To think my friend is ungenerous in only buying herself a concert ticket?

I don't think she's being ungenerous not buying you a ticket as you mentioned that you stay with her once a year too - but I am curious as to why she wouldn't ask if you wanted to go with her! It's an obvious thing to do!

Sounds like you're just free accommodation. We go to gigs a lot in london and we live an hour away. While it's totally doable to get the train back there is always a chance it's not running, we miss the last train etc and it would also mean we can't go out after. For this reason we get a hotel and even the cheapest hotels are 150 a night easy. If she had to pay for that every time she went to a gig she would prob be going to a lot less gigs. It also sounds like she just uses you as a place to stay when she wants to come back to see her other friends from uni. I'm not really sure why you can't see that ...

You are being used. Cut her loose.

She could have asked you when she was getting the tickets, then you probably could have given her the money a bit at a time if you were short thats what friends do as people have said concerts are extortionate I didn't think you were expecting her to pay for you just to get you a ticket so you could go and pay for it though for 50 she should really let yiu have it anyway
Hard when people come to stay and dont or hardly contribute, just had visitors for nearly 3 weeks. Wouldn't mind but the amount of stuff they bought themselves for gifts. And when we had no cash and place we were eating was only taking cash they expected the money back they lent us. Just say to your friend next time she is booking tickets let you know so u can go too.

“Sorry friend - I’m Airbnb-ing my room so I can afford a concert ticket”

D'you know what I mean?!? Honestly, I can't imagine how some people function in society.

I was going to say YABU until I saw that she stays with you for this long each time! If she's going to expect you to put her up for a bloody week then yeah, she should treat you to a ticket for the gig as a thank you.

Exactly. Sounds like the poster is suggesting they both go separately to the gig without ever discussing it with each other. So they share an evening meal together, get up and go to separate rooms to get ready, walk out the door, op drives to the gig and friend gets the bus, see each other there and perhaps give one another a wave. Gig finishes they leave and make their separate ways back to OPs house.

A completely normal and human way to behave 😁And far easier than just saying "hey I was thinking of coming to (yours) in November because (band are playing). do you fancy it and if so can I stay with you for a few days?" * *

I swear some people are actually robots who don't understand human interaction/the context of things.
Yes, of course a gig is a public thing, but these two people have a history of going to them together. Given it's a shared interest, as you do acknowledge, do you not find it a little odd that the friend doesn't remember this history and think?, 'I wonder if Lois would like to go?'? Especially as she's actually staying with her?!

She's not socially awkward...just another user CF, using OPs home as a city crash pad.

Why not? Presumably the OP is letting her stay over for free.

It’s not that she isn’t paying, (which she should if it’s only 50 quid), it’s that she’s booking her own ticket without even asking you if you’d like to come along with her. If she doesn’t want your company, then why is she staying at your house?

When op visited her she paid for dinner out for both of them. Also, op is not staying with friend for seeing concerts, whereas friend is coming for concerts and staying with op.

It’s really weird to me that she hasn’t asked you if you want to go too.

She should invite you to come - as otherwise she's using you like a hotel. But I wouldnt expect her to pay for your ticket as they can be £££. But I'd expect her to bring a bottle of wine or similiar. I think if someone kept wanting to stay at mine and didnt include me - I'd have to let the room be unavailable as it feels a bit usery.

For me the key question is whether it's a band you would like to see?

Is it possible she thinks you're not interested and she just enjoys being with you while also seeing "her" music while at yours?

Gig tickets are so expensive at the moment, in my experience.

I really wouldn't expect a friend to pay for any event for me, in honesty.

Can you not save up and buy yourself one?

If a friend can afford thousands for tickets then she can afford to pay for a hotel. If my friend was finding finances a bit tight, I'd gladly pay for her ticket so that we could go to the gig together and as a thank you for providing me with accommodation for a week. She is being completely selfish imo.

She’s a friend you hardly see, of course she’d stay a while. You should have communicated with her better. She’s not at fault.

Really rude - can’t believe the cheek of some people

even a travelodge or premier inn is going to be, what £300-700 for 7 nights? Actually, probably more over the weekends. Plus the money saved by being able to store milk, etc in your fridge, even if she doesn't eat your food. Given all that a £50 ticket sounds pretty fair to me, but yeah, even if she wasn't going to pay for it, it's rude to not invite you at all.

Can't believe she came to your house last time and literally left to go out with other friends to a gig she knew you'd like to go to!

Personally having someone staying that long would be too much anyway so I'd say no regardless of the gig issue, but she does sound a bit tight.

The least she could have done is ask if you would like to go with her as you had already expressed an interest. She is using you as convenient accommodation. I would say something about it.

Oh, i never stay with her as she lives with her son.

What about this then.
I have a relative, stays with me two weeks .
No contribution to food only done that once in a few years .
Have to pick her up a 30 mile round trip , then the same back. No contribution to petrol.
I think the most she has spent in the two weeks was around £2 .
She is very well off too .

On her 70th , we went to London for the weekend.
She bought her train ticket and one meal…for herself .
I paid for the hotel ( travel lodge)
I also paid for theatre tickets for us both …twice .
Expensive ones as i cant do heights .
The last day we went for a walk and called in Macdonalds.
I paid for the food only on the assumption…wrongly she would give me the money , as so far she hadnt even bought me a coffee ‼️
What she did was ….say…i dont like the coffee in here , so i am walking to pret down the road.
Walked out and left me sitting there .

This is …my older sister !

Why don't you just ask her "why do you never invite me to concerts any more? We used to always go together."

It's the only way to find out.