism.

Rainydayinlondon · 02/09/2025 13:44

A google search said that the main immigrants to Ireland are from the UK and Ukraine.
When they say the UK, do they mean from Northern Ireland?

LidlAmaretto · 02/09/2025 13:17

WeAreExperiencingHigherNumberOfCallsThanUsual · 02/09/2025 08:51

I’m in ireland and the amount of legal immigration in such a short period of time of astonishing. 25 yeats ago we were largely homogeneous

I think this is bit of the crux of why the blow up, even in parts of UK. I think it is reasonable to say that big changes with short span (and 20 years is short span) would bring up some discontent anywhere in the world. I say that as an immigrant and a part of the problem essentially. Especially when these changes happened over hard economic times.

I dont think it's even been over the last 20 years. I think is been over the past 5 or so years since the 'Boris wave' of immigration that has just skyrocketed. Especially when it looks like so many people have got visas so they can work as delivery drivers/ shop workers etc and can't possibly be highly skilled. Many people who arrived on care visas are now not working in care but there has been piss poor management of them.

CoffeeCantata · 02/09/2025 09:15

ladybirdsanchez · 30/08/2025 09:00

I get what you're saying, but it's not just Britain that is like this. Scratch the surface and all countries are xenophobic and think that their native born citizens are superior to others and have additional rights that others do not. I've lived in three other countries and in all of them I was always seen as a foreigner. In one western European country, when trying to open a bank account, something I was legally allowed to do, I was told that I couldn't because I was 'an unknown person', despite having all the correct documentation and the right to live, work, etc in that country. It was because I wasn't from that country, pure and simple and the bank teller wasn't afraid to be xenophobic to my face about it. In Scotland, I had 'fucking English' said to me in a very vicious tone of voice at a bus stop, and England and Scotland are part of the same nation!

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This is absolutely right.

Hate xenophobia, certainly, but please don’t try and make out it’s just a British phenomenon. If you think other European countries are a paradise of racial and cultural tolerance you honestly need to get out more

There are huge and frightening world events going on and increasing pressure from migration just now. A lot of people on both sides of the situation are very scared and governments need to face up to - and even anticipate- real and perceived issues. It’s their job.

WeAreExperiencingHigherNumberOfCallsThanUsual · 02/09/2025 08:51

I’m in ireland and the amount of legal immigration in such a short period of time of astonishing. 25 yeats ago we were largely homogeneous

I think this is bit of the crux of why the blow up, even in parts of UK. I think it is reasonable to say that big changes with short span (and 20 years is short span) would bring up some discontent anywhere in the world. I say that as an immigrant and a part of the problem essentially. Especially when these changes happened over hard economic times.

Araminta1003 · 02/09/2025 07:11

The thing is though if so many people are moving around and are mixed in the wider family (and by that I mean siblings living in other countries, children born elsewhere etc) then that is surely the effect of globalisation as with free movement of goods and services you also get quite a lot of movement of people.
It does not mean that culture and values need to be eroded, they just change with the changing times. For example, for us English and “British”, we also have erosion due to more autonomy in Wales and Scotland, which I believe is a good thing, but notions of Britishness are perhaps not just outdated because of loads of immigrants from all over the world. Times have changed. One can still define one’s contemporary cultural and shared values.

How about gratitude being the basis of it all, grateful that we live in a safe country with free healthcare and education where we can speak our minds? I know it is not perfect, but it is still better than most other nation states in the rest of the world. We are lacking in gratitude and respect for our own institutions and the people we have voted for, across the board actually, to represent us. Nobody likes the world “pride” when it comes to Britishness - but gratitude, humility, respect for what we do have, respect for law and order and one’s locality, and each other should be a good start. The recent divisions that have been sown are hateful and it is not all bad here. Would also be good if people shed the entitlement that they are somehow better or worth more than others.

frogyoda · 01/09/2025 23:36

I’m in ireland and the amount of legal immigration in such a short period of time of astonishing. 25 yeats ago we were largely homogeneous. Now when i go my local supermarket i am often one of a few Irish people - most are newly arrived. It gives me a strange, lost feeling. Like when people around you are mostly similar to you and have a similar outlook you feel a connection to each other. When people have arrived from all over the world and are speaking their own languages to each other it is alienating.

some people try to shut down people who object to the pace of change by saying Irish people have traditionally emigrated. I know that is true but it doesn’t stop how I feel.

I think it easier if immigrants are culturally similar to us e.g. support women’s rights and the rights of gay people or a similar outlook on life. Immigrants should be willing to integrate- to be happy for their children to marry Irish people, not separating themselves.

Ireland changed slowly for hundreds and hundreds of years with waves of different people arriving at different times and bringing new parts to the culture - now suddenly there is a rush from all over the world of anyone and everyone. We are becoming just some other ‘global-land’ - not really ireland anymore.

And i know immigrants are mostly good people just trying to do the best for their families - but i still feel sad about the sudden change. I think i could cope with a slower pace of change where immigrants had the chance to integrate and become Irish.

Ragged · 01/09/2025 08:21

wizzywig · 31/08/2025 18:27

There's a thread running on mm about how the majority of asylum seekers are violent sex offenders. Its utterly scary what is being said in that thread. I doubt any of the edl wannabees there will want to check passport, if youve paid taxes, speak English. This is not a time that I feel ok about leaving the house

tbf, a loud MNer contingent believes ALL males are sex offenders who just haven't been caught yet.

Kendodd · 01/09/2025 01:48

hairbearbunches · 31/08/2025 15:12

It's a very peculiar strain of middle class liberal who, particularly with all things european, believe that everything european is good and everything english is bad.

Anecdotally (albeit a silly one), I once had an argument online with someone commenting in the Guardian (no surprise there, its where they all lurk!)) back when we were at the coalface of Covid and was suggesting that people did their bit and bought British where they could to keep the economy and our own home grown businesses from going to the wall. A woman came on to let me know she had no intention of buying British brie, and would be continuing to buy French. Somerset brie is wonderful, but (she was a retired teacher, so no surprises there either) everything French was great and everything British was just appalling and why should she lower her standards. They think it makes them cultured, it just makes them ignorant arseholes. They are in the minority but it is a significant minority. Same kind of people who think English sparkling wine is somehow inferior to champagne and won't touch it when it wins in blind taste tests all the time. You are absolutely right, there is much to celebrate about Britain but that po faced lot would rather eat a plate of cold sick than acknowledge it.

Tangent, but the best brie by a mile is Sharpham from Devon. Absolutely delicious, better than anything Somerset or France have to offer 😋

wizzywig · 31/08/2025 18:27

There's a thread running on mm about how the majority of asylum seekers are violent sex offenders. Its utterly scary what is being said in that thread. I doubt any of the edl wannabees there will want to check passport, if youve paid taxes, speak English. This is not a time that I feel ok about leaving the house

Crunchingleaf · 31/08/2025 18:01

My observation is that many societies don’t seem to mind low levels of immigration. However, once you reach the numbers you now see in many western countries the attitudes start to drastically change.
Humans are for the most part tribal. Then add that to the fact racism is a universal trait that appears in every society Not everyone is tribal and not everyone is racist but a significant amount in every country are.
That is why across multiple countries right now immigrants are starting to feel unsafe.
I am from what was once considered a poor country. Now it’s a rich place we have inward immigration. You can sense the change in attitudes towards immigrants. It’s getting hostile now tbh. This isn’t a British issue. This is happening all over Europe and further afield.

CaptainMyCaptain · 31/08/2025 17:24

Mixedmix · 31/08/2025 16:29

I bet you’re a white person. The rise of the Nazis before WW2 wasn’t anything like it is in the UK. I’ve read the books. You need to read some and stop being dramatic. Racism has always existed and hasn’t worsened. I’d say it’s bad but not as bad as it used to be. Speaking as someone who has experienced racism.

I am white but my now adult daughter isn't so I have experienced racism aimed at me (n- lover etc). There are a lot of things happening now that remind me of the years before ww2 but I'm not going to argue with you about it.

Fairyliz · 31/08/2025 17:21

EarthlyNightshade · 31/08/2025 16:58

What about the talent they are taking away from this country?
By your thinking they really should be using that talent here.

Well yes that would be preferable; but I can’t chain people up here can I? (Although there are some people I would like to chain up!).
My point is if we lose people with valuable skills to other countries, we don’t want to be letting in people with no talents.
Do you genuinely think that is unreasonable?

IceLollyMolly · 31/08/2025 17:20

Fairyliz · 31/08/2025 16:42

But for all of those countries they will only let you in if you have very specific skills that they want. So the Brit gets a new life and the country gets the talent it wants. Is this unreasonable?

The OP has a skill, and multiple degrees.

EarthlyNightshade · 31/08/2025 16:58

Fairyliz · 31/08/2025 16:42

But for all of those countries they will only let you in if you have very specific skills that they want. So the Brit gets a new life and the country gets the talent it wants. Is this unreasonable?

What about the talent they are taking away from this country?
By your thinking they really should be using that talent here.

Livelovebehappy · 31/08/2025 16:56

Fairyliz · 31/08/2025 16:42

But for all of those countries they will only let you in if you have very specific skills that they want. So the Brit gets a new life and the country gets the talent it wants. Is this unreasonable?

Agree. I think it’s a far better option for countries to adopt a point system like Canada and Australia, so we are only accepting people with the skills we need, and who aren’t going to be a drain on our finances here. I have relatives in Canada, and back about 20 years ago, applied to emigrate there. I failed on the points system, despite having a grandmother there, and an aunt who had actually offered me a job til I got settled. I was disappointed, but accepted that it is what it is, and I wasn’t someone they thought would bring any benefit to their country.

Fairyliz · 31/08/2025 16:42

IceLollyMolly · 31/08/2025 16:20

Are the many British immigrants to Ausralia, Singapore, Hong Kong, the UAE and Canada thinking about how they are taking jobs and resources away from locals and their talent away from the UK? They are all emigrating for a better life.

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But for all of those countries they will only let you in if you have very specific skills that they want. So the Brit gets a new life and the country gets the talent it wants. Is this unreasonable?

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