Currently in Turkey, met a guy…

Are you seriously bored or something ?

The OP sounds utterly, utterly insufferable and really rather smug
what a ghastly individual.

What a pathetic 'reveal'

Quite frankly, you've proved the point a lot of people are making.

You did rush into the relationship, having a child (which I suspect was very high on your agenda ) , and are now smugly enjoying your new life.

The fact remains a huge percentage of relationships that start like yours end up being awful and devastating emotionally and financially for the woman involved, and it's highly disingenuous to accuse people of being racist for pointing this out.

I hope for your sakes that you defy the odds and you last the distance, but there is something quite unsettling over the need for you to start this 'gotcha' thread.

Friend of a friend spent a couple of years doing long distance with a Turkish guy she met on holiday, eventually moving there and only coming home every 3 months when her visas ran out, then immediately travelling back again to re-enter. He wasn't after a UK visa and when they got married they both lived in Turkey. At which point he expected her to stop work because she was now a wife, and her role became cooking, cleaning and keeping his Mother (who couldn't speak English) company. They divorced and she stayed there. She's since been divorced again from another Turkish man after he wouldn't pay for medical treatment when she had an ectopic pregnancy, and is on her 3rd relationship with a Turk. How the penny hasn't dropped I have no idea.

However, if you're just happy to wined and dined a bit and are happy with a holiday romance then go for it!! But have realistic expectations and open eyes. X

This doesn't make any sense.

Again - the only bit of info you have is (gasp) his nationality and that he's asked her out to dinner. The hysteria is real in this thread. He could be anything from indeed a conman, to a normal person wanting a fling, to (cringe) her soul mate (if this was a movie). But the certainty with which you're all convinced he's a conman literally basing it solely on his nationality, is a bit vomit inducing.

Ah just read your update! Im v happy for you O.P!!!!!
I was one of your supporters!

Jesus, haven’t you had your quota of attention yet?

Yes, this the red flag of troubles lurking, to surface in the years ahead.

Yes and it would have been full of positivity and not this haha got you all!

I would have liked to have heard how his family felt, the hurdles the OP had to go through, what the future holds, but now I'm not interested because I've been duped

Weridest thread I’ve read for long time.

posters will not back down op

For what it's worth I am from an ethnic minority and I am not white but was born & raised here. I still stand by what I posted last night in response to your original disingenuous post. A lot of these men target foreign women because they can't have sex with their own women until they are married. Plus, the prospects in their own countries aren't always good so they want to move abroad. A white foreign woman will provide that passport out.

Er, this.

I'm not sure how you can proclaim its all worked out for you when you'v only been together 3 years!!

You were with your ex husband for double that length of time and still ended up divorced.

I dont this is quite the "gotcha" you thought it would be......

I would also say that three years is nothing - wait until is more like 10 and until he gets his British Passport.

So you basically married someone you known for a few months and immediately had kids with him. Risky.

Was about to say go for dinner, then read your update!

Pleased it worked out for you. We have a number of Kurdish friends in the UK.

But IMHO not a good idea to be deceptive in posts. MN should be a trusting place.

Have only read your posts, but seems lots of people are prejudiced and closed-minded. IMHO it’s their loss. I wonder how they’d feel to hear people making assumptions about them due to misplaced tropes about their nationality or culture.

I don't think they've reached renewal yet. They might be in for a nasty shock when their residency and finances don't stack up. And now there's 2 kids... this is how women get stuck abroad. Very foolish.

That's a good point. An AMA might have been quite interesting!

To be fair, there are a lot of romance scammers, we've all read about them.
The OP did seem a bit naive, it was just people mostly urging caution.

He asked your mum and dad.....oh he's good at this, he really is.

Yeah, that's not accurate. Your spouse visa comes up for renewal every 2 and a half years-ish and you would not be able to renew if you had spent half that time abroad.

Right. You've answered my question. So his aunt paid for university, he works as an accountant remotely and you split your time between the UK and Turkey?
Is that right?

Well I really enjoyed your post and yes it is a good example of how things can work out, I don’t know why people seem angry about it.
It was good to read of a happy ending!

I find it quite deceitful actually.

Obviously posters would be reticent given the number of failed holiday romances.

OP you would have been better off with an AMA than this smug gotcha